I recently found out I was pregnant and on Saturday my boyfriend of nearly two years propose to me. SOunds great? One thing though, its not his baby and he has no idea because he lives in another state. I refuse to tell him but I love him and I plan on marrying him but the father of my child will kill me although WE are not together it was a one night thing, what should I do with the pregnancy and my fiance'?
2006-12-31 09:57:47 · 16 answers · asked by MS 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
better come clean to one or all
GOOD LUCK!!!!!
2006-12-31 09:59:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a damn if you do and damn if you dont situation here. It comes down to exactly what do you want to do? You can stay with your fiance and not tell him but there will come a day when this might leak out and then he has you on deceitful tactics to your marriage, or you can go for the babys father which you obviousily dont love and be miserable for the rest of your live which will do no one any good. You can always tell your fiance the totaltruth and see what happens but you were honest and never have to look over your shoulder. Not an easy task here. Good luck
2006-12-31 18:04:45 · answer #2 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nasty. The only thing you can do that is right is tell your fiance about your fling. You can't lie about it, it will come out, even if you get rid of the fling, are you going to lie to your child about who it's father is? This is a messy situation and it's not going to be easy, especially if your fiance is not accepting of you infidelity. But he might forgive you if he loves you enough to accept this baby as his own and stand with you against the real father who is going to put up a big stink about someone else being called dad. Good luck, you're going to need it. My prediction is you'll lose your fiance and may end up with the real father just so you won't be alone to have this baby, even if you don't like the guy.
2006-12-31 18:06:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you definitely need to tell the fiance. He deserves honesty from the woman he intends to marry. Wouldn't you want to know if things were reversed?
And please don't terminate the pregnancy if you choose not to keep/raise it. You have the ability to make the dreams of parenthood come true for the thousands and thousands of infertile families out there just waiting for a baby to love! Please consider allowing the baby to be born...there is no greater expression of selfless love.
2006-12-31 18:07:22 · answer #4 · answered by DivaDynamite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First if your sure it's not your fiance's baby you should be honest and tell him if you haven't already. No matter if it was a one night stand or not it's not fair to lie to anyone concerned. Even if your fiance ends his relationship with you over this I think that's something you'll have to accept since your the one that cheated on him. good luck.
2006-12-31 18:02:38 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you plan on marrying your boyfriend of two years, you owe it to yourself to let him know about the situation. You cannot hide that information from him if you truly love him, because he's being involved emotionally in all of this. He will either forgive you and marry you anyway, or he'll get upset and not want to get married. Good luck.
2006-12-31 18:14:25 · answer #6 · answered by Ultimate Fighter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's one of those life chances to demonstrate humanity and be a good person. Tell your fiance the truth. Period. If he loves you, really loves you and its meant to be, it will work out. If he leaves you, you have to accept that, but at least you won't go through life with this dirty thing hanging over your head.
Good luck.
2006-12-31 18:01:03 · answer #7 · answered by volkgal 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Wow. Ummm, you love this guy the you should tell him. Don't F up ur relationship already. Thats not cool. As far as the baby... deside if you want it or not and go from there. Good Luck
2006-12-31 18:05:24 · answer #8 · answered by Mellow_kitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, all I can say is to tell your boyfriend -face to face. This is nothing to tell him over email or phone. Yes he might break up with you, but that is expected since you did cheat on him. But if he is truly in love with you, it may take time, but he might actually forgive you and still want to get married.
2006-12-31 18:01:36 · answer #9 · answered by NIcole 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you love your bf you have to tell him thats not fair to the baby or consider terminating the pregnancy no child should be brought into the world out of lies and deception
2006-12-31 18:00:52 · answer #10 · answered by smurf_punky 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you need to tell your soon to be husband. Just come clean with him and hope he can forgive you. You dont want to go into a marriage with a secret like that because one day he will find out..
2006-12-31 18:02:09 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋