It's like why am i here? There's nothing to look forward to and the days turn into weeks, then months, and soon enough a year has gone by. And if i find something to look forward to, when it usually comes it's not what i suspected and lets me down. Then i feel that i waisted my time waiting for it to come and antisipating it to be great.
2006-12-31 10:46:22 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I feel that way too. I have things to look forward to but since I'm always afraid that I'll fail. Anyway the point is that I know how you feel. And I know what it's like. Sometimes it's better but sometimes it's not and it's never what you expect so I completely understand that. I'm sorry that you don't have anything to look forward to but I know that reason for me is because I don't have any friends. Maybe you need to go out and meet new people and try new things.
2006-12-31 10:57:02 · answer #1 · answered by snowbaby 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Meditate on this for a while
Bored people are boring......This means that if you dont have anything to look forward to (or are bored with life). You are not spending enough time investing in things that are interesting. So therefore your life is not interesting. It is a wonder that you dont have anything to look forward to.
My suggestion is that you begin to develope yourself. Do you exercise? My guess would be no, or not often. When people exercise, the blood in your body gets working and hormones in your body and chemicals in your brain begin to react and get moving in ways that help with depression and sluggishness.
First get moving, jog, swim, take a walk. Do some sort of physical activity that will make you sweat!
Next you need to begin making projects for yourself. Take a couple of hours and think about what you really enjoy and then do it. You will begin to gradually feel better, and perhaps make some contacts that may lead to friendships.
Make your resolution this new year to try new things. Get out in the world and expand yourself and your mind. I guarantee you wont be bored and you will look forward to life if you do these things.
Also, how is your spiritual life? Try reading the bible, going to church, praying and meditating. You need a connection with a higher being. All humans like it or not have a need for this. Ultimately the void you are feeling can only be filled by God.
I wish you well in the New Year
2006-12-31 11:15:41 · answer #2 · answered by Blaq Mamba 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try writing a list of everything, and I mean EVERYTHING that you want to do before you die. Then put em into two lists of priority, i.e. things you can only do while single, and things that will work if you're married. If you're single, start doing em, if you're married, get to it. I used this when I got outta the Marine Corps and it's taken me all over the world. Ya just gotta be ready to sacrifice.
Also, if you're looking for meaning of life kinda stuff, get into researching different religions, I'm a Christian and it has helped me through some pretty dark times. It also gives me alot to look forward to and has helped shape my world view. Don't blow stuff off unless you research it yourself. Here's a quote I try to live by. Hope it helps.
Man in the Arena
"It is not the critic who counts: not the man who points out how the strong man
stumbles or where the doer of deeds could have done better. The credit belongs
to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat
and blood, who strives valiantly, who errs and comes up short again and again,
because there is no effort without error or shortcoming, but who knows the great
enthusiasms, the great devotions, who spends himself for a worthy cause; who, at
the best, knows, in the end, the triumph of high achievement, and who, at the
worst, if he fails, at least he fails while daring greatly, so that his place
shall never be with those cold and timid souls who knew neither victory nor
defeat."
"Citizenship in a Republic,"
Speech at the Sorbonne, Paris, April 23, 1910
2006-12-31 11:02:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-19 07:15:05 · answer #4 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's something I call "post-overanticipation syndrome." I used to organize fashion shows, planning and working for weeks for this event that was over in less than 8 minutes. Afterward I would be such a *****, (that night). The next day and for about 2 weeks I would just be depressed. That's when I coined the phrase. You just get so used to thinking about that one event and directing all of your energy towards it-every morning you wake up thinking about it, it's the last thing you think about before you fall asleep-it's difficult or impossible to lose that focus. But there is something else to look forward to, there is always something new to obsess over. Why don't you build an audio production studio in your room, put the word out, and start producing cds for all of your friends' bands?
2006-12-31 10:58:03 · answer #5 · answered by cleetus 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Umm, well it may mean that you are clinically depressed. Or you just may have seasonal depression like a whole lot of other people do, (including myself.) So my advice?? Don't sulk and think it will always be like this. Save up some money for a vacation, go to different places and meet new people. Think about what makes you happy. Maybe you just need a new beginning and hey, guess what? It's a new year!! Maybe you just need to make some changes to make yourself happy, don't just sit back and let your life go by. If none of this works, seeing a therapist may really help. It doesn't mean your crazy, and it may make a huge difference. Good Luck!!!
2006-12-31 10:56:06 · answer #6 · answered by Mandi 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Visit your family physician and tell him or her a medical student thought it sounded like you might have dysthymia. This is a condition for which there is excellent treatment available these days. Talking therapy and medication which needs to be monitored regularly can make your life much more satisfying. You may even discover things to look forward to. Try also by cheking out hayhouseradio.com...many great minds there can help you as well.
2006-12-31 11:45:55 · answer #7 · answered by Greanwitch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were created to glorify your Creator and enjoy Him forever. Are you doing that? Are you serving Him? Or yourself? If you want to be happy, you need to live for something bigger than you. If it is God, His Way, you will be happy forever. If it is for pleasure, sin, or any other god, you will be happy only for a season. When I forget why I was created all I can think about is myself and am I happy? and Nothing lives up to what I want. But, when I realize what He has done for me, and how His patience and grace is so evident, I become so thankful that I want to do what He wants me to do. So, I do things for Him, like help a stranger, or my mom, etc.
Life without God IS meaningless. For an example read what it says in Ecclesiastes, you might find yourself saying "Hey, that's just what I was thinking." The man who wrote this had forgotten HIs place in Gods plan and therefore lost all meaning. You cannot be who were meant to be until you realize who you were meant to be. You were created to commune with and glorify God. The Bible tells you how to do that. Any other path to find meaning besides God's will not get you to where you were meant to be in communion with God. Jesus said, "I am the Way, the Truth, and the Life. No man cometh unto the Father but by me." Read the New Testament to see His life teaching.
2006-12-31 11:42:30 · answer #8 · answered by Bre 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can honestly say I know how that feels...I went to Alaska last summer to visit my 2 cousins ((growing up they were like my brothers)) I had seen them once in about 6 years && only one of them was really excited to see me. When I went to visit the other one he slept till noon && I got to reallly talk to him maybe once. BUT - i did get to play with my nieces quite a bit && it was fun taking them swimming and stuff. Then tonight i`m all excited for New Years Eve because my best friends are planning this party...well i never officially got invited to it && they made it pretty clear that they didnt want me to go. Nothing seems to go right with my relationship with my parents. Things that used to make me happy now make me wanna cry && somedays i just wanna move far away from the small town i live in. This town is so small that when somebody does something wrong everybody knows within 5 minutes. My dreams and goals seem like their a million years away and somedays i just want to quit at working so hard just because i want to get away so bad..
I doubt any of this helped you...but don`t fret...if you`re old enough...adopt a kid...or if you have nieces or nephews spend time with them...being around kids all summer made me realize how to enjoy life to the fullest...if you can afford it take a long vacation to someplace that interests u...
2006-12-31 11:11:13 · answer #9 · answered by xxgoincrazy313xx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life may be disappointing, but you may also have the same problem: disappointing urself.. Try not to over value anything, it's
a beautiful life, look for the green trees and pretty flowers.. have a pet, try to think positive.. Say:
I'll think positive this whole week, nothing is negative, If something disappoints me, I'll fix it..
always have a plan B for things also, this will help you greatly...
Goodluck friend
2006-12-31 10:55:12 · answer #10 · answered by Lawrence of Arabia 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋