I wouldn't know how to categorize myself and I don't know what to do! I have a girlfriend but she acts like a guy..dresses like one.. looks like one but I know I'm straight. It's her personality that makes attracts me. She doesn't like that she's a girl either. She has GID.. gender idenity disorder.. she has the body of a female and a mind of a male.. she grew up with the mentality of being male. It has been hard for her to accept this and now it's hard on me to accept this.. when I feel that it's wrong. I have grown up in a household where my parents are homophobics. I know there are many people in the world that think this is gross but I'm scared to continue with this relationship because of all the hate crimes and how people will react. THey may start to treat me with disrespect and it has taken me a while to accept that I am with a girl. Why can't other people too? I don't know what to do... my parents will never accept us.
It's as if it feels so wrong to be so happy.
2006-12-31 23:09:41 · 24 answers · asked by hi 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Firstly, please don't allow social pressure or anyone's religious enthusiasm to dictate what you do with your future. Only you should decide this.
When you love someone, you love them for who they are, faults, warts and all. In sickness and in health is one of those vows that does transcend its origins. Love is unconditional, though that can make it very very tough at times.
Forget the labels. Completely drop them. Because struggling to define your self label may blind you to the reality of whats in front of you as you may see it through the filters of said labelling (and your feelings about such labels)
Other people's feelings are not your responsibility. You cannot control other peoples feelings so you certainly should not give in to them. Only the person you love and yourself are important in this instance.
Step back and try and see this from the outside of you and her. Where does she want to go? What does she want to do next? Where do you see, feel and want your relationship to truly go? Does it match enough what she wants? Try to find out if there really is a future for the two of you-by the values you share, the things you have in common, and the feelings (as confused as they may be) you have for each other.
But please please ignore all the bigotry, sermons about what "God" "Jesus" or others think in the negative because none of that considers YOUR heart, your feelings and your right to be who you truly ARE!.
2007-01-01 05:26:41 · answer #1 · answered by karnautrahl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't consider incest to be "wrong" because its prevalent in nature, even among our closest genetic cousins (other great apes), but I would advice against it. Incest can destroy family structure especially following a break-up and there could be obvious complications during child birth such as birth defects. I once read a book that said that 1/10 people in all races and classes have participated in some form or another of incest. I highly doubt anyone in the world doesn't come from at least one ancestor who was born through incest.
2016-05-23 02:30:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its seems like you have an identity disorder as well. you dont know if your a homosexual or not. If its her personality that attracts you, why not find a male with that same interest? We're all human beings, right? So whats so different from a guy than a girl besides anatomy? I know some males who act feminine but I dont get emotionally attached to them. Maybe you like this person for all the wrong reasons. But whatever decision you make, dont let anyone discourage you about what you choose to do with your life. We all have to "test the waters" in some shape or form. If you dont see any bad signs in the relationship then go for it. Otherwise, life makes room for mistakes.
2006-12-31 23:29:08 · answer #3 · answered by hardworkur84 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
When you say that "you are with a girl" does that mean that you are a couple? Are you sleeping together and in love?
You can't help what you are feeling. If you are truly attracted to her and in love, then you will have to decide between telling your family the truth or lying to yourself and finding a "straight" relationship.
I am a straight, Dad of four and I would welcome my daughter no matter what her choices. Do what is right for you, the rest will work itself out!
Good luck!
2006-12-31 23:21:14 · answer #4 · answered by Rich 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Surround yourself with more accepting people. Don't waste your time on hateful people. They aren't worth it. Be with your partner and be happy. Life's too short to spend worrying about what others think.
2007-01-01 12:00:50 · answer #5 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I think Homosexuality is wrong. I don't know if you have Christian beliefs or not, however I believe that every word of the Bible was Divinely inspired by God through the Prophets who wrote and taught it.I'll refer you to these scriptures nevertheless
Lev.18:22-23 / Lev. 20:13 / Romans 1:25-27 / Gen.2:24 / 1st. Corin. 6:9 / 1st.Tim 1:9-10 .Hope that helps to clear up the confusion.
There will be those that say I'm judging people by stating this,however I didn't put it in the Bible, God did. I simply stating that I agree with it because I feel that it is commanded by God.Hey, what you do is your business,who am I to judge?.But there is a Judge in Heaven who will judge us according to our acts here on Earth.That, is not to say that your going to be dammed to Hell.Repent of your sins,ask God for guidance.He will help those who believe upon Him and do want to help themselves.God will never leave or forsake you (that is of course if you don't leave or forsake Him) There are always conditions to all of God's promises, some people overlook those.Good luck, sounds like you have some serious decisions to make.
2006-12-31 23:57:01 · answer #6 · answered by EveretteDavid 5 · 2⤊ 4⤋
If you feel like something is wrong then most likely it is. Being gay isn't a disorder, it's a choice that people make because they think it's the only way to deal with feelings that they find hard to manage. There is a better way than doing what feels wrong.
2006-12-31 23:21:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
You are too close to the forest. You can't see the forest for the trees.
If it feels good; it is good -- the mantra of hedonism.
The lamb in the trap is tasty, and the wolf thinks anything this tasty can't be bad -- until the trap springs shut.
2007-01-01 00:55:23 · answer #8 · answered by pshdsa 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know why most people see it that way, and that's because as living creatures, we are given a gender. Male or female. And with that, comes what a male or female body is supposed to have. Its obvious, a male body should attract to a female body - and vice versa. it's Only natural, and I agree this is how it SHOULD be. I mean, where else would a penis go? And what else could a Vagina and Uterus or Testicles be for?
The thing with homosexuality is that, its unnatural you know? Like, nature - god - evolution ... all of it didn't need it to exist. People freak out because its not a natural way of life and most importantly, REPRODUCTION. I see it like this: The body parts you are given are only meant for what they are made for.
2006-12-31 23:18:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 4⤋
Whatever you do, DONT end the relationship just because you feel like others wont "accept you". If you love her, then stay with her..it shouldnt matter what other people think.
2006-12-31 23:19:21 · answer #10 · answered by BlondBoy 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋