I met my current boyfriend in May of 2005. I found out I was pregnant in June of 2005 and without thinking twice about it he told me to get rid of it. Well, told would have been nice, he just decided that's what was going to happen. The thing is, he has an ex-wife and two children. It's really haunting when I think about it because I feel like he tells me that I'm the one and blahblahblah but, why would you do that to someone you love? I don't think I feel anything anymore. I'm completely dead inside. So, is this over or is it just me?
His two children are boys and they are about 10 months apart in age, 6 and 7. Both were accidents.
2006-12-31 19:11:45 · 9 answers · asked by xempathyloves 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm not asking for people to attack me. If you can't answer me and feel like you need to put me down don't bother.
Btw, I have been tested for everything under the sun and I'm fine. Everyone makes poor choices in their life. No one is perfect.
2006-12-31 19:29:28 · update #1
A couple of facts here:
NO child is an accident. There are choices and there is stupidity.
Of course he doesn't love you. You got knocked up 5 minutes after you met him. What do you expect?
I'm not even going to go into what I think of you having unprotected sex with someone you've just met. Get yourself checked for STD's, while you're at it.
2006-12-31 19:15:19 · answer #1 · answered by Liz 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would want it to be over and I wouldn't look back. I can't believe that someone convinced you to murder! I'm sorry, I try not to attack and just give advice, it kills me, I apologize again. Seek counseling so you don't attract another douche bag and baby maker. No kids are accidents. He must think they are mistakes and probably treats them like a mistake. You can do better. Be glad that you have no other children with him. Get out while you can and hopefully you will meet a nice man with some morals and values. Be true to yourself. Take care and be well.
2006-12-31 19:39:34 · answer #2 · answered by SillyKimmie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i too was involved with a man it's been over 30 years now, he too tried to force me into getting an abortion, although he had several kid's by his ex and one not his that he also considered his son. i left him, came back home had my son, he is now 30. i realized this man did not love me at all. can't let a man decide those kinds of things. u are upset that u allowed him to have such control over the situation, u mourn the loss of your child. if u truly loved someone u would not expect them to abort your child, unless it was because he was afraid his wife would find out, or he was afraid he would have to pay child support. u were in a controlling relationship, and u never saw or thought u deserved better. u never trusted yourself with this decision and now u are hurting over it, as u see he never loved u. maybe u might seek some therapy, first u really need to forgive yourself for it, we live and learn, sometimes the hard way. good luck, so sorry for your loss.
2007-01-01 09:37:08 · answer #3 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The abortion should of been a decision both of you were in on. All that aside, you are still holding him accountable for something that happened 1 1/2 years ago. You either have to forgive him for what he did or break up with him. It's not healthy to harbor all these bad feelings. It's not a healthy relationship.
2006-12-31 19:16:58 · answer #4 · answered by Greg 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This guy does not love you. If you stopped the pregnancy, count yourself fortunate and drop this bum before you get pregnant again. He has 2 children to support and an ex who may, or may not still be in his life. Don't be foolish. Let him go and get on with your life.
2006-12-31 19:19:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
suonds like it was over since u found about being pregnant and himtelling you to get rid of it feel sorry for you good luck
2006-12-31 19:17:22 · answer #6 · answered by toadyboy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i don't think he really cares about you honey. if he did, he would have at least sat down and talked to you about it instead of being selfish and only thinking about what he wanted. that's what your whole relationship is about, what he wants. if this relationship isn't over, it should be, and YOU should be the one to end it.
2006-12-31 19:41:46 · answer #7 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lizzo has your answer. Ask him again.
2006-12-31 19:20:03 · answer #8 · answered by MMUUDDD!!!!!! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of him PLEASE. I don't think he loves you or tries to understand you. Ugh... you can do so much better.
2006-12-31 19:21:22 · answer #9 · answered by Principessa 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋