I have a 13 month old child and would like to eventually have another. Should I have one now or wait?

Answer 1

WAIT!!!!!! I've heard of lots of people that like to have their kids close in age, but not me! I have a 2 month old and a 23 month old and I am constantly busy. When my baby doesn't need something, my two year old does. It seems like when I'm finally getting some rest, one or the other wakes up or needs fed. If I could do it all again, I would have waited another year. By the way, I love my children dearly and I would do anything for them - they're just a handful!

Answer 2

This depends on what you are up to handling. A two year old is hard to keep up with when you have an infant. Some of the run and have awful tantrums, it can also be harder to toilet train the older child when you have a baby. A lot of people do it though and seem to survive. My sister has three children all a couple years apart. She seems to be holding on just fine. Her toughest years where when she had the them all three and one was four, another was two, and the other was a baby, she never went anywhere unless her husband was home or she had someone with her to help. Now the youngest is two and the others are school age and she will start potty training soon and she is handling it well. I think in hind sight she would have made a different choice but she would not give up narry a kid because they are all unique. If you are up to the chalange having two young children close in age is rewarding and they become good friends for the most part when they get older. However, my sister and I are eight years almost nine years apart, and we get along great as friends because I did not live with her for to long after we were born. We did not have time get tired of each others personalities, and so as she became an adult, our relationship blossomed. Just give it some thought though because having two very young children can be hard. Also remember two car seats will be needed, two strollers or double strollers which cost more, and lots of diapers and pullups to be changed. Filling sippy cups is like feeling bottles and you buy tuns of them. Some toddlers have problems staying hooked on binkies so basically you buy twice the baby things and you are constantly changing out cloths closets do to the constant body growth. So again, think this trough there is a lot to do when you have two very small children. Four is a nice age some people think because the older is already potty trained and learning to use regular cups and they like to be big helps so they run and get diapers and wipes and throw them away for you. This helps when you just have a baby and you are tired and hurting.

Answer 3

My daughter is EXACTLY 19 months older than my oldest son who is 2 years 10 months older than the baby. (so I have a 6 week old, a 2 year old who will be 3 next month and a 4 1/2 year old)

It's a good age difference with all of them. My oldest is still not potty trained-do that makes it kinda hard but my daughter was potty trained by the time she was 2.

If you want anotherone now--go for it. My doctor says you should wait AT LEAST 6 months and preferably a year between babies so your body can heal.

We are going to start trying for #4 in 6 months.

Answer 4

Now! Since you have a 13 yr old, you're probably not in your 20's anymore, so your time is now. Doctors suggest that you'll have a higher chance of having a healthy baby if you conceive at 35 or younger (20-35).

Sorry I thought you said 13 yrs, not 13 mos!! Wait a few yrs. You'll have more one on one time w/ each child this way, and it'll be less stressful.

Answer 5

really its up to you could you handle a 2 year old and a new born baby. my son was 13mths when i had my little girl, it was good but i wouldnt do it again, i went on to have another baby when my son was 3 and my daughter 2.there 5,4,2 now and the age gap between my 2 daughter is about right, i wouldnt have then any closer than that, but thats just my take on it because ive got three now. me and my husband are wanting another 1 now so my youngest will be three.i would just like to add that my 2 eldest fight all the time( i think its because there so close in age)

Answer 6

Definitely wait! (Unless you're older...like nearing 40!). There's no rush...and it's better to have your first kid past potty training, trantrums and ideally, the "whining phase" (around age 4), before having another. I was 10 when my mom had my youngest (and last) sibling. I LOVED helping out and regarded her more as my daughter than sister! Waiting 10 years will give you PLENTY of time to get it together...but at least wait 2-5!

Answer 7

I have been doing some reading up on that and the best things i could suggest is.......if you think it's time and it's right for you than have another child. there is a negative though, from what i've read sometimes having children so close in age can be kind of harmful for your body. i'm not saying that it's a for sure thing. but sometimes it could put a strain on your body and it could make it hard for your body to adjust itself back to it's weight. unless you are one of those women that look like they haven't had kids at all....if that's the case....lucky you. have at it.

Answer 8

I think I would wait another year and then start trying, that way you can have some time when the child now, and then you can enjoy your other baby.

Answer 9

why wait, if you have one now they will be around the same age range so would play together, if you hang on the eldest will just boss the youngest around. I thought hanging on was for the lazy cows that don't want to work, live of income support and as soon as one child is old enough for school have another one !! sorry if thats not you it just bugs me !

Answer 10

My doctor says the ideal gap in ages is about two years... I think that's how she keeps her business running though :-)

My brother and I were 10 months, three weeks apart and we fought like crazy until we both moved out of my parents' house... I'm going to wait a few years before having my next!