This is the logic of my astranged husband, he can't be an adultrer if your seperated. I beleive the opposite. I have had one sexual partner, HIM.
I have been seperated from my husband for two years, during this time we have been on again off again. On until I find out that there is another woman, we're off, We're on, and another woman, he calls them 6 plus times a day, sneaks around, lies, says that they are just good friends, Only I say absolutely NOT, you cannot have woman friends that you confide in to the point of sneaking, and lying about it to your wife, I said get rid of them or me. He says, they accept him for who he is.... I don't, I don't like the lies, and in fact he has has intercourse with them, and God help me, me too.
He actually said I had my chance, and blew it.
2006-12-31 22:24:37 · 15 answers · asked by BROKENANDUSED 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Seems all his thinking is done with his "little" head....get tested for STD's and loose the looser.
2006-12-31 22:31:19 · answer #1 · answered by OleMarbleEyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
uhhh....had your chance in his circus ring maybe.
If you are married and separated, divorce in works..well there is no adultery involved. You are not responsible for SO acquired debts after filing has started, they are not responsible for adultery-well, dating and relationships.
You went back too many times. Thats where you messed up. You two obviously think differently on your ideas...just get the divorce and end this cycle. He needs a constant flow of a variety of attention. You cant do it alone. You cant do it at all.
You comment on your exs logic. Sorry hun..yours is just as bad....2 years of that pattern is MORE than enough time to see a make or break in the marriage. Quit trying to change his thought process, save yourself, get the logic to end it already.
2007-01-01 07:01:37 · answer #2 · answered by dianek 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You had your chance and blew it! Grrrrr. I think it is truthfully over. You have to learn when to call it quits for your own sanity. Separated means you are able to do as you see fit. It is nice if both are true, which is not a realistic view. However, it has been known to happen with couples that are truthfully sincere about trying to get back with one another. You will do as you see fit. Personally it isn`t my life. I however would read the first line and be raring to be the one with the last laugh, and give it right back to him. With his own words. You had your chance, MORE than once, and Man Did you blow it! Good Luck!
2007-01-01 07:34:19 · answer #3 · answered by Starr H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In a perfect world,the two people should wait til the ink is dry on the divorce decree. But, Let's face it when two people separate they decide to break the union(even if temporarily) and go their own ways. What happens when they separate is their choice to make, right or wrong is not an easy call! I would protect myself in all ways(sexually!) and try to stand back and reason on what is really pros and cons in this marriage.Seek a therapist for yourself and it will help you!
2007-01-01 06:56:31 · answer #4 · answered by LVforever 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am legally separated and have a boyfriend, the only reason i am not divorced is because i have to be away from my estranged for 4 of the last 5 years so i do not feel it is wrong at all. you need to get rid of this guy asap because he just seems like a promiscous so and so who has no respect for himself or most importantly you!!!
2007-01-01 06:47:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you care. Its been two years away.
You really did not plan on celibacy did you?
You did have your chance the reply was no.
Yes I know you are still married but to think he was not going to try the market was naive.
Ask for calling him a liar, well its more of the same from you, the same reason he left.
2007-01-01 07:53:11 · answer #6 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Walk away. I have a similiar problem with my wife. Only, we're not even seperated. She says she's open minded. I say it's an excuse to do whatever she feels like. If your seperated, then your seperated.
2007-01-01 06:44:28 · answer #7 · answered by krzylove 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband needs to educate himself. If you are seperated you are still married and therefore no matter what he thinks he is committing adultry. He along with others must have this new generation dictionary!
2007-01-01 17:08:10 · answer #8 · answered by nickle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I never understood the separation thing. You're still married. You're either going to work it out and be faithful or end it.
2007-01-01 06:28:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Separated is not the same as divorced; you should wait until you are divorced. Don't risk your health by having sex with him if he is fooling around; get yourself tested for various STDs, HIV/AIDS.
2007-01-01 06:36:34 · answer #10 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋