i do as i am told and the people get the outcome that they usually are lookinf for. Yet, for what ever reason and they keep it from me, they still seem severly disappointed with me.
2006-12-31 12:44:45 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i do not know
mabey you should ask them?
2006-12-31 12:46:29 · answer #1 · answered by princess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are we talking parents, peer, partners??
Need a little more info here........
Some ideas:
Maybe you are listening to and trying to please people you shouldn't. Or that can't be pleased anyway.
Maybe you are going overboard with doing what you are told. Don't be a doormat for people to walk on.
Remember you have opinions about things and you may find that your way of doing something is better for you than their way. Don't be a robot waiting for instructions.
Could there be a reason you are disappointed in yourself and it's causing you to perceive other peoples feelings in a negative manner?
Hang in there....I had a son who could NEVER follow directions, was ALWAYS in trouble, very negative about himself and after many hard lessons and growing years.....he has turned out to be a great Dad, husband and son. He's proof that there is HOPE even when you think no one appreciates you!
2006-12-31 12:58:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The main thing you're doing wrong is putting so much importance on what others want from you.
If you know you're giving everything your all, then don't worry about what others want. There are people in the world who can NEVER be pleased and you will cause yourself great torment by worrying about it.
If they are that disappointed, it may not even be you. Sometimes people are so unhappy with THEMSELVES that everything around them is a disappointment.
Keep giving it your all and remember God sees what good you have done and that's what's most important!!
2006-12-31 12:49:00 · answer #3 · answered by mycountryfamily 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF you are talking parents, you just need to say, "What am I doing wrong, I do all that you ask of me." Sometimes it's not they who are disappointed but you feel that way, make sure they actuall do feel that way and it's not just your own perception.
If you are an adult and you feel people in general are disappointed in your, let me tell you what I have learned.
Until I was 30 years old, I did everything I was suppose to do, pleased people. When I finally stood up and said no more, because I realized people didn't like me, they used me as a door mate, things got better.
Being good, being honorable as a human being is about making good choices, not doing everything everyone else thinks you should be doing.
Decide what you believe in and live that.
Be authentically you. Do be everything everyone else thinks you need to be and you'll be surprised that you'll actually begin to make friends who'll like you for you.
People may like to boss others around, tell them what to do, but they don't want that type of person as a friend. They see such people as emotionally week, borning.
If you like to read and others don't, read anyway and one day you'll find freinds who like to read.
Be sincere with others, but not bossy.
Be kind and charitable, do kind things for others, such as volunteer.
Find out what's important to you and work and live up to those things.
Find things to do that are clean fun and you'll in time find other friends who like the things you do.
NEVER EVER GOSSIP. WHY? Because sadly everyone seems to want to hear gossip, but no one likes to be gossiped about.
Learn to make your own positive healthy choices whether you are a child or adult. If you are under 18, like all of us had to in life, you do have to obey the home rules and respect parents even though there are times you don't agree with them. But you can still learn to make your own choices, find your own interests in life.
People are attracted to other people who know what they like, who can stand for their morals and values despite what is going on around them.
You don't have to do everything everyone tells you to be liked, I promise you that. Once I stood up for myself, stopped being the doormate and doing everything I thought I had to do or was told, I actually made better friends, friends that value me.
GOOD LUCK
2006-12-31 13:16:25 · answer #4 · answered by Mountain Bear 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because maybe they are being selfish, and greedy. Stop pleasing everyone so they really have a reason to feel that way, and maybe theyll respect u more.
2006-12-31 12:51:21 · answer #5 · answered by i_shout_plz_care_4_each_other 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is easy. Nobody respects a person that does everything they tell em to. Ur a man be strong for ur self.
2006-12-31 13:03:09 · answer #6 · answered by Simply 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get some backbone and stand up for yourself, be yourself. Do what you like, not what everyone else wants you to do. You will be much happier!!!
2006-12-31 12:46:52 · answer #7 · answered by ma 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe they think that if they express their true feelings you would stop doing what they ask. Maybe they think you will strive to do better the next time.
2006-12-31 12:49:27 · answer #8 · answered by icanbeyoursmile 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have no idea im sorry. try asking them. maybe they think you can do better, and want to push you to be better. im sorry i cannot help more, but good luck!!! :D:D:D
2006-12-31 12:54:49 · answer #9 · answered by intherain; 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
same with me! i just don't care anymore, u?
2006-12-31 12:46:40 · answer #10 · answered by SinisterKid 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋