Ok, my current wife and I just split up after 11 years. Out of no where my first true love and first wife emailed me to ask how I was doing. I hadn't spoken with her since she left. My first marriage failed because of my behavior and inmaturity. Over the years I would always think about her. I wanted to contact her but never did because I was married and I felt I should not cross any lines. To this day I still think about her and how she gave me butterflies everytime I saw her. I never had feelings for my current wife as I did with my first wife. She is now married with a child but seems to be a little unhappy with her marriage after speaking with her. I know we are both different people and have changed throughout the years but I'm wondering if I should tell her that I still love her or just leave things as is and be happy I had a chance to talk to her after all of these years. Thanks :-)
2006-12-31 10:55:47 · 10 answers · asked by csharp1171 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Leave her alone, she is married. She needs to cry on someone elses shoulder, mabe a marriage counselor. If she works her way out of her current marriage, and the two of you still think you may have a chance, then go ahead. Remember though that you broke up for a reason, time has passed, there is a child involved. Think about it good and long.
2006-12-31 11:12:09 · answer #1 · answered by sweetpea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't tell your first wife how you feel you will regret it for the rest of your life; always wondering "What if?". You should tell her that you think about her a lot and that you realize how your immaturity ruined what you two had. Then leave it up to her to respond. Most importantly don't come on too strong or you may scare her away.
If she really is unhappy in her current marriage she may decide that she wants you back. If not then at least you know that you tried. Good luck!
2006-12-31 19:04:17 · answer #2 · answered by Johann 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you'd best leave things alone,, whether she is unhappy or happy in her marriage, that is her business,, after all she is married,, You wouldnt' want to be the one to blame for busting up her marriage would you ?? After all she has a child to think about too, What would the child think of you if the child thought you were the one that busted up her/his parents marriage?
Even if she did split with her husband and get with you again,, would it be worth it to bust up her home and have the child to hate you for doing so?
If she is unhappy and leaves on her own and gets a divorce and then you two wind up together again, then hey.! But I wouldnt' interefere with her and her home/ marriage.
2006-12-31 19:01:23 · answer #3 · answered by Ang 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could tell her that you still love her and she could tell you the same, but are you looking to get back with her and is she looking to get back with you?
Ask yourself this: What if the two of you were to leave your spouses and get back together? Would it be worth it?
You should chalk it up as a time to talk to her after all the years and work on your own feelings for your current wife.
2006-12-31 19:02:05 · answer #4 · answered by Brenda E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be the cause of breaking up her marriage or the catalyst for it breaking it up. If she is unhappy she may work it out. If she can't then be a friend for her, she may also use you as a rebound partner. Also have you resolved your issues that broke you up in the beginning?
2006-12-31 19:35:47 · answer #5 · answered by ♦ Phoenix Rising♦ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes we realize too late how we feel about an ex, if she is married than distance yourself, if it is meant to be it will be without cheating on someone, or destroying someones marriage. if she isn't Happy than she should get a divorce before u come back into her life.
2006-12-31 20:11:44 · answer #6 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave it alone, unless you are really eager to complicate your life and wind up with neither one and large legal fees associated with the divorce from wife number two.
Trust me, leave it alone.
2006-12-31 18:58:57 · answer #7 · answered by Dane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not tell her yopu Love Her but make sure you mean it.That's a word that should not be taken lightly..
2006-12-31 18:57:22 · answer #8 · answered by gblue52 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seem like yall still love each other. You should tell her you still love her then run away together seriously.
2006-12-31 18:58:44 · answer #9 · answered by Bella 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no because that is not right
2006-12-31 19:00:18 · answer #10 · answered by loretta m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋