2006-12-31 22:51:39 · 43 answers · asked by Roy K 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
she's probably worn out with me
2006-12-31 22:53:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
talk about it and i dont mean argue, see where the problem lies. i spent the last 2 years in a relationship without sex, it did my head in but i thought if i was patient and understanding things would change. i'm only 32 and i couldnt go for a life without sex. there were other reasons but the relationship ended. you have my full sympathy but i would suggest you stop looking at it as "your Rights"
if she isnt prepared to give then tell her what you feel and if that is that you cant carry on without then say so.. if it means walking away or getting a mistress then tell her.
if you are 100% up front and honest then its not your fault should the realtionship end. if she chooses not to listen or at least make an effort when you have its her fault.
2006-12-31 23:46:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this a new thing? Has something tramatic happened recently? How is her health? Insist that she sees your family doctor and then perhaps counseling. I was raped when I was 11 years old until the age of 13 and I didn't begin dealing with it until a few years ago. Making love was okay at first in our marriage but then I felt obligated which drew me back to when I was being molested and not being able to stop it. Maybe her sexual drive is lower than yours and she feels that she will never satisfy you and has stopped trying.
My husband and I have worked it out to where we have quickies whenever he wants and when I wear a teddy to bed he knows I am in the mood for an all nighter. And he has finally learned to listen when I tell him I don't like something that he does. I hope things get better for you.
I also don't like to be pounced on as soon as I get in bed. Try spending special time outside of the bedroom and have foreplay without the sex for a little while. Maybe she is just stressing and feeling pressured.
2006-12-31 23:02:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Love her and respect her for a start and love her UNCONDITIONALLY and watch what happens. LAy off criticism and nastiness. If you show her love she will regain her respect for you which she clearly has lost since you dont show her the love that she needs. Tell her you love her and show her you love her. Court her again and dont sleep around because thats the biggest turn off to any wife. SOmeone has probably enlightened her about some indiscretion on your part. Become accountable and honorable towards her. MArriage isnt for sissies. MArriage is for people who are serious about one another. It is a commitment to be together through thick and thin.
Remember ther is his side, her side and then there is the TRUTH!!!!
I hope things come right for you.
2006-12-31 23:06:57 · answer #4 · answered by uniquechild 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read her the riot act! If she is denying you your conjugal rights you are fully entitled under law to have sex with someone else. That's in your marriage contract that she signed - go tell her check the small print!
2007-01-04 08:15:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you you on about CONJUGAL RIGHTS, I thought marriage was a partnership, so what bit said that you had rights.
Making love should be desired by both partners not DEMANDED by the husband as his RIGHT
2007-01-03 00:04:42 · answer #6 · answered by talula 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find out WHY?? resolve them,and by the way you dont have to have penetrative sex whilst this is a problem you know!! you can share to love/sex EACH OTHER if different ways,think of all the people in this world that has body deformities,and health problems!!! your lucky yerrr!!!! SO... FIND OUT WHY? AND WORK AT IT..you would work hard if you got paid 1million a hour wont you??, well sex/love is worth more than this....DO IT... RIGHT... Riky :-)
2007-01-01 00:24:00 · answer #7 · answered by rikyandnina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well how long has this been going on? is this constant? is she mad at you? or has this been from the beginning? if she is mad, she will eventually forgive, if it has been from the beginning, she might have a problem she doesnt want to talk about...ie has trouble getting aroused, was raped before marriage, etc. Suggest going to a therapist, even though sex is not the most important thing, a dispute over not getting it can slowly but surely ruin a marriage. Good luck.
2006-12-31 22:55:57 · answer #8 · answered by dreamzindigital_20 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So where exactly in the marriage vows does it say you have any conjugal rights?
Maybe she got a Rabbit for Christmas!!
2006-12-31 22:54:03 · answer #9 · answered by puffy 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Try to look at the past. Have you done anything wrong to her, hurt her feelings or she may have seen something or discovered which you may have hidden by now. The only solution is to talk to her and that too no argument. If you are wrong accept it and apologies.
2006-12-31 22:59:01 · answer #10 · answered by Tony 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ask her if she thinks that your children are going to think later in life about this and what is best for your children putting aside you and your wife in the best interest of your children they want to be with both parents not at the same time but they are your children they will be angry with the mother for keeping them from you its a fact
2006-12-31 23:03:59 · answer #11 · answered by michaelrey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋