advice on taking on another person's children?

Question

advice on introduction to another person's children for the first time

Answer 1

be gentle and try to understand that they might not accept you in the beginning but remember they are children! try to find out ahead of time things they are interested in and talk about that

Answer 2

You don't say exactly what your situation is but I am assuming that you are meeting your new partner's children.
I met my wife's son when he was 20 months old and we had only just met. He's now 32 with children of his own.
Later, my wife and I fostered for 15 years and, during that time, we looked after over 70 children.
My advice is to be nice to them, and to be interested in what they are doing or saying, without being too pushy. Let them come to you. Try to make yourself easy and relaxed and approachable and they will get curious about you. If they want to get close, by touching you or climbing onto your lap, allow them and welcome them but don't invade their space before they are ready. Above all be yourself, if you are false in any way , the children will pick up on it and you will not be able to reach them properly.
Whatever your situation, I wish you the very best of luck!

Answer 3

I would think that it would depend on the ages of the children involved. The younger they are, sometimes, the easier they are to adjust to you. Taking them to McDonalds and just being fun to be with would help them.

If they are older, it might be a whole lot harder. Did their parents lose them for some reason or are the parents just not there anymore?

Each situation is different.

Best of luck to you in the New Year!!

Answer 4

meeting someone's children for the first time is a big deal for you but even more so for them; many factors to consider, especially their own situation: how long have their parents been separated; have they met 'others' before you; how is their relationship with the parent you are seeing...

best to be yourself and don't suffocate them with questions or gifts and always take it at their pace. it maybe that they don't like you and you will have to accept that and give them time to change their mind or if not, ensure they have time with the parent without u being around dominating it....

children don't get considered when relationships end and they are 'expected' to fit into new situations... be really sure you are committed to the person before introducing your children and then the transition should be easier for them all involved.

Answer 5

Do something fun, age appropriate for the kids, it will not be easy but remember they are the children of the person you are with.

Answer 6

My boyfriend took on me and my three kids, never had kids or been married, but you never would have known it, he was such a natural with them, and has always been good with them, and we are going on three years! There is hope, I wish you the best of luck.

Answer 7

when i was intoduced to my step son for the 1st time i was so scared i was shakin! now we best buddys! just be yourself dont try to be some1 you not dont try to be parent be friend but be authoritive show you wont be taken for fool but you can be trusted and are a nice person who they can talk to and have laugh with! it worked for me any way! good luck!

Answer 8

Be yourself and dont try to force things. Ask about their interests and let them do the talking

Answer 9

Well I have been taken away before and trust me it wasn't easy i cried every day then My parents got me back???????

Answer 10

make it fun
good luck