hi all , i got friends telling me that in order to keep my job i should kiss *** of my boss is that true?

Question

i got this high profile job two weeks ago only to find out that i took a job in a place full of conspiracies and peoble who want to get each other by using me as an excuse , (i am an expatriate by the way) i do not beilive in kissing asses to keep a job (no offence to *** kissers) i am realy confused should i quit or should i just be who iam and let things just happen what ever is the outcome?

Answer 1

Wow! Do you work in my office??? Just kidding. Frankly, no matter where you go or where you work, you will always find lousy people, whether they be bosses or whether they be fellow co-workers.

Do you kiss *** or do you not kiss ***??? I think there is a middle ground. True sycophants (*** kissers) say what the boss wants to hear and nothing but even when the boss is clearly wrong. If you say something that is true and the boss gives you grief over it, then, yes, you don't want to work there.

That being said, if you want to have a permanent position and security, to some extent, you have to learn how to get along with people. The boss and other supervisors expect some measure of respect. They've been at that job for some period of time and know their way around presumably. As such, they do deserve some respect. That doesn't mean you can't say what you feel, but you ought to do it in such a way that shows respect. For instance, if your boss is about to make some sort of big mistake, ask him that you thought that you were supposed to do something the other way, but you are just clarifying it with him or her. If your boss comes to you saying you made a mistake, think, first of all, as to whether you actually made a mistake. If you have, acknowledge it. Not all of us are perfect and so we make mistakes sometimes. If you make one, you won't be the first person in that office to make such a mistake. A good boss will understand that. Some don't. Maybe you don't want to work for that sort of boss. A lot of bosses put up with a lot of crap. My advice is that you ought to be loyal to your boss and not to say anything bad against him or any other workers. If you do your job well, a good boss will see that.

Here is the thing. Don't kiss the asses of your fellow employees, but be kind and respectful. Everyone deserves kindness and respect. Why? Well, we are all sinners, but we are all God's children. Or one could just say it is self-preservation. Do on to others as you would have them do onto you. Why? Because if you are kind to them, chances are they will be kind back. It's not just a religious thing that Jesus made up. It actually works to your advantage in the real world. I can attest to it. I've tried it. It works really well. The best results are seen over time.

In American culture, we are taught that we have to be witty and put other people down. We are taught that we have to be the ones who get all the respect and if we don't get it, we have to tell the other person exactly what we think of him. Good comeback lines are classic. They work in movies and books and tv shows. They make us laugh and feel good. We cheer for the hero that puts someone down.

That doesn't work in real life. What the movies, etc., don't show us is how the other person feels after he's been put down. What also isn't shown are the consequences to the person who made the put down and the hurt that the other person feels. How does it affect the person's career. A person with a quick wit may soon find himself out of a job if he isn't careful (or maybe even with a lawsuit). American culture is wrong about people who put down others. It hurts both people.

Reality is that you have to get along with people. If you don't, you'll find yourself in a world of hurt and ultimately on the unemployment line. You know, I guy like Donald Trump doesn't have to kiss ***. He inherited all his money and people kiss his ***. Guys like you and me don't have to either, but we have to learn when to keep our mouths shut and when to show basic human respect even to the worst people.

If you change jobs, you'll just find another place that has these problems. If you stay long enough, you'll find that some of the lousy people will leave, because the lousy people will always find the negativity around them and think that the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence. It's not. The grass is either green or its not depending on what's inside your head.

Answer 2

Yes, it is a bad idea. So, when you go to apply for your next job and list your previous employment, what if the owner of the new place knows and is friends with your old boss? What if you get a new job and really love it and suddenly your old boss buys the place and becomes your boss again? Burning bridges after you have crossed is often followed by regret.

Answer 3

Well, it depends....are you happy where you're working? if it's a job that you enjoy doing, then, by all means, be yourself. It'll be the business's loss if you get fired for not kissing their butts!
Don't give into that 'brown-nosing' issues, where everyone's trying to be the 'favorite' under their boss!! Any boss who expects that from his/her employees, don't deserve hard working individuals who are willing to share their knowledge, skills and time, to better their company!
Just remember, if you're not happy where you're at, then every day you work will seem like forever to end!
Don't listen to anyone else! Just do what you gotta do, in the work place, by doing your job, and let your co-workers know, right away, that you're not there to gain 'brownie points' for being the boss's favorite, nor are you there to be used as some guinea pig, who runs around for everyone else, making them look good!
You were hired for your skills, not to benefit the boss, or the employees, with their silly games!

Answer 4

Unfortunate as it is, a little asss kissing is needed to get what you want sometimes. You may think its a good idea to 'just be yourself' now, but in the long run, you lose because you dont have the good job.
Like it or not, you depend on people with more power, and you need to make compromises with yourself sometimes(not too big of course).

Answer 5

You need to be yourself and see how it goes or else you will go crazy! What's the point of having a job you hate, money isn't that important and if you are in a high profile job chances are you will find it easy to find another job if necessary.

Answer 6

be true to yourself, at all costs. nobody likes an *** kisser. i don't kiss *** for anything or anybody...but then i am much older than you are, and have learned some pretty hard lessons along the way. good luck on your job.

Answer 7

You answered your own question... You do not believe in it...

I can tell you it is the world in which we all live... draw your own line.

Until, your a billionaire you will play along or get along...

Answer 8

Be your self...make decision... and don't regret it...
I rather use force for money than to kiss for money.

Answer 9

Yes, If you have no skills and are underpaid according to the rest of your colleagues.

Answer 10

Kissing ***, no. But never bites the hand that feeds you