me and my fiance want a baby he go 5 with 2 other women including twins. im inlove. with him and want a baby for him were gettin married in 3years. the last woman 2 have a child for him i absoluetly hate her. she wants him back an uses the kids 2 try and get him. she calls him about 20x a day. but im confused by him he wants a baby but is askin 4 an abortion. i feel very intimidated by this woman
2006-12-31 11:38:44 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
It sounds like you're in a very messy situation, but right now you need to concentrate on protecting yourself and your baby. First off, resolve that you're not going to hurt your baby for anyone, not your fiance, not his ex-girlfriend, not anyone. It's not your baby's fault that your fiance is being a jerk and that his ex wants him back. Your baby is totally innocent in all of this.
Remember, your fiance is legally obligated to provide financial support for his child whether he likes it or not. Maybe he will come around and marry you and be a father, and maybe he won't, but either way, you need to do what is right. This is his chance to prove what kind of a man he really is. If he is asking you to abort, he is not showing love for either you or your baby.
Please make sure you have all the facts, to help you stay strong. It may be helpful to show your fiance some of this information as well:
Photos and Video of Abortions, Including 1st Trimester Abortions:
http://www.cbrinfo.org/Resources/pictures.html
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-4-video.html
Photos and Facts About Prenatal Development:
http://www.justthefacts.org/clar.asp
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-2-prenatal.html
http://www.studentsforlife.uct.ac.za/foetal%20dev%20photos.html
http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/in_pictures/3847319.stm
Abortion Risks:
http://afterabortion.info/complic.html
http://www.abortionfacts.com/reardon/effect_of_abortion.asp
http://www.teenbreaks.com/abortion/complicationsgirls.cfm
Abortion Deaths:
http://www.lifedynamics.com/Pro-life_Group/Pro-choice_Women
http://www.afterabortion.info/news/abortiondeaths.html
http://www.lifeissues.org/ru486/deaths.htm
Free, Confidential Pregnancy Help (including referrals for financial, medical, legal, and housing assistance; free pregnancy tests and ultrasounds; free maternity and baby supplies; pregnancy, parenting, and adoption information; counseling and emotional support):
http://www.optionline.org/advantage.asp (or call 1-800-395-HELP)
Ultimately, you can't control your fiance's behavior, only your own. Do the right thing and protect your son or daughter. Be strong for your baby.
2007-01-01 02:51:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you have to think hard about whether he is the type of man you want to be the father of your children. Consider that he has a responsibility to the children he already has and this other, intimidating woman will ALWAYS be a part of your lives if you stay with him.
I agree with someone else who has suggested adoption if you are already pregnant. Don't get an abortion, it will not ensure his love if he is threatening you to get one "or else" he'll leave you... if you give in on this one you will give in all the time. Think about what's best for YOU and for the CHILD and do that. And I really do seriously recommend that you consider whether this is the man for you and for your life.
You're making big decisions. Think hard before you commit to someone who doesn't seem trustworthy or really a good "catch".
Good luck and God bless.
2006-12-31 20:04:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thats your personal choice, it's not up to him whether or not you keep the baby. His choice ended when he decided not to cover up and/or ensure you were protected. Unless he can prove you intentially got pregnant sabatoging his attempts at protection then he'll be held responsible. Abortion is very drastic and last cause sort of thing. If you do it just for him you may end up regretting it and there is NO going back. Ignore the other woman, don't let her rent space in your head. She has ever right to be calling they have kids together, but you'll prove to be the stronger one if you learn to accept that and thus prove your worth it to your new man.
2006-12-31 19:48:19 · answer #3 · answered by Gig 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Firstly you should not have children if you are so highly uneducated. What can you provide for your child? Not a whole lot other than a life of welfare and maybe a job at Mcdonalds if you are lucky. This guy has 5 kids already? Doubt he is paying for them all. You would be better off leaving this bum, and going back to school and make a life for yourself in the least. He seems like a deadbeat and if you don't try to better yourself, you to are a drain on society and should be "fixed" so you cannot breed.
2006-12-31 19:44:35 · answer #4 · answered by celestial_fantasia 3 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Honey dump this guy he just used you and abused you give that baby up for adoption He would use you all your life.Be a cheater Don't you deserve better? You don't want to married to a guy like this Your kids would grow up just like him.. He will be always tied to his other women and kids.
2006-12-31 19:49:58 · answer #5 · answered by dianehaggart 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
you're trusting a man who has 5 children with 2 woman....
2006-12-31 19:58:49 · answer #6 · answered by KP 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋