2006-12-31 13:07:52 · 34 answers · asked by Little Lady 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No , not at all.
2006-12-31 13:09:44 · answer #1 · answered by BlueBird70 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your son is now married and has a wife he has started a new part of his life if he wants you around he will let you know. Otherwise it is time to cut the perverbial cord and let him live his life. Be happy he has found someone and has moved out you could be one of those moms that has a son that likes staying at home until he is 40 yrs old. God Bless and now its your time to live life as well travel see the world do things that you couldn't do when he was baggage.
2006-12-31 13:13:46 · answer #2 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your son has a wife now. She should be absolutely, no exceptions, number one to him. Don't get too involved. I would also recommend being PART of his life, but don't get involved unsolicited. Think of it as - he is still your son, but first and foremost he is a husband to his wife. How would you have felt if your husband was up his mom's butt all the time when you first got married? Also, like her, even if you don't, pretend very hard like you do. Don't get involved in their personal affairs and don't butt in when they have an argument.
You may think your son is perfect, but he's bound to have flaws. His wife sees them and may be aggravated, the worst thing you can do is try to defend him to her. There are a lot of things his wife knows about him that you don't and if you get involved in anything or say something bad about her to him, he may become upset with you once they make up. Don't ever try to come between them.
2006-12-31 13:47:39 · answer #3 · answered by lookinforanswers 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes and No. Yes its ok to be a part of his life or want to be still included in things. But also at the same time they (he) does need some space so that they can get adjusted to each other. And get you those grandkids that you can spoil rotten!!!!!!!!!!! And tell them about their dad at their age. Go out to, eat invite them over for a dinner (an open invitation of course) Let them both know you will be there when needed. But importantly let them breathe he won't and hasn't forgotten he's just taking to to get to know his new bride. And that she is as important as you are in his life. Give them time. Enjoy your freedom and do the things you didn't have time to do before.
2006-12-31 13:18:40 · answer #4 · answered by william h 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's not wrong to want to be a part of your sons life. BUT.... You must remember that he's forging a new relationship with his bride, and they have to be able to build their lives together their own way. EVEN IF you see them reinventing the wheel so to speak, and making some of the same errors you did when you were young. MAKE SURE they know that you love them both, and that you're always there for them, and ready to help with advice anytime they need it. But nosing into their lives will only get you hurt when they get tired of unwelcome or ill timed intrusions.
2006-12-31 13:15:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO, it's not wrong, bec you're his mother and you;ll always be a part of his life forever. But certainly after he's married, there's a limit for you as his wife will be the most important woman in his life, 2nd after God. Some mothers are difficult to accept that, I know. But if you don't accept that, it will hurt his wife and his marriage.
2007-01-01 08:19:39 · answer #6 · answered by bogey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, Its not wrong for you to want to still be a part of his life. You are his mother afterall. But try to keep in mind his wife is the woman of their home. You got to make your home yours. You were a wife & mother so you should remember how easily it was for your MIL's input to rock your world. Let her have her turn at being the Mrs's. Your son will always be your son... Give her a chance to be HIS wife.
2006-12-31 13:16:51 · answer #7 · answered by Amy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can be a part of your son's life, but not so much that you start to be comparable to Marie from Everybody Loves Raymond. A nice thing to do is arrange to have lunch or coffee with him one day a week. This is something my mom and I plan to do after I move out.
2006-12-31 21:41:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it isn't wrong. You are still his mother and always will be but, your part in his life will change. His wife comes first. You have certain limits now. You can't interfere with his marriage. That would be a big mistake and cause major problems in the marriage and between you and them. You have to let go. If he needs you, he will ask.
2006-12-31 13:15:20 · answer #9 · answered by baby_doll 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO not at all as long as you do not interfere. We never stop loving and caring for our children and only want them to be happy. You have to remember he is a married adult now and has a wife who also is a big part of his life. As long as you can accept that she will probably be more or at least equally important in his life as you are, everyone will get along fine. If you start telling them what to do and interfering in their lives, you had better be prepared to step aside as they will not allow you in theirs lives at all !!
2006-12-31 13:24:30 · answer #10 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been married 3 times and divorced 3 times...why you ask? Mom in law couldn't give son space and realize that he has a new woman on his life.
2006-12-31 13:10:30 · answer #11 · answered by Lisa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋