Does it make you wonder why, and what you could do to get them to like you?
2006-12-31 21:12:04 · 19 answers · asked by Jay S 5 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Well, if someone doesn't like me and treats me badly, it does bother me, I mean such attitudes can really suck the fun out of me and even other people around me.
If the person doesn't show this, it's okay, as long as I am still aware of it :) Sometimes I happen to like people who dislike me, that really is kind of bothering. :) but it is still better if they don't show it.
2006-12-31 22:20:53 · answer #1 · answered by Psychosis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, but try this post I made and they will wonder why you don't like them and you can tell them. LOL
Yeh. Meds are good until we gain more social skills. Emotional Intelligence books push you right along. They cover a lot of topics and the information is so good for everything, that they are a must read anyway. Study intuition also.
Low self worth and arrogance are either ends of the same stick. Thinking too much about our selves. Thinking of our self is self consciousness. We can't focus on our self and what we're doing at the same time so we're awkward and miss what is going on around us. We need to be somewhat aware of people and what they're doing. Most people monitor other people to some extent, not judging, not using judging words, but desciptive, objective ones and picking up on verbal and non-verbal signals and storing the information. I always look at least twice at an intersection. People are worth that much.
So, how does that all work together. Emotional intelligence give you an idea where people are coming from and a better understanding of your emotions as well. Understanding your emotions means you're not so subject to them. Intuition gives you subtle signals from people to give you grace in a social situation and creative thinking about social situations, like a people artist. The intuition is objective and not subective so we can look at things objectively instead of being so subjective.
Feelings cloud thinking so understanding that they are only energy and support what you're thinking about. If you think about something positive your emotions will come over to that, when they know that that is where you are going to stay and/or you expect them to come over. They seem to obey quite well and do what you expect without needing more bidding, especially if you stand your ground. LOL Likewise, if you think negative thoughts the same energy will go there. The subjective mind is negative so people almost always have to think only about intuitive thoughts and using them. This kind or thinking causes no problems except that we have to observe things outside our thoughts also.
Objective, right brain, intuitive thoughts are positive, calm and 'knowing'. It's hard to explain, but not that hard to do.
And finally, to take your thoughts off yourself, monitor your intuitive thoughts and make descriptive observations and you will be way ahead of everyone, as only half of people know how to think right. When they learn they will be no threat, as they will be happy and friendly as you will be. And oh, yes, stay away from negative people. Don't despair, you got three books in this one message so you're mostly done. Do the whole thing and you will be over confident and too happy, but that's another problem. Isn't life like that?
I would really like to see if this works for you as it has for me and to discuss experiences. I have a new Yahoo Group and no subscibers so you could help me get started. Also I really have an interest in this subject. It's at:
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Emotionalintell/?yguid=293593604
2007-01-01 05:16:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
not any more. it used to. however, i've realized that i cannot make anyone do or say something that i want so i don't bother. there would be other things in my mind than to spend time thinking about why someone doesn't like me.
2007-01-01 05:20:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, of course, because for me, I wanted to make sure that the people I meet each day would some how like me, for example, when you looking at your photo with your classmates ,who is the first person you intend to see… I guess you … because, that is how we are curious about ourselves.
, and what you could do to get them to like you? You can not please everybody, just be yourself.
2007-01-01 07:21:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all as long as they stay out of my way and do not start making their feelings about me common knowledge.
Humans are such that not everyone can get along with everyone - I will not question others opinions.
2007-01-01 05:30:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummmmm.... no. I know my shortcomings and my assets and i don't care if people don't value me. I may hav lots of bad qualities in me, but at the end of the day, i'm with myself and i know that despite everything, i m a good human being and that allows me to keep going.
2007-01-01 05:24:13 · answer #6 · answered by nauts 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes..as I do wonder what I did that made them dislike me-an continue to dislike me. I never wonder what I can do to "make" them like me though.
F*** em.
M
2007-01-01 05:17:02 · answer #7 · answered by maamu 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One can not worry what others are thinking or what they like or not like.
Everyone is not going to like everyone, just the way it is. Why make a effort to make others like you...
2007-01-01 05:18:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I try to find out the reason why he doesn't like me. And then try to make change in that behavior to make him happy.
2007-01-01 05:27:06 · answer #9 · answered by BHALCHANDRA R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It bothers me when they like me.
2007-01-01 10:43:35 · answer #10 · answered by Masquerade Midnight 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋