We became friends when we were 14. Now we are 34. She is wild...I am calm. We live 5 1/2 hours away. She never comes to see me, I go see her. Sometimes she makes fun of me and hurts my feelings. We live in 2 different worlds, she the fast life, me a modest life. She sent me a mean email and didn't talk to me for 14 mos. She called tonight to ask why we haven't spoken in so long? Should we remain friends?
2006-12-31 13:59:59 · 9 answers · asked by cakekweeny 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
When I told her how I felt, and what she had said in the email, she appologized.
2006-12-31 14:18:07 · update #1
To continue a friendship is totally up to you. If you had a friend - just like you - and this friend that you really cared about told you about this 'friendship', what advise would you give your friend? To take your own advise is probably the best you'll receive. We don't have the whole perspective of the relationship and feelings involved.
You sound like a very sensitive person, there's nothing wrong with that. For her not to remember how she behaved 14 months ago pretty much says how she feels about your friendship.
It's up to you - if you don't wear your heart on your sleeve, than you won't get hurt.... but it will happen again because she has no respect for you as a friend.
Good Luck and please don't change your personality for anyone especially if you like yourself. Guys like you are very few. Have a Happy New Year!!!
2006-12-31 14:10:36 · answer #1 · answered by hot single mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
jeez...your friend sounds like she's being lazy and all, having you to go come and see her ALL the time. She doesn't even think twice to spare a thought for you and just hurt your feelings like *THAT*. Hmm..i think the best thing to do right now is to call her and tell her how you feel about the tension between your friendship and that you'll appreciate it if she stops making fun of you. If the outcome is that she apologizes and will stop doing all the hurtful stuff, then its best to forgive and start anew. But if its the otherwise, then you can forget about having a friend like that.
2006-12-31 14:12:09 · answer #2 · answered by Clemence 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you talked to her about how she treats you? Just because you don't hang out anymore isn't a reason not to still talk. Although, visiting should go both ways, unless she doesn't have a way to get to you or the money. You've been friends a long time and you might miss her, even if it's only an occasional talk. But if she continues insulting you, etc...after talking, then you are totally right to cut her out of your life. Who needs aggravation?
2006-12-31 14:38:36 · answer #3 · answered by mich 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do u feel ur up to it? because altho differences shouldn't stop two people from being friends, they do make the friendship harder, and so does distance. if u still feel that u love her enough (as a friend, of course~) and have the energy to keep this long distance friendship and thinks that she didn't mean the mean things she's done to you then i say u keep being friends with her.
Good Luck!
2006-12-31 14:44:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like one grew up.and the other didn't, but people change, or you pertend to be something your not, time away has reveiled you two very differnt people with little in common intrests
2006-12-31 16:16:53 · answer #5 · answered by hpylky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
think about it reversed: have u been mean to her at all even the slightest? cuz sum people go nuts even on the slightest little thing that they don't get their way.
2006-12-31 14:44:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whats in your heart about her? Go w/ that!
2006-12-31 14:04:19 · answer #7 · answered by lilly l 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no
2006-12-31 14:03:52 · answer #8 · answered by lady_drama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋