i have to friends that don't even get along, but when ever i turn my back they are all like your my best friend and i want to be your BFF but that can't work because it is seriously pissing me off. I'm afraid to break up with one of my friends because she knows all my deep dark secrets and i don't want to break up with the other because we are inseperatble. I can't talk to them because then i'll be afraid that i'll lose one of their friendship and trust but i can't pretend that it doesn't bother me anymore because it seriously is. Can anyone help me over come my proplem or atleast calm it down a bit?
2006-12-31 14:46:12 · 3 answers · asked by Emma 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Lets try this...invite your two friends over for a lunch or dinner date or a rendevous out in the park..anything [ seperately call them and make each girl think your dating the other individualy] . Once they arrive tell the two girls to resolve this conflict that they have between each other. And if they don't then just tell them your frustrations and your true feelings about the situation. and if they still don't understand and tell you why....then i may have to suggest the inevitable - leave them and find other people that don't get themselves in such silly situations. But most of all...don't lose your temper...just be patient and keep your cool. and even though you do stop hanging out with them - don't stop smiling at them from time to time or wave a hello here and there. it doesn't hurt to remain nice - even to those that don't deserve it. harsh but true. well good luck!!
2006-12-31 16:19:37 · answer #1 · answered by ilovehorses 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The friend that knows all your "deep dark secrets", then you must surely know all of HERS also. Point is, talk to both of your friends and tell them how you really feel. Sometimes 3 friends can not get along, because one is always being left out. Maybe hang with one girl at a time - if this does not work, you may need to find new friends. Good luck.
2006-12-31 22:54:16 · answer #2 · answered by NAN G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to both of them at the same time. They both need to hear how you are feeling about that situation. Let them know how uncomfortable you are with them not getting along and that you cant choose over them. Ask them if they can atleast be civil to each other and not be at each other's throats all the time. Ask them what they want you to do and from there figure out a way that you can still be friends about both of them.
good luck!
2006-12-31 23:12:16 · answer #3 · answered by Blood&Wine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋