My husband and I have been dating since I was 17 (I'm not 22) and we just celebrated out 2 year anniversary (Dec. 30). I want a baby but he does not want kids. What would you do if the man you loved more then anything didn't want kids?
2006-12-31 21:51:26 · 6 answers · asked by dohm84 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I meant to say, I'm NOW 22
2006-12-31 21:53:12 · update #1
I know why he does not want kids. And I agree with him on the issue. I just feel it’s irrelevant to our relationship.
I'm not going to leave him; I guess I'm just looking for people who are in the same boat as me. I also want to see that I’m not stupid for giving up a dream of having a family for someone I love. It’s nice to see people give real answers and not just write "Divorce him" .... Cuz I could never leave him. We have WAY to good of a relationship. I don't think they are easy to find anymore....why would I give one up?
2006-12-31 22:00:49 · update #2
I've known from day 1 that he didn't want kids....
2006-12-31 22:02:21 · update #3
Thanks dreamofcountryfreedom...
I don't want a baby right now, I guess I just want to know that one day I'll have one. It makes me sad everytime I see a friend have a baby. My sister just became preg with her first baby and I cant help but feel a little sad that I'll never get to have that feeling of excitment and love.
The best part of being with my husband is the fact that we don't fight...we have never yelled at one another in our hole time togeather. That is why he is such a keeper :) I got lucky with him! I love him so much and can beginne to explace what he means to me. That is what makes it harder, I want a family with him, I want to see him hold "Our" baby and I want nothing more then to be a mother to "His" child. But he means more then anything to me. I also get scared if something happend to him I would be alone and have nothing left of him...and the same with him if something ever happens to me.
2006-12-31 22:09:24 · update #4
Just understand that having kids is a huuuuge responsibility...he is probably not ready for that yet...plus you guys just need to spend as much time in the first 7 yrs of marriage getting to know each other even better...I know...I speak from experience. I'm greatful that it took us 7 years to have the 1st baby. We took him home with us on our 7 year anniversary. Even though my mind and soul ached for a baby, it was best for us. Just give you and your hubby some time to adjust to life before having children. The old saying is true that it takes 2-7 years of marriage to work out the bumps in the road. After that, you find out that you get along better and not as many fights...that's what most young couples go through. Add a kid to the picture and life for a young couple gets harder.
2006-12-31 22:03:32 · answer #1 · answered by dreamofcountryfreedom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Discuss his reasons first. He may not want kids now, he may change his mind. That's more usual when people are young.
Or, he may have very firm reasons and is sure he will never change his mind. In that case, flip a coin: heads you stay, tails you leave. It's not that you should let the coin make your choice, it's that while it's up in the air, you'll know which way you want it to land.
Personally, I'd stick it out until you're 25-27. By then, you'll learn if he really means it, and you'll also have time to find someone else if you want kids and he doesn't.
2007-01-01 05:56:15 · answer #2 · answered by Katherine W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I sit and talk to him does he not want kids ever or just right now. If its just right now then i wouldnt worry your still young and its better to be more stable when you have children. If its ever then you need to ask yourself can you be happy and content in life without being a parent. If after you think long and hard at it the anserw is no then tell him. if he loves you he might rethink his stance or let you go so you can find someone who will love you and want to have children.
2007-01-01 05:57:34 · answer #3 · answered by d2347 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd THANK him. The last thing I need is to be a mother. Wait a minute — I have a husband in this situation? What the hell happened to me?
2007-01-01 05:55:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd be REALLY surprised! Because if I have been with someone that long, I would've known how he felt about that once we really started getting serious.
2007-01-01 05:59:40 · answer #5 · answered by Tweet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I loved him, I'd get over it. Also, did you know that kids are the number one marriage wrecker?
2007-01-01 05:55:18 · answer #6 · answered by littlechrismary 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋