I have been told i am a selfish person. I dont really know what "to miss a person" means. I know my pursose in life is to learn how to love but i really dont know how to nor the feelings involved. what can i do?
2006-12-31 16:43:02 · 11 answers · asked by RL2010 2 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
I have been attached to someone. I havent seen that person in five years and i dont know
2006-12-31 17:00:40 · update #1
I have been attached to someone. I havent seen that person in five years and i dont know how it feels to miss her. I have heard that you feel as if you need that person desperately but i never felt that
2006-12-31 17:01:34 · update #2
when you'll get too tired of fighting, you'll bow your head down and respectfully love... That's my definition of love anyway, being worn out and tired, people only interpret the defeat as love.
2006-12-31 16:53:26 · answer #1 · answered by who_knows 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you DO know that your purpose in life is to learn how to love, and you are alive, that means you are moving towards that, by the very fact that you are alive.
Being told that you are selfish is making you feel that you are closed to love, that love is not for you. Love is the goal of everybody, ultimately . Just be yourself, knowing this all the while.
It is good that you are spared the pain of missing a person. You are not loving a person because you are physically near him/her. If you think about it, those who miss some one also want to feel the joy in being close to him/her - it is a kind of selfishness too. But real Love is beyond space, and even time
2007-01-06 06:15:42 · answer #2 · answered by shades of Bruno 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To miss a person is to think of them fondly and or to wish to see them again/soon.
Just because you miss some one or don't miss them does not mean you did not love them.
I have loved many people in my life time so far and some of them I miss others I do not (& never will).
To love is to give something of yourself, to share your life and your feelings openly, to a risk and commit to one person even is only for a short time.
Compare the feelings you have for your parents to the ones you have for your best mate and to the ones you have for other friends and family even for your dog/goldfish (what ever) each of these are feelings of love in different degrees. Once you see that what you have with this people (and pets), that special bond you share with them, is love you will better be able to recognise other loves as they come along.
Stop searching just because others have told you you are cold you most probably dont express your self the same way or as far as missing some (desperatly) prehaps that is yet to come.
I did not know what it was like to miss some one until after my 1st husband died then I knew a longing that hurt.
2007-01-05 02:45:46 · answer #3 · answered by funcplinvic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well....I guess you gotta be more open towards people and meet new people. If you don't know what to 'miss a person' really feels like than I guess you just haven't been that attached to some1 or you haven't lost some1 you cared for that much, like a family member or something. To love some1 is just being open towards a person and being able to accept someone for who they are, inside and out, and being able to talk about stuff going on in ur life such as at work, home, etc. Don't be worried, you'll meet some1 one day that you'll just become attached to, maybe not right away but it will happen.
2007-01-01 00:51:01 · answer #4 · answered by soccergirl12930 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm.... that's an interesting question.
I think that to love you have to:
Be willing to do something for someone else.
Be able to ignore a person's faults and problems.
Be able to feel sympathy when someone is sad, or generosity when someone is in need.
Love is something really special. You're probably not selfish, you've probably faced a situation where you lost sight of what "love" means. I think you should just open your heart to everyone.
2007-01-01 03:15:42 · answer #5 · answered by xxWannabeWriterxx 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know this sounds silly, but get a puppy. I have seen it work, before. I never really understood it, but I know it gives you someone other than yourself to care about and a puppy is a good place to start because dogs love unconditionally.
I didn't truly know what love was until I had my own kids. That really wakes you up.
2007-01-01 00:54:09 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are trying to learn more empathy and you can do that by volunteering. When you volunteer you put yourself in other people's shoes and that creates empathy and compassion. Also, ever thought of a self-improvement seminar. If you google that you may find something you like--Those can teach you how to open your heart. I did one and it focused on being authentic with people--Really taking responsibility for who you are being--Seeing and feeling that impact and then creating something else--Like love. It works!
2007-01-01 02:53:14 · answer #7 · answered by shamrock5858 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't love. You are perfectly all right being a cold selfish freak, love just makes you sorry.
2007-01-01 00:45:43 · answer #8 · answered by sandwich 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
By asking yourself do i love myself enough to love someone else, and if you can answer this question you have alraedy learn how to love.
2007-01-01 01:28:39 · answer #9 · answered by Leonard Y 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learn to love yourself first.
2007-01-01 00:44:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋