sort our lives its got to come to it i feel its no good bowing down to him any more ive got to try to make himsee how miserable hes makingme and our kids
2006-12-31 21:30:12 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Call a woman's shelter and get away.
http://www.safe4all.org/help/
2006-12-31 21:32:53 · answer #1 · answered by ThatLady 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I think I can give you solution.First of all, to show that you feel miserable you do not have to bow down before him ,you can show that by acting a little bossy ,mind you, just acting and just make him get a feeling that you are going to give him a divorce he might understand and you will get him back as you want.Try It might work out.Getting away from him will not work because he can still be behind you.Starting a life all over again is also difficult because he can still tell that you belong to him.You can just act a leaving the house.But the best solution is just speak it with him ,he might have something bothering him solve it and you can become a happy family.
2006-12-31 21:41:37 · answer #2 · answered by Penchu 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Kimmy...leave him....be happy...don't allow him to control you any more...once you have took that step then your life will be on the up, if you stay with him then it will continue an you will be feeling just like you do now...unless you can sort it out with him, i suggest he leaves or you do....let 2007 be a new start for you...if you are in a miserable relationship where kids are involved then the first priority is to change it so your daughters have a happy and fulfilling life...
2007-01-01 01:40:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to clear your mind. Bring the issue to an end as peacefully as possible tonite. Get some rest. When you are well rested, and not as emotional, get out of this. First of all, you cant "make him see" anything.
What is it you are scared of him doing? What is his history on any manic behavior?
What you do is figure out a place to stay. Next, get a restraining order for you and the children. They are very easy to get and you can probably get him to leave the home.
If you are scared right now, if he is in rage, angry..whatever...call police. Just remember, try to stay calm.
What is his medical condition, if you dont mind? Any meds he is on? If I know, I probably get a better idea on him.
2006-12-31 21:51:15 · answer #4 · answered by dianek 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm..you need to read the answers to your previous question and take some advice from people, who are telling you to call the police, if you feel threatened, or unsafe....Call a family member who can help you get out fo the house, if you don't call the police..or just take the kids, after he's asleep, and LEAVE!!
His controlling ways can't hurt you if you leave that house, now! If you stay, he's going to continue doing what he's doing, and there is no stopping someone like him....
Girl...just leave!
2006-12-31 21:35:53 · answer #5 · answered by argamedius 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he is abusing you and you are scared why are you sitting here staring at the computer scren? Go somehwere and get help! aybe you should live with someone you know for a while and see if he gets better. If he doesn't, I think it's time to move on. That's what I would do If my husband was abusing me and my daughter. But he is a policeman so i don't think i have to worry about it too much. Maybe he was drinking to much and doesn't know what hes doing. Go to someones house with you daughters and call him but do't let him know where your at. Maybe he needs to b y his self or about a oth or so to cool down. But you shoud get help or go somewhere soon!
2007-01-01 15:52:06 · answer #6 · answered by pink panther 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out now - or at least the next time he's out of the house. Pack a bag, take the kids & go to a friend's house. Make arrangements from there to go to a shelter. Don't leave a note, he doesn't deserve one. Good luck.
2006-12-31 22:35:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
As i said before i have a friend in a similar situation,she phoned me on xmas day to say her bloke has been upstairs since xmas eve,he didnt even go downstairs to see his own daughter open her presents.
When my friend and the kids were downstairs playing games he was sat upstairs and refused to go downstairs.
I told her he's trying to ruin their xmas,he didnt even have his xmas dinner with them.
He is always like this and i have told her many times to get rid of him but he has her right where he wants her and always uses guilt to worm his way back in.
You need to get rid of this bloke or he will ruin yours and your childrens lives,if your afraid of him then thats a sure sign that this is doomed.
Be strong and stand firm and do whats best for you and your children.
Good luck
2006-12-31 22:09:03 · answer #8 · answered by freerange00720002000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok have read all your questions this is my advice though may seem odd
a1 ok this guy the meaning curtisy ok he has medical problems but that does give him an excuse in one case there is this disabled guy who lives in or near solihull he is also a husband to a person who owns a jewelry shop anyway he is ok with her i think but with everyone else he is right tosser to everyone else
a2 this is more serious you need to sort things out NOW first find a hotel make sure they are safe then find some autharitive help to deal with your husband
2007-01-01 04:27:03 · answer #9 · answered by matt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are miserable! get out now. You dont specify what exactly he is doing but it sure sounds dodgy. In order to bring up your daughters with sound mind and to protect their health and well being as well as your own sanity you know what you have to do. Just listen to your instinct. Hope it all works out ok for you.
2006-12-31 21:37:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No one should have to live in fear.
As I do not know your circumstances I would be wrong to give too specific advice.
But, YES, you DO need to do something.
Do not be frightened to seek help:-
CAB, Relate, maybe a local minister (The Salvation Army officers are likely to be a husband and wife team who will offer loving, unconditional support)
2006-12-31 21:34:12 · answer #11 · answered by alan h 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋