i recently went through a REALLY anti social period and just stopped talking to everyone but my parents and 2 closest friends. i was just frustrated with people in general and started keeping to myself. i was like that for a good three years and now i'm comming out of my funk and i want to interact with the world again. the problem is that i've been out of it for soo long that i almost forget how to be social, and i'm overly contious of my behavior all the time. i feel uncofortable talking to others and it's difficult for me to conect with people. i get nervouse somtimes because i'm afraid people will sense that i'm not good at talking.
it's kind of a weird problem but i would appreciate any advice.
2006-12-31 20:57:34 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Other - Social Science
OK what you need to do is when some one talks to you give them a nice greeting such as oh i am fine how are you? i like your top:) and don't worry about what other people think of you that is the biggest thing you must always remember, if they don't like you for who you are who are you to like them?and when meeting some one for the first time remember you have the power on weather you will even ever talk to them again. well good luck and at least try it you will feel better quick :)
2006-12-31 21:09:16 · answer #1 · answered by psycho_rhonda 4 · 8⤊ 2⤋
That must feel very uncomfortable.
The more you start talking to people, the more comfortable you will become socialising again.
Practise makes perfect! It really is true.
Also try working on your self esteem. Listen to what you say to yourself. Do you put yourself down or say negative things about yourself? Listen to that internal voice that we all have. It can be very easy to have a negative internal voice and not even realise it. Be nice to yourself!
Also another way to work on your self esteem is to do an honest check list on yourself. Ask yourself these questions and write them down:
1. What am I good at?
2. What good qualities do I have?
3. What do I love to do?
Learn to really like yourself - it will get you places! We cant expect others to like us if we dont like ourself! People pick up on your confidence and sometimes treat you differently.
When i was younger and a lot less confident I learnt to smile. I realised that I actually had a facial expression that wasnt the friendliest. Sometimes people would ask me what is wrong when there wasnt anything wrong. I just had a not so happy facial expression. I learnt to smile. It became a habit and now I do it a lot (and my facial expression has changed over time to look happier!) A smile really puts people at ease and you will find talking to them easier.
I pray that you go ahead and meet some really nice people and that you find talking to others easier and easier as each day passes.
All the best
2007-01-01 05:30:52 · answer #2 · answered by Nic 5 · 8⤊ 2⤋
I never really went through an anti social period, but I had a period where I just felt really uncomfortable being around & especially talking to anyone besides my parents, my husband & my 2 daughters. I felt so nervous & I couldn't think of anything to say that didn't sound stupid. I would have like panic attacks when I would have to be around people. I wanted to talk to people, I just would get so nervous I couldn't. What Helped me was to kind of practice what I could say to people, & what I could say to certian questions they might ask me. I got myself ready for it. When it would go well talking to someone, it built my confidence & it would help me to relax & that made it so much less scary. After that it just got easier every time, now I sometimes talk too much. Just try to have some things ready to say & have some answers ready if you know what someone might ask you about. Then just try to relax & you wont feel like you have to try so hard that you make other people uncomfortable too. It will get easier every time, you'll see. I hope this helps a little maybe. Good luck!!!
2007-01-01 05:22:40 · answer #3 · answered by Sherrie L 5 · 8⤊ 2⤋
Start socializing with people who are nice and friendly to everyone. When you feel like you are comfortable talking to them, start interacting with other people who you would normally feel uncomfortable talking to. That way you'll get used to talking to different people.
2007-01-01 05:15:00 · answer #4 · answered by . 1 · 8⤊ 2⤋
start out with just one friend then increase numbers as you get more confidence.
you just have to relearn communication - it can be done.
2007-01-01 07:09:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 10⤋