I have this girlfreind of mine and were just starting to go out but she won't tell me everything, like that she's bi and it freaks me out she doesnt know I know, I want her only to be with me. she's a very sweet person, I don't know what to do.... I don't like it that she's bi, but I wish she was striaght forward with me and told me these things,
then I'd be able to handle it or not. how do I tell her I know and get this 4hit out in the open? :(
2006-12-31 19:37:01 · 13 answers · asked by l u m i n o u s 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Dude if you're having problems with her being bi, then you two need to split. She's always going to be that way and you will be the wa y you are too, so end it before it goes to far.
2006-12-31 19:40:06 · answer #1 · answered by Strikernow 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
First of all, being bi does not necessarily mean that she will be dating a girl at the same time as you. Bis can be committed to a single person as well. However, to answer your question, you dont exactly answer whether or not she is open to others, and/or how open she is. She may still be uncomfortable with it and thus not yet willing to discuss it with you. Give her time; she will probably eventually tell you, and if not, you may want to discuss it with her gently. If you love her that much and she really is that "sweet" than her being bi should be inconsequential provided she stays loyal. I hope things work out between you two!
2006-12-31 19:53:21 · answer #2 · answered by guitarherofairy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, decide if you are okay with it or not. Let her know that you expect complete faithfulness, and you will return that. If she says that she's bi and she's going to sleep with women while she's with you (that's not always the case...bi doesn't mean cheater) then you tell her, okay, I'll sleep with women while I'm with you, and then we'll be even. JK! :)
But let her know where YOU stand in the relationship, and then she'll know what to do from there. Maybe even tell her that you've heard that she's bi, and you're fine with that as long as she doesn't cheat on you with anyone, male or female. If she can't commit...she's not for you I guess.
2006-12-31 19:43:31 · answer #3 · answered by Candy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not everyone opens up at the rate you want but if she is a real sweet person than she will tell you when the time is right for you. For now just let it go and let her come to you. You are calling her your girlfriend so she must be into you as well. Is it really a big deal what she has done? What is important is that she respects you as an individual.
2006-12-31 19:41:08 · answer #4 · answered by l'il mama 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think your biggest problem in this whole relationship is that nobody is telling anybody the truth. She doesn't tell you she's bi. You know but you don't tell her that you know. You two need to have a talk.
2006-12-31 19:41:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just be honest with her and tell her you know. Then tell her you are not mad but would like for her to feel comfortable in telling you anything. Then love her to where she doesn't want anyone else. Tell her that you would like for her to just be with you for now.
Good luck
2006-12-31 19:41:32 · answer #6 · answered by Stephie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her if she's bi. If she says no, then drop it. She'll tell you when she's ready. Don't pressure her or it may very well be over.
2006-12-31 19:45:34 · answer #7 · answered by renaudldw 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
her being bi is not a big deal it dont mean that she won't be faithful to you(if indeed that is what she wants to) just means that when she is looking for someone she aint limited to one sex. the best way to tell her that you know is to be honest tell her you know. do not beat around the bush
2006-12-31 19:42:41 · answer #8 · answered by chronus79 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you enjoyed him. yet he did no longer. because of the fact if he did, he labored confusing for you no count what. in step with threat he loved you.the alternative is yours, no count in case you want to love or you want to be enjoyed. yet it relatively is an uncomplicated good judgment and love isn't a good judgment. Plus your destiny will continually be uncertain. nevertheless, i think of you may desire to be enjoyed.
2016-11-25 19:40:26 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you have some stuff you want to discuss with her, and then just dive right in. If she refuses to discuss it, or to care about your feelings, then find another sweet girl. There are many.
2006-12-31 19:40:55 · answer #10 · answered by Batty 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋