Was this a good way of handling this?

Question

My husband has a friend who is like a sister to him, she actually was the one who had introduced us. Come to find out she was acting like she liked me as a good friend but behind my back she had given my husband's cell phone # to another woman. She even had invited this same woman to attend a function that me and my husband were supposed to attend. Well to make a long story short, when she called the other day, I informed her that my husband had told me that she wanted him to meet this other woman and that I no longer wanted a relationship with her as a so called friend.. Did I handle this properly?

She knows that I had issues with him and an ex girlfriend prior to us getting married. when she introduced us, she had no idea he was going to fall in love with me so the way I look at it now she never liked me in the beginning. She wanted him to sleep with me and move on.

Answer 1

You did just fine. Hopefully, your husband isn't bothered about you telling her what he revealed to you. You are right in saying this woman was not your friend. She's not your husband's friend either, since she does not respect his marriage.

Answer 2

Stella
You said that this woman is like a sister to your husband and that she introduced the two of you. Have you considered that your husband has told her things about your relationship?
I am in no way saying that what she did is acceptable and what you said to her was completely appropriate and handled maturely.
I just feel that there is something else there that caused her to do what she did.
I would ask your husband why he feels she would do something like that and then contact her again and ask her the same question.

Answer 3

Good for you. There is now other way to handle a situation like that. Women can be such bitc**s, always jealous or envious of other women happiness. We are our worst enemies. Don't even give this other woman a second thought and remember know one has your back. Well except your hubby. Happy New Year!

Answer 4

Bravo to you!!!!!!!!! You are probably the first woman that didin't go an accuse the husband of cheating. I don't think it could of been handled any better than the way you did. Pat yourself on the back. Give your husband a big hug cause he shared it with you. And didn't try to handled it himself.

Answer 5

You handled it very tactfully, assuming it didn’t evolve into a screaming match with name-calling.

However, do you really think the fact that you don’t want to be friends with her anymore is going to bother her? It sounds like it’s your hubby that she really wants to be friends with. If the goal is to put an end to their friendship, then it needs to be your husband telling her it’s over.

Answer 6

Yes you did. She had no right to do that and you acted in the way that any normal person would have. As long as you weren't too rude or go out for revenge against her, you have come out the bigger person.

Answer 7

You sure did, wow you are a patient person! Most girls would freak out and do other things to that girl. You never even called her names in this post. To bad she ruined it for everyone.

Answer 8

yes and you should have also told her that if your husband wanted to be hooked up with her sluty little friends, he would not have married a classy superfox like you!

Answer 9

I'd say you handled it with class, which she obviously doesn't have. What she did wasn't acceptable. I think you handled it better than I would have, I probably would have yelled, but seriously, you did. No worries.

Answer 10

You handled it more tactfully than many women would have. As long as you have your husband's support, if not, it could get nasty.