my husband seems to think that my dicisions were based in great part on yahoo,s answers (its not) he has told me so many reasons as to why he does meth and why he cant stop.anyway he said he would go to rehab and give me his complete checks over to me,ive heard all this before and i dont trust what he says at all any more, because he lies very well and is abusive ,mostly verble,threatens me constanly ,im sure its because hes scared but then so am I.am divorcing him and he wants it to stop and him stay in the home.1. First of all he said he would have his work check put in my name and sent dirrectly to me it never happend he said his employer would not do it , even though im half owner of his truck it in writing. 2.when hes on a down time from meth he dont work a lot and has lied in past and told me there was no work so i called to verify sure enough he was suppose to be working I have no control over anything (except for his heart).3. he spends his money before he gets it .
2006-12-31 12:43:25 · 24 answers · asked by cindybells 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I dont know if hes just really bad with monet or if its the meth he thinks he has to do everything and buy everything right now he demands it like right now its the down time of year for his work and has to barrow money evry month to pay bills he allready had but went out and got a 2005 dodge 4 door truck at 750.00 per month he has bad creadit but this price does include insurance ,what was he thinking with.hes told me that he likes doing meth,Who the hell am I to keep asking him to stop what he likes so much and im so tierd of trying .
2006-12-31 12:56:24 · update #1
HE WANTS TO GO TO REHAB AND WANTS ANOTHER CHANCE TO KICK ADDICTION iM SAYING NO WHAT DO YOU ALL THINK
2006-12-31 12:59:04 · update #2
to evey one that has answered my Questios on yahoo answers in the past and presant.Thankyou very much for your opinions they have been and still are what I allready thought and felt that I should do.You all have been the impartial voices (not freinds or family) The situation is very over welming for him and I.Its so f... n hard.And for the record I dont do drugs and don,t drink alcohal but maybe 4 to 6 times (per year).Thank you from cindy.
2007-01-01 05:26:37 · update #3
if his lifestyle doesn't agree with you then he's not right for you. Get your divorce and go find another guy. If he can't leave you alone, nothing helps a person renew there life better then relocation. even if its temporary, just don't tell him where your going.
2007-01-08 07:04:41 · answer #1 · answered by Krista 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Got no Idea what age group you are in but I am familiar with the problems created by the availability of very pure Meth.
"Ice" is addictive as hell! Reality is it is probrably a crutch that has become an obsesion.
Even trying to put him into rehab is not likely to help.
Options I could reccomend other than ditching this person you have pledged to help through thick and thin-Please try to help Him-he needs it.
Water the stuff down big time! Make it sooo weak that he can fall asleep 2 hours later! Then when it is time to go "Cold Turkey" he won't suffer the withdrawels. Substitute Caffiene pills if it helps at the time of breaking away!
Move! Get him out of the environment that he is in and go somewhere where Mexican "Ice" is not so readily availabe.
What is another desperate but in my opinion very dangerous and foolhardy manuvere(He might have several sources anyway) is to report his supplier. Unfortunately you will find that without correcting the addiction, that it will just be a short term solution!
For what it is worth, all through the 50's and 60's Speed was readily available and even Elvis loved the stuff-Why do you think so many of the great generation needed false teeth?
Also, what in the world do you think is the key ingredient in medicine for AADD and ADD-Idiot parents trying to keep their kids alert in school are just supplying very weak speed!-DUH!!!
In closing, I would again like to EMPHASIZE that it is the PURITY that is the single biggest reason so many Americans are getting strung out-It does a real number on your pleasure senses at the purer level-Instant Addiction!
If you ever really loved your husband stay with him and help him-he needs you more than his addicted mind even knows!
2006-12-31 13:03:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart,
All the lies he has had come out of his mouth, are the meth talking. He has a nasty habit that has taken over him. Think of seeing him in the window of a mental institution. Would the things he says and does make you feel the same way? You are dealing with addiction. I would highly recomend finding the closest alanon/narcotics anonymous group that you can for YOUR sanity. I am about to start going to an adult children of alcoholic's meeting and a narcotic's anonymous meeting here in St Paul Mn. I do not know where you are, but find out where you can go for the support you need to stay sane and healthy. You are beautiful and you deserve the very best in life. Do not ever settle for abuse. We were not put on this earth for that kind of treatment. From ,my heart to yours, sister.
2007-01-08 11:48:48 · answer #3 · answered by sheila h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I too have heard it all from my husband who is addicted to crack. Because of his addiction we are now separated for the upteenth time (I have lost count). As you know it is a very hard situation to be in. So much has happened so can't go in to details here but an incident that happened recently has me more determined than ever to stay separated until he gets help and stays with that help. I wish you all the best. I realize I haven't given you anything to work with, just wanted to let you know that you are not alone.
2007-01-06 21:54:02 · answer #4 · answered by ctsnowmiss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie I went by a similar difficulty I watch the main impressive guy interior the worldwide replace right into a monster. he went from 2 hundred pounds to a hundred and twenty pounds in a month. Meth is taking the country over and it variety of sounds like no possible do something approximately it. you have caught with this guy for 7 years i think of you have given him extra advantageous than sufficient risk. you do not want you young little ones becoming up thinking that's ok. specific all young little ones want a daddy yet not a meth head. they're loopy and its not your husband anymore its the medicine. you will desire to bypass away to your little ones. What in case you stayed and one night on his loopy rage he killed you do you recognize what that would desire to do on your little ones. you're able to do extra helpful than this guy you will locate somebody that loves you and could not bypass away you mentally for drugs. i'm specific your husband loves you your husband not the guy that has taken him over. you will desire to enable bypass and shop your little ones from an entire life of unsureness.sturdy luck
2016-10-19 07:23:13 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
KLet him go to rehab, reiterate that this is his last chance, if he does not kick the habit, get rid of him before he drags you down with him. While he's doing it, it's very important that you are supportive and encouraging. If he really wants to, with time and with your help, he can change.
If he doesn't, MAYBE, you leaving will be the kick in the *** he needs. If not, at least you got out of a bad situation.
Good luck
2006-12-31 14:00:08 · answer #6 · answered by lookinforanswers 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I really feel for you on this. My brother is a cocaine addict and we have been dealing with this for 5 years now. He got divorced and his drug use skyrocketed. He lost his car, his home and finally after his 2nd failed drug test ..lost his job. He is 47 yrs old..living with his dad...driving a car in dads name..we have sent him to 4 rehab places..just got out of one a few months ago..he preaches the 12 step program and says he is clean and all is well...but I have heard it ALL before..I have told him it will take time for me to believe him...So sad to have gone from a wife and 2 beautiful daughters..70,000 a yr job to being 47 and have nothing...working for 8.00 an hour doing manuel labor..my brother would sleep alot when he ws off drugs...i think because on the drugs he did not sleep..this is a terrible thing to face adn there is no quick fix answer...he will not get clean for you..for his job..for his kids..he has to do it for HIMSELF..I alwasy heard that when they hit rock bottom they would get help..ZI thought loosing everything was rock bottom for my brother..but as it turns out his rock bottom seemed to be the fact that he was not allowed to live at daddys anymore..so it was either the streets or rehab...but time will tell.. God Bless you and yours...
2006-12-31 12:55:59 · answer #7 · answered by JIM D 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
how many times have u forgiven him, and waited patiently to see changes, how many times has he made u promises and broken them? how many lies has he told u? he is wasting your life, and putting u in a bad environment, and eventually will pull u down to his level. of course he wants to stay in the home, it's safe with u, u don't hold him accountable when he messes up. Truth is until he has to suffer some serious pain he won't change. until he hits rock bottom and sees the drugs are taking him no where but to the road to hell, there won't be any changes. u weren't created to be abused and lied to. seek some counseling, and some spiritual therapy, so u can get past this man.
2006-12-31 12:52:21 · answer #8 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I will type slowly. Dont try to ask a guestion and at the same time make yourself look like a queen. You promised him life, under all circumstances,did you not? If you didnt, sorry but that is what the words meant. If you didnt understand them, sorry that your are ignorance of the language. Maybe you should have been straight when you took the vows or you should have asked for clarification.
2006-12-31 12:58:15 · answer #9 · answered by Mr. JW 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If his life's decisions are based on what's said here then here's a good but very hard way to start his rehabilitation process, and I hope everyone else shares my sentiments:
Kick his sorry loser pathetic behind to the curb. Sounds like he needs to lose everything to get himself a wakeup call, IF that's even possible. Sounds like you've given enough chances. Now it's time for you to take control of YOUR life.
2006-12-31 12:53:35 · answer #10 · answered by Tiberius 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋