i found him and he was everything i ever wanted for a month. then no calls no cards nothing and i had a hard life growing up i feel he ows me for bringing me in to the world and just leaving me its not fair his other kids have it all i get nothing he married on my birthday! im hurt and pissed that he dosent care how he has hurt me .
2006-12-31 13:17:07 · 9 answers · asked by rochelle C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
First of all, you are NOT the cause of his irresponsibility and leaving you (his child) behind .. that is because he is NOT a father, but just a sperm donor ... and used your mom.
Honey, this is going to sound difficult .. but do NOT BLAME YOURSELF. He is just a sperm donor ... and your ability to care and have feelings seems to stem from the great mothering you had throughout the years.
At this time you need to just start STEPPING Forward ... and get on with finding your path in life. You can take the lesson of seeing 1st hand an irresponsible 'sperm donor' in your life .. and with that knowledge, use it to remember that you DO NOT Have to settle for anyone less than the best.
YOUR Feelings come internally from YOU ... he has NO CONTROL over the way you feel -- even though he may be overtly trying to make you feel unwanted and bad. YOU are you ... and when you face the world with internal PEACE (and you have Self-Respect for the things you have accomplished in your life, your goals, and your dreams ...), then you WILL Be happy outside too.
2006-12-31 13:30:50 · answer #1 · answered by sglmom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im assuming that your talking about your dad?
If so, thats too bad. It must behard, to feel as though he has walked out on you "again".
do you have his address? If it were me, I think i would find a card, something along the lines of ending relationship? or missing you? i'd know the one when i found it. then maybe, write something short and to the point of: You can never know how thankful i am to finally meet the man, i spent my childhood longing to have in my life. I always dreamed of it being a lifelong recenceliation. Sorry this isn't what worked out best for you. Always in my dreams, Love,
ok maybe some of it , or ?? or ?? maybe not??
good luck
2006-12-31 21:34:20 · answer #2 · answered by Mikez Bad Girl soCal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
According to another post you made, you're 34 years old.
You should be well past this point of letting anything your father has done bother you.
You can decide to give him your life by being upset and mad over what's happened or take back your life and make the rest of your years better than they were while growing up.
There's nothing he or anyone can do to change to the past. You have to live in the present and enjoy what good there is in it now.
2006-12-31 21:22:22 · answer #3 · answered by mycountryfamily 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you make your own life hell, I have seen people with worse things happening to them make a personal decision to not let anything get them down and succeed beyond all odds.
So unless you let go of that hate baggage nothing in life will work out for you because in the long run you live with you all time, everyone else is optional.
2006-12-31 21:23:02 · answer #4 · answered by Tapestry6 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I also grew up w/o my dad. The day I realized that he wasn't a super hero or any of the romanticised ideals I had, my life got a lot easier. He's a human being, and a seriously faulted one it would seem. You may never forget the pain and loss but try to put it behind you as it could not possibly be your fault. I'm sorry you hurt.
2006-12-31 21:22:36 · answer #5 · answered by daisyjzmum 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are obviously hurting and though I'm not sure what exactly your question is, I'm sorry for the pain you seem to be feeling. I hope you are able to work things out soon.
2006-12-31 21:20:47 · answer #6 · answered by Kassondra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my dad was always physically been there for me since birth but not emotionally and i know where you are coming form there is no way you can force him to care i mean what you need to do is use the frustration he has left you with and build some thing positive use it to make you stronger but not emotionally numb because that could ruin future relationships for you
2006-12-31 21:25:53 · answer #7 · answered by zena_mathis 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
wow. . at times many of us with that we can pick our parents but that is not an option. we are stuck with the parents we have. and not all are the best so atleast try to remember that all are not as well off as you are.
2006-12-31 21:23:12 · answer #8 · answered by *Rayne* 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And your pathetic question is???
2006-12-31 21:19:06 · answer #9 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋