How do I stop getting depressed?

Question

I suffered from depression last yr and now Im better, but Ive had an operation in Dec to remove a tumour and now I have complications like an infection and now Im leaking loads and loads of fluid and part of the wound has opened. Im starting to feel depressed and worried that I will have to go back into hospital and I dont know how to stop the depression, taking hold of me. Im 25 with a husband and 2 yr old son.

Answer 1

Ookay, since I saw someone already said take an antidepressant, which is the DRUG UM SOCIETY ideal.

You have real life problems, understand it's normal to have some depression when you life is on the line, when you are going through life altering problems. I have multiple medical issue and it's easy to get depressed when you can't do the things you once did. I'm in constant pain, etc.

There are no flip, easier answers, but I can share a few ideas. It's up to you what you do with them.

Depression, when not bio-chemical such as people with Bi-Polar, serious on going mental illnesses. Most depression isn't a biochemical reactions, I know, because I did the reserach and even asked the national Institutes of Mental health why they now say that depression is biochemical, there answer was because when you don't say that, people won't seek treatment. I know for a fact more people will take drugs, then change life behaviors, thinking. If you really need medication, then okay, but sometimes it's how we view things, struggles that cause us to be depressed and not all depresison is abnormal, though we here in america and act like it is. It's normal to feel deep depression while learning to deal with an on going illness. After the loss of a loved one. We act like the only feeling that anyone should have is happiness and if we are not always happy we need pills.

Now having lived with depression most of my life because of serious abuse as a child and not getting the right help even when I begged for it, I know how much depression can make life hard. I know how it is depressing to be sick, want to do things and you just can't anymore.

Try learning this breathing tecnique as it can help anxiety and depression. Breath in through your nose, out thorugh your mouth; breathing in slowly, out slowly. Do it twenty times and see if you feel more relaxed, a tiny bit better. Learn to breath this way and you'll feel a tiny bit better. It also helps healing by helping to oxygenate the body better.

Having a Tumor is a big deal, not a little thing. Learning to accept a disease, illness without allowing it to make one feel hopeless takes effort, thought changes. Accept your illness, be honest about it, but don't live as the woman who might die from a tumor and had to have it removed. So far you have survied, that's something positive.

Having a suportive husband will help if he is. Ask loved ones for the help you need, while doing what you can for yourself.

If you are too tired to play with your son the normal games, find new things to do that take less energy. Read, play and make up bed games. Play lets imagine and have him tell you his own made up stories, you can teach him by making up small stories and telling them to him. If he can't talk yet. Have him bring cars and other toys to your bed and let him play in your bed if you have to be in bed or need to rest.

Do something, whatever it is you can do. If you use to walk five miles a day, but can't anymore, walk one block if you can. Physical activity is proven to help depression because it activates the Dopamine Receptors in the brain.

PRAY, believe me it helps. Pray for others, not just yourself and express gratitute to your Heavenly Father who what you do have.

If you have to go back to the hospital, accept it, do your best. Worring about things we can't change causes depression. I wish I could change and not have heart problems, diabetes, painful, painful neuropathy, and several other medical probelms that I've had since I was young and I'm not 41 and wonder if it will ever get better. I just chose to do the best I can each day. I could die tonight, it wouldn't be out of the question, but if I wake up tomorrow I'll do my best that day.

Talk to others who have gone through cancer if your Tumor was cancerous. Ask for advice from other cancer survivors. Go to a cancer support group if it's that type of Tumor.

As for your wound, if it's opened up, DO GO BACK TO THE SURGEON SOONER THEN SCHEDULED. IT NEED CHECKED, but under no condition close it up as if it's infected being open will help it drain out and not spread throughout your body.

Do as much as you can each day, it may not be what you could do, but do your best, be excepting of limitations for now and believe you things can get better with patients and time. If you only believe they'll get worse, you're depression will grow and over take you before you know it.

You are young, regardless of if your Tumor was cancerous, do your best. Believe you can be well. There is a book you should read called: Love, Medicine and Miracles by Dr. Bernie S. Siegel, M.D. I read it about ten or fifteen years ago. It may help you put things into perspective and feel a little better.

SURROUND YOURSELF with people hwo are sincere and supportive, but who do not deny your feeling or the realities of your life situation.

Enjoy each moment that you can. Accept the down times and accept that good times are ahead.

My prayers are with you and your family.

GOOD LUCK

Answer 2

FIRST things PILLS no no no as you know what is wrong with you mean i mean if we all took pills every time something was going wrong in are life we would all be classed as DEPRESSED i wouldnt call it depression i would call this FRUSTRATION as hun i think you know when this surgery is all sorted you will feel so much more better you feel down at the moment because of what is going on i am sure a 2 yr old dont help as i have a 3yr old and that makes everything seem two times stressfull as everyting is time time and want want want.... then at your age its also a husband and at your age its wanting your sexuailty back i would feel down to hun here is my email address if you want to talk [e-mail] i think what you need is family friends and support not a doctor ITS COMMON SENSE WHAT WRONG WITH YOU

thats what i hate about UK the goverment and health and social care

doctors oh your ill ok here is a prescription...here some pills

social services not that i have experienced problems like this one of my friends did oh ok we had a call we are taking your child into care for awhile till we understand what is going on but its for your childs best interest but they dont know they child

sorry just i dont like when i hear people saying PILLS doctors social services without using common sense first

Answer 3

I can imagine, you're pretty scared and unhappy....i think you have to remember that you have your husband and your son...spend time with them, spend time with family and friends...these are your support system. They love you and all you need to do is ask for help and I'm pretty sure (from my own past experience) they will be there for you when you need them.

Being that you have been sick, talking to a doctor and letting them know how you feel and the fears that you have...they will be able to understand and give you advice on how to go about it. They may give you anti-depressants, they may tell you to see a counsellor, or give you other methods wether they be natural or chemical. As cliche as it sounds, exercise and eating healthy really really does help (i know this too from past experience). Getting fit may not directly help with your fears of going back to hospital, but a healthy body heals faster...and being fit also can just make you generally feel clearer and happier.

Just speaking to people who are positive can turn your mood around. Even finding people who have been through a similar experience and gotten through it. BUT whatever you do...DO NOT eat to make the pain go away, DO NOT drink or take drugs...they only bring more problems down the track.

I pray that all will be well with you: mind body and soul :)

Answer 4

I can totally relate to what you feeling. I get depressed in the winter months and its hard to break out of. Stop thinking all the negative thoughts that your having.. Your problems are not that bad.. lots of people have it much worse. Let your worries go and concentrate on the positive things. If you can excersice that will help a great deal also. Hope u feel better.. Happy New Year !

Answer 5

You are brave, don't forget this. It is not surprising you are feeling depressed, and, learning to live with difficult health circumstances is very very hard. Go back to the health professionals, tell them what you need and go all out to get it.

You have a husband and a son, with them beside you, you have the power to say what is happening and how you are feeling, and, there are health professionals who have the knowledge to do their best for you, it is their duty. It is your duty to accept that it is ok to feel low you have been through a lot.

Find something you love to do, listen to music, relax with the tv, read a book, write down you r feelings, draw a picture, play with your beautiful child, and if you are a person who does not like asking for help, ask now, make it your new year resolution to get what you need. Go with it and don't fight it too much, you deserve some tender loving care and it starts with you. Be demanding of professionals, they get paid well to use their expertise! I wish you well.

Answer 6

Honey, first let me say I hope good things for you and your on the right path because you know how to ask for help.I don't know if you believe in God but you need to talk to him and pray hard you have a baby who needs you here and prayer so helped me with my depression because I couldn't stop crying or pick my head up and I didn't want to tell anyone. I just have a bad childhood and as I got older things got harder.Please talk to your doctor and see what he can give you or talk to someone anyone who will just shut up and listen.You have to realize you are important and have to put yourself number 1 for a while until you feel better.And sometimes thats soon and sometimes it takes a while.And if your on special meds maybe they can change them because this can become dangerous.

Answer 7

tell people around you how u feel and ask them to support you more. i.e. your husband could do more with your 2 year old son as am sure he is taking up a lot of your energy right now. also you could try have alternative therapy or spiritual healing as it can work for some people..

A colleague of mine takes St. Johns Wort which is a herbal remedy to fend off depression and she swears that it works. Finally, allow yourself time out to feel low because it seems that there is a hell of a lot going on for u right now and physically your body is trying to get well so it will impact on your mental health.

Answer 8

Depression is about not problem solving. When we feel stuck ad afraid we have to options to become depressed or fight back and make changes. Sounds like ur feeling sorry for yourself (which is understandable) you could try changing the way you feel about your life and start doing affirmations to overcome the fear you r experiencing.

Good luck

Answer 9

Hi..am sorry to hear your situation..but don't stress your self out the way u do...talk to your husband.Go to doctor on a regular bases for what u suffering with.Remember u've got a son and a husband that needs u.U are they family..u can't afford to stress yourself that way...stop having negatives thoughts..and start feeling confident,eat right,read interesting books,watch your favorite movies,visit friends and family..and believe u r strong..for god will direct your path..and take away what ever sickness u have.May God Bless u and your family..hoping that u will get well soon.

Answer 10

Pretty hard to answer cause everyone is different but have u tried medication from the doctor? Some people feel better when they get out, find something to make yourself useful, it helps to feel u have a purpose. Cognitive behavioural therapy is pretty good as they give u coping technics for different situations, or try talk to someone about it, it helps when people understand, they can help u. I hope u feel better soon hun good luck