Ok, I admit, I am confused as anything when it comes to my guy. For one, he's nigerian, and the way they do things is a bit different. With him, I never know anything for sure but something inside of me knows he's real. I've known him for 10 years. 5 years of that I was married and then that dissipated into nothing. We got back together in June and didn't have sex until October. I've asked him if he loves me, but he kissed me and says time will tell. But he does things that make me think he does. For example, he makes sure I have a full tank of gas every week. That he pays for. He keeps my favorite sode in his fridge and is always asking me if I'm hungry when I've been at his place for a few hours. And two days ago he somewhat revealed himself in the emotional sense. He's not one to really display serious thoughts, but has no problem with affection or the bedroom. He keeps what he's really thinking hidden. The question is this. He's divorced twice, the first time he initiated the
2006-12-31 19:16:09 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Men's Health
divorce and the second time she did. The second time I know for a fact wasn't his fault because I know the woman and she is extremely irrational, if not neurotic. So as you can tell, he has difficulty expressing emotions. He told me, after all of this time, that I am the only one he really wanted to kiss and enjoyed kissing. That before he didn't really kiss, not even when he was married. That could have fooled me because he's always finding a way to kiss me. Is this his way of opening up or what?
2006-12-31 19:16:23 · update #1
Another thing is, he absolutely loves my body and makes me feel good about it. He is always telling me to go without my towel (after shower) or to let him watch me undress. I don't understand it, because I think my body is ugly. I am not a fat slob or anything like that, but I have had two children (lost all weight and more with each of them) and I have the ugly little section scar to prove it. He keeps thinking that he's going to hurt it or something. Why in the world does he like this ugly body????
2006-12-31 19:21:47 · update #2
This is from a guy so you might hear what im going to say but might not fully understand it. (most girls dont I find)
Guys arnt touchy feely normaly, most guys think it unmanly not to open up and be vonrible to others, even those we like or may even love. Alot of guys let our actions speak for us. Well give things or pay complements or stuff like that, thats our way of showing we really care.
Never seeing your picture I will say your beautiful, every women is beacuse God made every women to be beautiful.
That and quite bluntly. guys are turned on visualy and we dont need anything leading up to anything for sex except to watch a women undress. know thats not a guy being shallow, its the way we are wired. we show our love not nessisarly thru the little stuff but mostly right before and during the act itself.
2006-12-31 21:01:57 · answer #1 · answered by robertt223 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Step slowly into the water and keep your eyes open at all times. He might be sincere, but sounds a little shady to me. If he will not "tell" you how he feels, maybe he doesn't know or thinks you may not like the answer. Of course he keeps your gas tank full, that way you will go over to his place and tend to his bedroom affections. As for the kissing bit, most guys say things to make you feel like you are special and say just what you need to hear to keep you coming back. Be careful sweetie, he learned to kiss somewhere. You are special, maybe too special for him.
2006-12-31 19:24:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Wow!
Girlfriend, you need to get yourself to a good therapist, and now!
I am not saying you are crazy, just that anyone in your position needs help in making sense of things.
Maybe someday he will even go with you for therapy together-I know, unlikely, but within the realm of the possible.
Also, go to the library or on line to ask for a Culture-Gram on Nigeria. Also look up your own Country. These cultural differences are sometimes so subtle, we tend to overlook them, or we wrongly perceive them as being of a strictly personal nature. You will be amazed how helpful these are, and interesting too.
Please look into these things, to take good care of yourself and find out what this relationship can and cannot be.
Best wishes & Happy 2007!
2006-12-31 19:26:55 · answer #3 · answered by gettin'real 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Time will tell, Hes lucky that you are so concerned. Its probably because the two misfortune divorces, give him time. My Karate sensei was the same and he finally re-married after ten years found his soulmate, now his 72 years old, and very happy. Time is the best healing process for human emotions.
2006-12-31 19:24:50 · answer #4 · answered by kikaida42 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
spending money on someone isnt love. spending time with someone and getting to know them in and out and letting them get to know you the same way is love, not romantic love but love. it is hard to say what he feels exactly because i dont know him and not many people who answer this will but i believe that the things he does are a way for him to open up to you. if you love him then you should give it a little more time but dont give him all of your life to tell you. confrton him one day when you think is the best time. its up to you to find out if its love or lust
2006-12-31 19:22:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Some men find it hard to express emotions. I guess he is scared of getting hurt again. Be grateful for the things he does for you.
2006-12-31 19:20:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋