How to have total confidence, all of the time?

Question

I seem to feel very insecure around people I am just meeting or hardly know...but very confident around friends and family I do know. How can I capture that confidence ALL of the time?

Are there any tricks to it?

Answer 1

yes, keep a positive, temperate, and modest air about you at all times. keep in mind that you are you and no one else.

Answer 2

Good question and good answers ....

I would add that there is an energy therapy called Emotional Freedom Technique that is easy to learn and apply and it can help take the 'negative charge' out of meeting new people and other anxiety-producing events, such as public speaking in front of a large crowd of strangers. You can download the free "Get Started Package" at http://tinyurl.com/yh5zhu, or if you want to dive in right away by purchasing the inexpensive instructional DVDs go to http://tinyurl.com/ycwle8

Have a happy, confident New Year!

Answer 3

Look at yourself in the mirror as if your reflection is just another person. Start complimenting your reflection. Be as crazy as you want. I was feeling ugly, so I would say to myself, God you are one sexy woman, and while I don't go around saying that, it made me feel a little bit better, and I eventually started to believe it. The key is to do it repeatedly.

Answer 4

I think it's normal to feel insecure around new people.. just be glad you don't feel insecure around people you've known for awhile, because some people do. You are lucky.. believe me.

Answer 5

Impossible. Just like with any skill, the human element is there will always be a possibility of failure. But, just as with any skill, you can get steadily better and better until it becomes almost natural and then minimize the chance of failure to virtually none.
But, a forewarning; you're going to have to fail a lot before you get good enough to virtually never fail at all.
The great thing about confidence is there are about a million billion ways to improve it. It all depends on what kind of confidence. I assume you're speaking about social confidence, so I'll go from there.
NLP dictates that our attitudes and beliefs and such come from our perception. Perception is not just sight, but touch, taste, sound and smell. Ever notice how certain smells or foods make people nostalgiac in both good and bad ways, but the same smells or foods do nothing for other people? That's the basic idea. NLP thus dictates that if you can learn to "recreate" those GOOD feelings in mind, you can conjure them up any time. This is called "anchoring." What they suggest is recalling a time in your life when, in ANY regard, you felt confident. It could have been after your first kiss, or after winning an award, or after reading a long book, or after getting a good grade, whatever. Doesn't matter, as long as it's really vivid and you can remember those feelings you had at the time. When those feelings hit you, you create an "anchor." Anything. You can tap your wrist, your knee, make a sound with your mouth, whatever. Practice this regularly, and your whole mind and body will begin to associate the action with the feeling, and you can recall it any time you want.
There are also "affirmations." Rational-Emotive Therapy (RET) believes that your beliefs are formed by what you cognitively tell yourself in your mind. An event causes an emotional reaction in you (for example, someone steps on your toe and you feel mad) and what follows is a "rational" semantical (meaning words) belief (for example "I hate people who step on my toes!"). At this point, most people just go with the sentence formed in their head, which causes the belief (in this instance, "people who step on toes suck.") which leads to their condition (in this instance, being pissed off and upset). So, it follows that if we nip that process in the bud at step two (thinking "I hate people who step on my toes!") we can also prevent the condition (feeling pissed off). We do this with logic (well, not ALL people who step on toes suck. I can't really define an entire person just by whether or not they step on toes. In truth, all I can say is that I prefer it when people don't step on my toes.) Kinda hard to get ourselves worked up over something like that. In your case, you could look at your thought process when around people. What are you thinking "must" or "should" happen? What are you thinking you "can't" do? What would be "horrible" or "crappy"? Rework your thinking.
Lastly (and this is long, so thanks for bearing with me) there's cognitive behavioral therapy. The idea is, we rework our inner world by confronting our fears in the outer world. So if, for instance, I was freaked out by spiders (my inner world), I would handle spiders (confront my fear in the outer world). This is hard to do, but if I forced myself over and over again inevitably what would happen is, I'd get used to it. If I hit myself with neutral to positive experiences with something over and over and over again, there's no way my whole body-mind would keep rejecting it. I would learn, through EXPERIENCE, that "actually, spiders aren't dangerous at all... there's no good reason to be afraid of them." and I would get used to, or maybe even enjoy them. The point here being, force yourself to do what you dread: be around people. And keep telling yourself practical things like "this isn't gonna kill me." Take baby steps. Make it a goal just to BE around people. Surely you can accomplish that! Then once that's easy, move it up a notch. Make it a goal to introduce yourself to x number of people every week. And on and on.
It's up to you which route (or routes, combinations are good too) you wanna take. Just telling you there's plenty of options out there.
Work hard!

Answer 6

practice man practice, go out more meet people talk to them, help others & work out

Answer 7

Picture the people u meet naked