I feel like I am controlling but that is not the deal! I asked her many many times not to do it (Text message) in front of me or chat with him in the House I pay all the bills for and the cell phone bill... Am I nuts??? She says if I cut off the phone she will not be nice to me anymore... We are trying to divorce the right way but she has no $ to move out or pay for her car that I have paid for for two years... Arrrrgggghhhhh!!!! Where is the tylenol!!!!!!!!!! Please shoot me some advice...
2006-12-31 19:01:16 · 26 answers · asked by gueroslaptop 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Let her take care of herself and yes turn it off, and let her live with him. Don't take this crap from her, the right way to get a divorce is not to live together for 90 days, she needs to go where ever she plans on going after the divorce right now. Please move on!
2006-12-31 19:07:38 · answer #1 · answered by livlafluv 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
She is then taking advantage of you. I feel for your situation but you are being more then fair by letting her stay until she can move out if the two of you are divorcing. She should be focusing on where she will live and not chatting or texting her boyfriend in your presence. That is just wrong and very disrespectful!!
You need to cut off the phone service without a doubt! She can still use 911 in an emergency. She is threatening you with not being nice? Well let her have at it! What can she do? She is going to get out of the divorce what the lawers and judge decide no matter how nice/mean you are right now. And shutting the cell phone off *while still agreeing to live together until she can afford to get a place and *paying her car payments is more then nice of you! You are being very decent to her. She is taking advantage of what you have given and are still giving her. You without a doubt are being more then good to her. So my advice...shut off the phone...What she is doing to you is taunting you..it is mean spirited and awful. She has the 911 feature for emergency purposes even if the phone service is shut off.
I am so sorry this is happening to you. You should also let your attorney know what is going on AS SOON AS POSSIBLE...this could very well play in your favor when it comes time to split up the assetts...I am not sure but it might.
Best of luck to you...I hope you get some good insightful answers here....God bless you!
2006-12-31 19:13:44 · answer #2 · answered by sherri p 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your getting a divorce kick her a-s-s to the curb! If you can't work things out and she has a new lover and still lives with you. Open your eyes. She needs to move in with the new boyfriend if you ask me. I don't know either one of you, but this is my opinion. I don't mean to offend either of you. Yes you should disconnect the cell phone. Oh yeah BTW stop paying for her car. You are not her dad and if you don't have children together make her go away without nothing, cause that is what she'll leave you when she's gone. I can get ill at this stuff. If you 2 are getting divorced what does it matter if she is nice to you. You will find in time someone new that wants you and the longer the wife drags you through her new life is a day that you could spend searching for your Mrs right. Again i don't want to offend you or her. This is merely my point of view.
2006-12-31 19:12:41 · answer #3 · answered by wjb 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
So she's saying she won't be nice to you anymore if you cut off the phone....Well, to start with - you can tell her that she is not being nice to you now!!! If you are being nice to someone, you don't flaunt your new relationship in front of your spouse!!! I don't care if you are getting divorced or how you have acted - she is being cruel. It sounds like she is trying to pay you back for something and you are probably the only who knows the answer to that. Anyway, if you are trying to divorce "the right way", it sounds to me like you are the only one holding up your side of the agreement. I would take the chance and cut the phone off. If she knows that you have always been a "nice guy", which I don't know if you are or not - but if she thinks you are - maybe it's time for you to get tough with her and not let her push you around anymore. I know that it's easier said than done, but if you keep on going in this direction, it sounds like she may end up inviting him over for dinner and expecting you to cook.
2006-12-31 19:22:17 · answer #4 · answered by amethyst1195 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why on earth do u think u owe her anything? u have been good to her, and this is how u are repaid, think u need to get her on out of your home, unless u got kids by her, than that could be a problem. cut off her cell phone, let her see what it's like to go without. let the boyfriend get her a cell and pay for it, not your problem. u can do so much better than her. what a slap in the face to blatantly do this in front of u, has she no shame or no heart. must be hurting u, get her out of your home if u can do it without alot of problems. the sooner u get rid of her the better u will feel.
2007-01-01 09:43:09 · answer #5 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cut off the god damn cell phone for christ sake. If you keep paying for it then when it comes time for the divorce proceedings the request for your alimony will include the money for the cell phone that she is using to talk to her internet friend. Alimony is based on what she is used to, so I would take that away from her as soon as possible, and forget about whether she is nice to you or not.
2006-12-31 19:14:19 · answer #6 · answered by Jack S 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is taking advantage of the situation!! I would disconnect it if I were you...however, it may cost 150-200 dollars to do this depending on your plan! You could possibly explain your situation to the phone company and they might disconnect it for free or at a discounted price!! Who cares if she will not be nice to you anymore?...You're getting a divorce...right?! I would pack her bags and throw her out!!! She does not care about your feelings...text messaging her new bf in front of you...that's is tacky!!! Let her new bf pay for her new phone and other crap!!! Good luck to you!!!
2006-12-31 19:07:32 · answer #7 · answered by September Sweetie 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No way would I pay for a phone for her to text her boyfriend. Let her get a job and pay for it herself. If you are getting a divorce, it should not be your problem. How is she being nice to you? Hurting you like that is not nice, she is degrading you. If she wants the boyfriend, but doesn't have money, let her boyfriend take care of her. Don't let her use you. Good luck.
2006-12-31 19:06:47 · answer #8 · answered by Junkyard DOG 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
OK, let get it straight. ......Youuuu are divorcing this woman, but she still lives in your house. ........Youuuu are divorcing this woman, but you pay her bills...........Youuuu are divorcing this woman, and your worried that she won't be nice to you.
Ummm, let be think a little here,ya you ARE nuts.
If you have kids with her, keep them and toss HER on her a ss. Tell her to move with her family or something. At the very least to get a ==J. O . B == and get her first and last!. Dude, your a putts if you continue like this. I would REALLY like to know where you are doing this the right way. From what I see this RIGHT way is going HER way, and your stuck with putting up with her sh it.
2006-12-31 19:13:25 · answer #9 · answered by gord's360 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get a lawyer quick and get her outta there!! She stopped being nice a long time ago...like when she got a boyfriend. Cut the phone off.
2006-12-31 19:04:07 · answer #10 · answered by steffers4979 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋