Is it a lack of effort to find a soul mate, or merely a matter of it not being your time yet?
2006-12-31 13:02:30 · 13 answers · asked by Fox Paws 6 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
For me it is my Purpose. I truly believe that without a doubt in my mind, and I'm okay with that. I've experienced Love in so many ways throughout my short years on this earth, and while I have found many a brave one who dared enter my krazy world, only a few have survived. I don't think it's lack of effort at all....for some reason I want to quote the army and say I'm an army of one, but for me....when I've found the one who I can be 'alone together' with, then I will no longer be lonely.
2006-12-31 18:32:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
What lies at the heart of loneliness?
I've sat thinking about this question forever.... and personally, for me, I think it is mistakes from the past. We find pain in some decision we've made. So we say we learn from it. But the truth is, I learn to avoid situations that remind me of the past. That present themselves in a way that I fear will turn out like before....
What purpose does that serve? It means I inevitably remove myself from the very people I crave being around..... merely out of fear of what "might" happen again.
So I make a mental list of every fine trait in humankind that I know I want to surround myself with. But are my expectations now just totally unrealistic? *shrugs* I think they might be. Is that intentional? Is that my way of protecting myself always? *shrugs* I just don't know. But more and more I find myself trying to dip my big toe in to test the waters... just to see if I can handle myself better now. Perhaps you are right..... it just might not be my time yet. Or do I keep letting "my time" pass me by... time and time again?
2007-01-01 14:54:34 · answer #2 · answered by Marianne not Ginger™ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's both. Some people think you need someone to not be lonely when you can be in a relationship and be lonely. Which would lead one to say that it is a lack of effort.
It all depends on who you ask.
2006-12-31 21:05:42 · answer #3 · answered by FSUgurl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
low self confidence within oneself can lead someone to believe that they arent worth much and therefore would believe that there is no one out there for them. it doesnt help when there are influences out in the world such as models proclaiming that they are what erveryone should look like and that you are fat if you dont step up to their level. influences such as these lead most people to believe that they are not good enough for anyone and therfore resulting in low self esteem and loneliness.
2006-12-31 21:08:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not being comfortable with yourself as a person. If you aren't satisfied with the person you are, then it tends to show in your dealings with others.
2006-12-31 21:06:13 · answer #5 · answered by marklemoore 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's not your time yet. It can happen when you least expect it. No use going to look for it. It will come to you.
2006-12-31 21:06:43 · answer #6 · answered by Bilinda G 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
for me...
i get lonely when the realization of me as being alone, i mean literally alone and living my own life...i dont have an immediate family all i have are relatives and friends...that makes me lonely
2006-12-31 21:05:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow is this a poem? let me try....
lack of effort!
2006-12-31 21:12:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
an empty hole that needs to be filled - could be because of any of the reasons you gave and more.
2006-12-31 21:07:02 · answer #9 · answered by Bubuchachum 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think its about timing myself iam still looking
2006-12-31 21:22:50 · answer #10 · answered by earthygirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋