I moved from cali to wash to marry my sons daddy and stay at his friends home until wedding with our son. Know that I am here and have no one and no family he says he doesn't love me like he should to marry me. So we are now homeless basically. And he will take our son in but I am on my own. All of this was thrown on me for no reason one momment I love you and the next I do not. I hurt so much and I feel hopeless and I want to just die. I feel this was all done to get our son up here and that I am now just hopeless and tossed away for the 1000000000th time since childhood' Our son is all I have but I don't want him to suffer with me being homeless because of my miss judgement " Oh God how I want to die"
2006-12-31 14:39:35 · 26 answers · asked by Mystica T 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
what???????????
2006-12-31 14:42:25 · answer #1 · answered by lisa_08 3 · 1⤊ 4⤋
Problem-Reaction-Solution, is what this is called, and the governments around the world have used it for centuries because it works. Create a problem that will generate a reaction, such as, Fear, and provide the solution that will take away something from the people, in this case person.
What you need to do is look for a Traveler's Aide, or Red Cross, or Salvation Army, or even a homeless shelter. From here you need to arrange to contact parents, or other relative from where you were to get money to return home with your son.
Your best bet for survival with your son with be in familiar surroundings.
You should immediately file for Child Support against him upon your return.
Also, don't forget "His Parents" are also "Grand-Parents" to the child, maybe they will help you get back home with your son, just because he is mean don't mean they are.
Maybe the Welfare office will give you bus tickets to return home, rather than apply for welfare ( and buy the tickets yourself).
You can have him arrested though, he cannot lure you here with the understanding you'll live with him, and dump you and child to the street ( as it is right now).
Contact any Church, they will be able to help the two of you, they know the town and are connected to the resources available.
2006-12-31 22:49:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a deep breath! You are in a very good state to be in your situation. Washington has great social programs. Look in a phone book and call a crisis hot line, or call the local police and get the number from them. They can put you in touch with a family shelter, help with food, clothing and usually a job, and counseling if you need it--and you sound like you do.
DO THIS NOW! DON'T WAIT! Show responsibility, and you have a great chance of keeping your child, if that's what you want.
2006-12-31 22:47:01 · answer #3 · answered by Dorothy and Toto 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to the local Traveler's Aid Society. Ask for their help to get home. If you have someone in the town that you left who will say you can stay with them (family, friends) Travelers Aid will pay the fare back for you and your son. Once home go to Legal Aid and get assistance in filing for child support from the A'hole.
If you can't go home, go to Salvation Army and ask for assistance in finding a place to stay. A lot of times they have some small apartments or access to housing for abused women, and yes you are abused, emotionally. Also try dialing 211 which should be the crisis line for United Way. If that number doesn't work, get the number for the line from Information or do a search online for UW agency in the town that you are in.
Don't let this jerk continue to control you because that is all he is trying to do. Good luck to you, it will get better. Just ask for help.
2006-12-31 22:46:46 · answer #4 · answered by searious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he did this to deceive u, and get your child. how awful. do not give him the boy, go to a shelter, call your parents or someone in your family for help. u thought he loved u, u thought based on what he told u that u were coming there there to get married and start a good life. he certainly has an agenda doesn't he. if family won't help u, go to a church and ask for help, go back where u came from and avoid this jerk forever.got to pick your men more wisely believe me been tossed away myself more than once. next time choose someone who at least has some character and integrity. good luck, i feel so bad for u. he did this so he could get the child, and dump u at the same time.
2006-12-31 22:58:23 · answer #5 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow.... i can't believe that happened to you. i think that you should call family and let them know the situation. if you don't have family to turn to, you should visit a shelter to make sure you and your son have a place to stay and food to eat. if there is any way you can go back to cali then go. you sons father can go to the family courts and take your son from you because you are homeless. you should look for some resources ASAP.... do the best that you can.
2006-12-31 22:46:14 · answer #6 · answered by smileygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you don't want to die your son needs you and you know this. so pick your self up ask the state you are in for some help. and they will help if you ask . then tell that s.o.b or as you put it your sons daddy . that he will be paying you child support for the next 18 years and call legal aid and ask that they get you a lawyer.to get all you can from that sorry man
2006-12-31 22:50:13 · answer #7 · answered by teadropsue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give up your child....no way...unless that is what you want...
sounds like he got you where he wanted you ....to get your child.
How could someone be so heartless...
Honey call family ask for help.
Get out of town while you can.
Stand up for yourself! Take one step at a time...your child needs for you to be strong.
There shelters for women and children.
Make some calls! If you are in Washington State they have strict laws about Child support..contact social services! They also have low income housing to help out.
You can do this!
Think positive....anything is possible if you try.
Best wishes
2006-12-31 22:50:30 · answer #8 · answered by travelingirl005 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FIRST go to a salvation Army or the police department and tell them of your situation. They will help get you in touch or even give you a ride to a shelter. I know that the churches and salvation army's have funds for things like this , ask them to help you get a bus ticket to go home for you and your son. I had a niece that had the same thing happen to her clear back in Arkansas. She was given a bus ticket to come back to Ca. Don't do anything stupid like leave your son with him ar hurt yourself. Please do what i said. And when you get out of this mess do not believe anything he tells you in the future. Stay clear of this heartless fool.
2006-12-31 23:01:13 · answer #9 · answered by *queenfairy1*Antioch California 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give up the kid you lazy drug addict wench. if you know there is a better life for your child what besides crack and herion would make you do other wise. its wenches like you that make kids end up in the system later in life. give the boy to his dad, go buy a rock, smoke it up and then go very very far into the wilderness and bury yourself. by the way didnt know they had computer usage on skid row. you lying wench. some wenches just dont deserve the right to reproduce
2007-01-02 19:49:34 · answer #10 · answered by po h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say under no circumstances, unless his health or safety are in danger, give up your son. Your willing abandonment of him will make it harder to get him back, especially in the courts eyes. Do everything you can to get back to California, then I'd get a lawyer and sue the bastard for breach of contract.
2006-12-31 22:57:10 · answer #11 · answered by A nobody from Oklahoma 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋