I got a girl pregnant. What am I going to do? I'm not ready to suppport a baby.
2006-12-31 14:22:02 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
You can't run away from reality, bub. Face up and be a man.
2006-12-31 14:43:11 · answer #1 · answered by x 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
even though you may regret what you did you are responsible for a new life being created. If the girl you got pregnant decides to keep the baby you have to step up and be a dad and help with the financial support. If you don't there will be even more consequences then you are dealing with now. You basically have 7-9 months (however far along she is) to get your act together to be there for your baby and the Mom. You seem like you are young, how old are you? Have you talked to your parents about this ? Maybe they can help you to do the right thing for your child. Children bring a lot of happiness and there are many couples that want babies that can't have them - if the Mom isn't ready to have a baby maybe you could put the child up for adoption and make some one very happy and it might be better for the baby too.
2006-12-31 14:45:02 · answer #2 · answered by labtech.carolyn 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, even though this is something that you should have thought about before having sex, the fact of the matter is that you are now a father. You probably dont feel ready right now (and the truth is, a lot of people dont feel ready when their partner or they are pregnant for the first time) but in a few months, you will come to love this baby. All you can do right now is provide support for the girl and be a part of their lives when she has the baby. Good luck.
2006-12-31 14:28:08 · answer #3 · answered by Elizabeth B 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Okay, enough with the sermons everyone. Kyle, you already know you made a mistake. But this baby is NOT a mistake, so please don't treat it like it is! While this seems like the most stressful, upsetting thing that could happen to you now, it could be something that, looking back, you'll smile and know that you were blessed to have happened. You and the mother might keep the baby or bless another family with a baby -- either way, first pray to do the right thing, then trust your instincts! Good luck to you and the mother. You're all three in my prayers! And by the way, there's so much more to being a good daddy than just the financial support. Being a good support system for your baby's mommy (whether you marry her, or not) is one of best ways to be a good daddy!
2006-12-31 16:52:44 · answer #4 · answered by JR 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, don't be upset. Be strong. The child needs a father that is strong. I know you don't feel it now, but imagine seeing a child that you created. Don't regret it. Do you love the girl you got pregnant (be honest)? If so, then offer to marry her when the time is right. if not, then offer to support her in any way, emotionally, financially, every way possible. Do not leave her alone in this. BE A MAN.
Is this girl under 18? I suggest getting an appointment with the parents and being open with them. Bring your parents. Let them know you realize you made a mistake, but there is a child to think of now. Let them know your plans.
Now, I realize you are not in a place to support a child . . no one is. I suggest getting a job (if you don't have one) and put the money in the bank for the child. When the child is born, buy it whatever it needs. If you don't have the money, ask for help. If you have a something you can sell, do it.
If you're thinking "I don't want to do this", trust me, you do.
This child is the first of your offspring. Many of us make the mistake of continuing to live our lives the same and destroy the life of the child. What you should do is reach beyond yourself, give this child everything you are. You will find the result to be worth while the first time they walk up to you and say,
. . . . . . . . . . "I love you daddy".
2006-12-31 14:39:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honestly if you knew you weren't ready then you shouldn't have fooled around in the first place. Or at least have taken better precautions. The best thing for you to do at this point is to grow up...fast....because you're gonna be a father whether you like it or not. And you're gonna have to support the child, but your best bet is to not leave the girl, after all she is the mother of your child. I won't say ask her to marry you because then she'll always wonder if the only reason you married her was because of the baby but if you care about her in any way then stay with her and maybe later on down the road after the baby is born and you've shown her that you do care, then ask her to marry you if you think she's the one. If you love her now then that's even better.
2006-12-31 14:28:25 · answer #6 · answered by Telkan 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to take responsibility for the LIFE you created. Get your crap together, and be there for your child finacially and emotionally. Try to think of this innocent little child you helped create. The baby did not ask for this, but you did by sleeping with the mom, act like the adult you thought you were. If you do weather or not you think you are ready, your baby will become the most important person in your life. Have you heard the song, "There Goes my Life," I think Kenny Chesney sings it. That is how most unexpected parents come to fill about their children. I know I was a mom at 17, and I love my daugther and I am a good mom. I stay at home and take care of her and my other 3 planned children. Good Luck.
2006-12-31 14:36:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I read this as you got a girl pregnant what are YOU going to do YOU are not ready to support a baby.... makes me wonder how she feels what is SHE going to do... is SHE ready for a baby... perhaps that is the questions that you should be asking. This is not just about you anymore. It is time to start thinking about other people. You knew the risk before you and her got together. Now show her that you are a real man and handle your responsibility.
2006-12-31 14:54:36 · answer #8 · answered by STEPHANIE S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What does she want to do? Have you talked to her about it?
Oh and, you did not do something "bad" -- irresponsible yes, but not "bad." And it sounds like you are responsible enough to realize that if she goes through with the pregnancy and keeps the baby, the child will require a lot of commitment -- from you, from the girl, and from as many family members as are willing to help out.
Courage -- this doesn't mean your future is in ruins. If you do the right thing -- what YOU feel is the right thing for everyone concerned, including yourself -- life will unfold the way it should.
2006-12-31 14:33:55 · answer #9 · answered by Peggy M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to the girl,Im assuming she is your girlfriend,and ask her if she is ready to have a child...ur not completely out of luck if she is only a few weeks she can have a medical abortion if you both are not ready. My boyfriend and I ran into this situation when our condom broke and i became pregnant,we weren't trying to get pregnant but it happened,we were also not ready so I contacted my local Planned Parenthood @ www.plannedparenthood.com and found out where,how,and what kind of abortions to get. Im not proud of myself but,everyone would criticize the same if I had the child and couldn't take care of it. So do what you have to do to safeguard your future and Please always use a condom for a healthier and a happier you. If that doesn't work 72 hour contraceptive(morning after pills) from a doctor or Vitamin C tablets!
2006-12-31 14:53:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It doesn't matter now if your ready or not. The two of you felt responsible enough to have unprotected sex, now you have to take the responsibility for being a dad. You both made this decision so you both need to raise this child. And don't think that having a baby is any easy task. You better start to prepare yourself for what's in store.
2006-12-31 14:31:12 · answer #11 · answered by lovinmommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋