Okay, I have been going out with this guy who really llikes me, and I really like him. He is always pretending that he is breaking up with me. He really had me fooled one time. I was sooo mad, and then he called and said he was joking. He has done this twice now, and I am really starting to get annoyed. I don't want to break up with him, but I am afraid that his playing is gonna turn out to be real. What do I do?
2006-12-31 13:25:01 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Did you tell him that you don't like it? Talking to your partner is always the first step. But if he still pretends to break up with you all the time, he doesn't really like you, or at least he doesn't respect you. The next time he pretends to break up, pretend to break up right back. Don't let him upset you. He may like that. Take charge. Agree that it's over. He'll either learn his lesson or you'll be rid of him and you will find someone more mature.
2006-12-31 13:30:58 · answer #1 · answered by LoB 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know you like him a lot, but girlfriend...don't let him do that to you! Next time he pretends to break up with you, say to him "Oh..my god, really?? oh, okay...you know what...actually? I think your timing couldn't have been better because I was looking for a way to tell you I wasn't sure about you and me, but this worked out perfect! Thank you, I hope we can still be friends?? Cool, see you later!" and go home. He will be stunned. He wants to see how upset it gets you because it stokes his ego. DON'T DO IT. Two can play that game. If it ruins the relationship, then it was doomed anyway, and you can move on to more mature boys.
2006-12-31 13:37:02 · answer #2 · answered by Mysteri O 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to get yourself a less "childish" man. The next time the joke is played it needs to be on him, except it should be real.
He doesn't have your best interests at hand. Anyone who's ever been broken up with knows the hurt the initial break up causes. IF that boy cared about you he wouldn't want to hurt you.
Don't let him get his kicks off your pain and suffering.
2006-12-31 13:27:52 · answer #3 · answered by mycountryfamily 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do the same to him--and don't call him and tell him it was a joke for 3-4 days. He will get the idea.
He is on a sick little power trip because he knows he can upset you.
M
2006-12-31 13:28:18 · answer #4 · answered by maamu 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Making fun or jokes in a relationship is not right. Break-up with him, he is worthless. As of right now you got nothing to loose.
If he comes crawling back and saying he was just joking, tell him that "life is not a joke".
2006-12-31 13:31:12 · answer #5 · answered by Alastair S911 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't answer his calls. Wait for him to find you. Then, if/when he comes back, tell him your feelings and ask him WHY. Based on his response you should get a good idea as to if you should stay with this guy or not. Mind games aren't funny, aren't fair and he should not be playing them.
2006-12-31 13:29:21 · answer #6 · answered by bionicbookworm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What he's doing is very disrespectful. Can you have a heart-to-heart talk and let him know that his treatment has adverse effects? You are, I am afraid, teaching him that he can jerk you around with impunity. That's not good at all.
People who "joke around" with very serious stuff are not playing fair. I'd suspect he's got problems--maybe serious ones.
2006-12-31 13:30:40 · answer #7 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This young man is a control freak. What he is subjecting you to is mental, verbal and emotional abuse.
My advice is to run as far and as fast as you can. This situation will only get worse.
Best of luck to you in finding a REAL man.
2006-12-31 13:35:42 · answer #8 · answered by Sis 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him it's not funny. He is obvioiusly trying to get a reaction out of you. Or just say, "Ok" and go along with it for a couple of days, act like you're broken up and don't take his calls..
2006-12-31 13:27:01 · answer #9 · answered by Kiss My Shaz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pull the same "joke" on him, only do it for real. Sounds as if he likes to see how much you care for him. Sick way of doing it though.
2006-12-31 13:27:18 · answer #10 · answered by Sparkles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋