My girlfriend and I are both virgins, and both ready to have sex. Yet, everytime we attempt to have sex it just goes wrong! The first time I didn't know where to put it once foreplay had finished. And the last time, she was on her period, and it didn't really work as there was blood everywhere. What should I do as my self-confidence has almost eroded? Should I just give up trying!
2006-12-31 21:25:18 · 6 answers · asked by ralf_ny65rj 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
When are you ready for sex?
There is no absolute right age to start having sex. What matters is whether it is the right time for you. It also depends on what you mean by 'having sex'. There are many ways in which you can give and receive sexual pleasure without having sexual intercourse.
Giving each other massages, kissing and hugging can be very passionate. It's a way of sharing and showing love. For some people these activities can be more fulfilling than sexual intercourse.
You get pressure from people talking about sex. You think, 'I've got to go and see what it's like'. It's hard, but you've got to resist and do what you want.
It's very important not to feel pressurised into having sex when you don't really want to. Just because your friends say they are 'doing it' doesn't mean they are.
Thinking through all the implications of having sex can be a useful way of helping you arrive at a decision. There are lots of reasons why people don't want to have sex. You may feel that you are not ready emotionally. Being pushed into having sex could mean you regret it later on. Some people have quite strong religious or cultural beliefs. Others just want to wait.
Some people call this decision to wait 'abstinence'. The decision to abstain from having sex can be either a long-term decision or a short-term one. Some people decide that they do not want to start having sex until they are married or in a significant long-term relationship. Other people may decide that having sex isn't the right thing for them at this particular time. Later on they may meet a person who they want and feel ready to have sex with. The decision whether to have sex or not is an important one. You should do what is right for you. It should be an informed decision, and not one based on fear or pressure from others.
But when a boy and girl do decide they want to have sexual intercourse, they should think about using a contraceptive unless they want to become parents. Gay men should also think about using condoms. Condoms can help stop infections like HIV as well as reducing the risk of getting pregnant.
If you're thinking about having sex, why not read our ten question checklist to help you decide if you're ready?
2006-12-31 23:32:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-06 07:01:44 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really want us to believe that you will give up on s*x just because you failed to do so in the first few attempts ?? Get over it man, and if you donno where to place what, you better forget having s*x. This is called defloration !!
2006-12-31 21:31:34 · answer #3 · answered by dexter_theboygenius 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just see it as fun between the two of you. Don't give up.
2006-12-31 21:31:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you?? If your as young as I think you are your best off waiting untill your married. After forplay, you have to put your junk in her genital. Finger her untill you find the hole.
2006-12-31 21:32:35 · answer #5 · answered by audrey 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no sir! watch porn to see how its done then recommend the same 2 her. are u sure it wasnt hr cherry popping
sorry for crude language
2006-12-31 21:31:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋