I found out January 2006, he said they never slept with eachother(this was via email). I trusted him, got married April 2006 (found out I was pregnant again). August I found all kinds of extra marital affair ads and emails. We got counseling then he posted another ad! December 2006 he finally admitted to sleeping with her, WTF!?
2006-12-31 12:43:16 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
its up to you but just so you know if you don't forgive him if you stay together it will never work out.that means no bringing it up when you fight and etc.it will be hard but it can work if he doesnt do it again.
2006-12-31 13:39:20 · answer #1 · answered by india 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if you choose to forgive him, you will not forget. No matter how hard you try! Short of a labotomy, you will have the memories of that pain he caused you. You will feel "unstable and unsure" of his commitment to you, and then what happens when you get pregnant again (if you do) ? That doesn't give him a "weekend/9 month pass) to start sleeping with someone else. It has forever damaged your trust, and whether you choose to believe it or not, it will affect your relationship in so many negative/unresolved ways.. It will creep up again and again, cause fights, distrust, and most likely resentment... You can do better than that! You shouldn't have to feel like you have to "look over shoulder" to see what he might be doing behind your back.
2006-12-31 14:20:07 · answer #2 · answered by catchernkeeper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u went through counseling with him, and forgave him, and still he felt the need to post ads for the purpose of being with someone else. he is a liar also. he is still up to his old tricks, goes right back to his same old ways. where do u go with all this, where is the good life u are suppose to have? u obviously set some boundaries with him, and still he doesn't take u seriously. sometimes we have to actually leave something that is hurting us and move forward. i would have forgiven him once, but if he is placing adds again than u can see his intentions.
2006-12-31 12:59:31 · answer #3 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only way to forgive him is to move on. Get a divorce and make sure you get childsupport. You will never have a honest relationship. Honesty is number one in a relationship for me. Good Luck,
2006-12-31 12:54:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice is to leave him. It does not sound like he plans on changing. I know it's hard, but don't love a fantasy. People change because THEY want to, not because someone else wants them to. It may hurt now, but a few years down the road, you'll be happier.
Good luck and stay strong.
2006-12-31 14:15:29 · answer #5 · answered by lookinforanswers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you already know the answer to this question. You've got to just build up the courage to do what you know is right. You can do bad by yourself.
2006-12-31 12:47:09 · answer #6 · answered by hiclaude 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NEGATIVE! I'm sorry to hear about your situation,but,once a cheat,always a cheat. How dare he disrespect you,of all times while you're carrying his child! Divorce him.
2006-12-31 23:38:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heck no!!!Take him for everything you can. Did that when you were pregnant? Teach him a lesson girlfriend
2006-12-31 12:45:42 · answer #8 · answered by ma 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Kick him to the curb!
Some men, Idiots!
2006-12-31 13:18:56 · answer #9 · answered by Ŗεŋεε 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sister, must you have 3rd degree burns before you realize it is HOT???
2006-12-31 13:23:17 · answer #10 · answered by zita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋