2006-12-31 08:54:46 · 35 answers · asked by Snow Leopard 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
At least a year if not two. You should really know the person before getting married. People are so quick to jump into marriage these days. It also depends on your age.
2006-12-31 08:56:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Some people know that who theyre w/, is who they want to be w/ forever after a few months, it takes some a few years. I would say not much less than a little under a year, but not anymore than 5 years. The only time you wouldnt get engaged after dating for like 5 years is if you were in college or something and couldnt live together for another 4 years or something; but still.
Id say 7-8 months and over
2006-12-31 08:58:58 · answer #2 · answered by I Hate Liberals 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At least a year...and it helps if you have broken up and gotten back together at least once during that time (and seen other people in between). Also, going through one major trial like a death or other hardship prior to marriage is also a good thing.
I say this because marriage is hard. It takes a commitment. You will have to deal with literally the better and worse of each other, and your two lives.
Before getting engaged, talk about kids (do you want them, who will be the primary caregiver), and responsibilities (who will do the housework, the cooking, the shopping). Talk about this and more before you engage.
Many people get engaged too early, during the infatuation stage. Then, they get "caught up in" the idea of being married and the process of planning a marriage.
Then, once married a couple of years, and they go through some hardships and see the better and the worse, they find they don't want to be together.
Find that out before getting engaged.
2006-12-31 09:01:34 · answer #3 · answered by non_apologetic_american 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I believe there is no set time on knowing someone. With my husband I knew within the first few weeks of knowing him that I could spend the rest of my life with him. We were engaged and married within six months of knowing each other. I truly believe that you will know when you meet the right person. If it feels more comfortable to wait a year or two before you get engaged than that is each person's choice.
2006-12-31 09:09:05 · answer #4 · answered by Brian and Kari 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This really depends on your age. After all you may meet your future husband in 10th grade. However, in general you should wait for at least one year, preferably two. Then get engaged and wed within the year. However if you happen to have knocked up the girl it is best to get married right away. If you are over the age of 28 and have dated someone for over 5 years and still can't decide, I suggest you admit you two are just f-buddies.
By the way being engaged means having a ring and a date set. (no shacking up please)
2006-12-31 09:05:32 · answer #5 · answered by lily 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is my opinion. If you are sure that this is the person that you want to marry or visa versa, I would stay engaged for about 2 years. That's what I did, and I am still married to this man that I love going on 19 years! Don't get me wrong, you will still have some ups and downs, no marriage is perfect. But, it is best to know the person for at least 2 years. My opinion, no sex, til after marriage! Btw, do consider reading Dr. Laura Schlessinger's book called, "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands". Believe me, you will enjoy this book and it will help you in your marriage as well. Good luck to you both with the journey in marriage!!
2006-12-31 09:05:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
When its right...i would live with the person first and see how that works out. But Typically about 2 years would be enough time. My best girlfriend got engaged after 7 months of dating, they just knew, and there a perfect couple(in my eyes)....So when its right!
2006-12-31 09:21:39 · answer #7 · answered by JDream 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, you should know within the first 18 months whether or not you want to be engaged. I think you should be setting a date no more than 2 years after you have started dating. If he's dragging his feet longer than that then he's trying to wait and see if someone better comes along.
2006-12-31 08:57:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
When you're fairly sure she's worth the expense...it could be 5 days or 5 years, there is no set time limit. It's more a sense of how well she's going to do when things get tough and they will, trust me. Let's face it, engagement is the prelude to marriage; if she's not the person you can't live without for the rest of your life, spending $5,000 on a ring and introducing her as your fiance' is NOT going to make her a keeper!
2006-12-31 09:00:23 · answer #9 · answered by wetdreamdiver 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tricky question!!! I knew my ex-hubby for 4 months before we got engaged and then we got married 2 months after that. We stayed married 19 years before we seperated. Of course we were very young. Looking back..I wish we had waited and gotten to know each other much better. Now that I am older and wiser..my answer would be a year! Experience all four seasons with him/her. If you still feel very strongly about him/her and know you are in love..then go for it. Good luck and Blessings!
2006-12-31 08:59:29 · answer #10 · answered by mysweetluvie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋