it seems so easy to tell the world i am a transsexual
yet it is still so hard to tell someone you see every day
i am not afaid of what i am or who i am
yet i fear being out cast for it
i am hopefully going to transition at work in a few weeks
something my boss does not mind
yet i fear what others that work there may think
or do
2006-12-31 20:22:26 · 5 answers · asked by Zara3 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
superficial people or not
i see these people every day
more then my friends
depending they have to trust me for a lot of things
yet i have been lieing about who i am to them for ages
the real me has come to light out side of work yet at work i act in a way that is purely male
2006-12-31 20:33:49 · update #1
You're the only one that has to live inside your body 24-7, hun...you need not answer to ANYBODY about this. If you're "outcast", then you know what? Answer this...why would you want superficial friends like that hanging around? YOU do what makes YOU happy, not anyone else.
2006-12-31 20:25:14 · answer #1 · answered by Detroit Diva 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
You kind of answered your own question... what you said is exactly why it's harder to tell the people you know than strangers. Who cares what a stranger thinks. Also, most strangers never met you as a man first so there's no disconnect between what you looked like before and how you're presenting yourself now. There's more at stake when it's someone you know.
I really don't know what to tell you about work, hon. So many things factor into how things could go. But to tell you the truth... any trans people who I've met before they started dressing full time as their true gender expression... I could tell that they weren't being themselves. So you've probably sent messages to your co-workers without even meaning to. It might not be as much of a shock to them as you think.
You might want to talk with your boss about the best way to handle this. You're probably unfortunately going to have to become the educator for a while, too. Maybe doing a little passing out literature or something with common myths and facts about transgender stuff.
I'm sorry I don't have better answers for you. It's a tough situation no matter how you go about it. Good luck hon. You're in my thoughts.
2007-01-01 05:22:56 · answer #2 · answered by Jen 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I have a recently TG friend (about two years ago) who, in an effort to prepare her co-workers for the change, was able to address the company as a whole in a brief talk with a question and answer period following. She was nervous as all get out going into it, but afterwards there were no odd looks, whispering in the hallways, etc.
Her boss is very supportive and she is very happy now.
I assume that you were already post surgery when you were hired...so is there really a need for your co-workers to "be in on the big secret"? Can't you simply be who you are now? A clean slate and all?
If you feel you must let your coworkers know, talk to your boss and see if there's a way to address everyone in a formal environment.
2007-01-01 16:58:54 · answer #3 · answered by E_Tard 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Zara-lee you have to let go of the past
and the pride that is a male ego if you are to go on
you know what you are letting go
being your self is more important
transition can be hard enough with support
and even harder without it go forwards not backward
the next time you work just be your self explain who you are
and move forwards
ps i just read your 360 page / blog sorry you had a bad night but this advise is for that as well move forward you know you can
2007-01-01 04:54:56 · answer #4 · answered by tgirl 969 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why did you decide to do this if you fear being judged?
2007-01-01 04:24:28 · answer #5 · answered by *Benny B* 4 · 0⤊ 5⤋