when I was 4 years old I went with my mom to the hospital so she could get some paperwork done, and then when I was walking through the hallway of the building, I wasn't watching and I accidently bumped my head into a pregnant lady's stomach really hard and she wasn't looking either.She said "Oh I'm so sorry" and she left. My mom yelled at me and made me feel guilty about it all the way home!
Up until now I still feel guilty about it even though my mom should have been watching me when I walked into the pregnant lady. I hope I didn't cause any damage to the baby. How do I get over it? This was a long time ago and I'm an adult now.
2006-12-31 09:31:59 · 28 answers · asked by choosinghappiness 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Wow you guys are mean!
2006-12-31 09:34:34 · update #1
I don't know the lady, she was a stranger!
2006-12-31 09:34:50 · update #2
I don't even remember what this lady looked like! I was only 3 feet tall!
2006-12-31 09:35:51 · update #3
Don't worry your self over something that happend so long ago. I mean you were a child and a baby is in a protective sheild. I am sure you didn't hurt that baby. I have four kids and mine are all close in age, so I took a lot of tugging and hits by my kids. You will be fine.
2006-12-31 09:36:01 · answer #1 · answered by blueigurl34 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You should not feel guilty about this, you were only 4 years old. Your mom just totally overreacted. The fact of the matter is, if you bumped into this lady, it was obvious that she wasn't watching as you said. She held just as much responsibility, because you bumped into each other, not just you into her.
There was no way you could have damaged that baby either. While a woman's stomach is sensitive during that time, it is made to withstand a little. If not, then it would be impossible to do anything without chancing losing the baby. If you would have hurt her or the baby, then you would have known. She would not have said "Oh, I'm so sorry," she would have at least said "Ouch," and might would even screamed. She said "Oh, I'm so sorry," because she thought she was to blame too.
You really should not let this bother you. The lady was at fault too since she wasn't looking either, and she was not hurt. It was mean of your mama to yell at you like that and make you feel guilty. The only reason you still feel guilty is because your mother made you feel like you had hurt the woman. You just have to understand that their was no way that you hurt her, and that it wasn't completely your fault. It's typical for a 4 year old to walk around without looking anyway. Why should you have been any different.
I hope this helps. Please put your mind at ease.
2006-12-31 17:56:10 · answer #2 · answered by Laura 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel.. I know this might not make sence but here goes... when i was like three i was in a house with a lot of kittens, and i thought worms were trying to get into their tummies(you know the embilical cord thing) and well i pulled at one and it started bleeding and every since then i felt so bad about it(the kitten was fine)..About your experience you have to remember babies have alot of protection... the idea that you couldve hurt that baby it very unlikely unless you went godzilla on the running into the lady part... your mom was probabaly just upset because you weren't looking where you were running down a hall or acting in a very rude manner(no offense) but in all honesty i beleive you feel this way as a result of the 3rd degree you got afterward from your mother... What you need is to know that accidents happen and you really shouldnt beat yourself up over it.. I mean you were four years old and thats what four year olds do run aroudn and bump into things. Anyways good luck with feeling less responcible for past things and make sure your future is bright and worry free:)
2006-12-31 17:47:13 · answer #3 · answered by sweetgurl3491 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom should feel guilty for letting you wander around like that and then yelling at her for something that was her fault.
You didn't injure the pregnant lady, or her baby. Pregnant women can go though a lot and not injure the baby. The baby is incredibly protected and a 4 year old boy who accidentally bumped into them cannot cause damage.
2006-12-31 17:36:22 · answer #4 · answered by brand_new_monkey 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You did no damage to the baby. Let yourself off the hook now.
Babies float in a sac of fluid and are further sheltered by the tissues of their mother's body. A simple bump in the tummy by a 4 year old isn't going to hurt anything. Your mother just wanted you to be more cautious, especially because you never know who you might run into, including the elderly and the pregnant. But for Pete's sake, stop feeling guilty. Since the lady apologized too, apparently she wasn't paying attention to where she was going either! So stop worrying now and enjoy the New Year.
2006-12-31 17:36:51 · answer #5 · answered by teacupn 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
As an educated adult, at least now, you should know that you did no harm. You probably made the pregnant woman chuckle a little. It sounds like your issues are with your mother. She must have had a really strong impact on you over such a little situation. Imagine what she was like in actual bad situations. Talk to your mother and confess to her your feelings, about the instant and others if there are any. I wrote my mother a letter one time about how I felt about her, nothing mean, we didn't talk for about 3mo. but she is mother and even though we don't agree on things, we get along just fine now.
2006-12-31 17:42:16 · answer #6 · answered by savitor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is virtually impossible for a small child to cause damage to a pregnant woman or the fetus by bumping into her. She apparently wasn't in any pain, so don't worry about it. In fact it might have been a good thing. You made her more aware of things she could bump into and maybe she avoided a worse collision later!
2006-12-31 17:42:49 · answer #7 · answered by Kathy M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax, hon. You didn't hurt that lady's belly. Just the way that she responded to you should tell you that much.
The degree of roughness that bump was may have seemed much more just because of your age. You know, like a shot hurts so much worse at four than it does at forty? Like that. The bump may have seemed hard to you, but was just a little bump from a four-year old to that lady.
You didn't hurt her. If you had hurt her, you probably would have known it right then and there.
2006-12-31 17:45:34 · answer #8 · answered by <3 The Pest <3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chances are unlikely you did any damage to the lady and less to her baby. The most I can think of happening is that she had to take another trip to the bathroom for a pee. Pregnant bellies can take more jostling than people give them credit for.
Let it go. If a four-year-old's head ruptured something, then there was something wrong with the pregnancy in the first place and it was only a matter of time before SOMETHING triggered it.
2006-12-31 17:39:17 · answer #9 · answered by thezaylady 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You know my mom was like that. It is not so much as what you did as how your mom reacted. I would be having fun and BAM! i was in trouble for something that was innocent. I got pretty bad anxiety and got scared to relax and be in moment, becuase I thought that when I was really taking care of me and doing something I liked, that I was hurting someone else. What you did is not wrong. It was innocent. Your mom over reacted and made the situation more important then you as an invidual. As for hurting the baby, I highly doubt it.
As for the guilt, that is what happens when people blame you and try to make you feel bad. The guilt is the shame your mother put on you.
You are an adult, you can get over it. You just have to realize the bigger picture... is the guilt from consistent shame, or just that once.
2006-12-31 17:37:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋