me and Laura have decided that we would like to have our kids by the time she is 25, this will make me 26, we are both under 20 and I am wondering what peoples thoughts are as to getting married before having kids and if so how long should the time gap be between marriage and kids?? we have no issues financially so just looking for some advice please
thanks
Mitch
2006-12-31 19:43:11 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
or do we even have to be married before we have kids?
2006-12-31 19:44:08 · update #1
Laura's sister and her partner aren't married, they are in there early-mid 20's and have 2 beautiful kids, so that shows that you dont have to be married, I'm just seeing what everyone thinks thats all.
2006-12-31 19:49:50 · update #2
People always have different opinions on the "right" age, if you guys have been together for a while and out of college or are done with the education you and her wanted and have started your careers with a little saved up, then it is time to get married because you got everything threw with to start a good life together, then I would wait a couple years from then to make sure you both have a stable marriage/relationship to even have the kid enter to and if you both feel responsible and ready for a kid
2006-12-31 19:51:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no real good age to be married/have kids. Just whenever the two of you are financially/emotionally/responsibly ready to care for children. You may want to be married first and you may want to travel or do things you can't really do if you had a child.
The first year of marriage for my and my husband was kind of hard. (We've been together since senior year of high schoool - 6 years going on 7, and have been married for almost 1 1/2 years now.) We don't have any kids yet but want some soon, we're just not ready to give up some of our freedoms quite yet (I'm 24 and he's 25). Plus we live away from our families, so if we ever need a sitter, we'd be stuck.
Good luck to you both! =)
2006-12-31 19:50:21 · answer #2 · answered by julieanthony469 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no time frame for marriage. You should get married when you feel that you want to. If its at 25 great if earlier or later not a problem either. As to having kids, I personally believe after marriage because the responsibility of a commitment tends to make you more stable (for most people) and that's a good environment to raise kids.
2006-12-31 20:41:46 · answer #3 · answered by Michael K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good question. I say be sure you live together for a year before you get married. As long as you do that to know that you can stand each other day by day and that you still love each other, get married and have kids young! The younger the eggs and sperm, the healthier the child!
2006-12-31 19:46:52 · answer #4 · answered by John 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got married not even a month after the 18th birthday. I have been married for 3 years and have a 8 month old child.
`Most people say when you are financially stable
`Some think age is a big issue.
I believe when you are mentally ready
2006-12-31 19:48:47 · answer #5 · answered by lovethyloverlovesthlovethee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been given married on an identical time as i became pregnant with my first toddler. i became 19. I now have 2 toddlers (quickly to be 3) who all have the comparable father and too whom i'm nevertheless fortunately married. I had my 2d toddler whilst i became 22 and that i'm now pregnant with my third toddler due in October. i'm now 26. i think of after this one i would be completed with having toddlers. Lol. additionally it relatively is beneficial to have toddlers in the past you're 35... it is a sprint overdue and can have an consequence on your toddler's wellness. additionally don't have toddlers to early the two... i might say after 20 yet in the past 30.
2016-11-25 19:40:35 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be best to get married before children but it is not mandatory. As long as you can be a caring and loving father then do as you will. Good luck to ya and congratulations on finding a woman you want to grow old with. Those are pretty rare these days.
2006-12-31 19:51:25 · answer #7 · answered by blakefabian2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I waited until after we done and seen everything we wanted to, We enjoyed each other as a couple first, some people/couples take longer then others, you'll know when the time comes when you want an additional member to your family, Best wishes
2006-12-31 19:49:30 · answer #8 · answered by Diana J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would agree with the age 25 and this is the time to consider children too.
2006-12-31 19:56:39 · answer #9 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-12-31 19:51:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋