I'm going through a separation and she wants a divorce, or at least that's what she says right now. she's seeing someone who I think is a rebound. I want to meet someone new but i still love her and want her back. Advice?
2006-12-31 08:44:56 · 8 answers · asked by t t 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, don't give up! My situation is different, but there is no one else involved. If you love her, give her space and don't beg and plead. How long have you been separated and how long has this talk of divorce been going on? If you want some other advice, you should read my post "Husband won't give me another chance." It may offer some words of encouragement. Feel free to email me at SillieKimi@cs.com if you need anything or need to vent. I know the frustration and the pain you are feeling. Never give up hope. Take care.
2006-12-31 09:20:50 · answer #1 · answered by SillyKimmie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well your not divorced yet. You have to work your way out of a marraige, Once you both have done everything you can do to save the marriage, and none of it works, then get a divorce. She may be rebounding, but don't you make the same mistake. You can not be seriously thinking of dating someone else when you say you are still in love with your wife. You two need to sit down and decide if its really over. If it is, get the divorce, and give yourself some time to really be over it before getting into another relationship. Don't worry about what she is doing, think about yourself.
2006-12-31 17:26:41 · answer #2 · answered by sweetpea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it slowely. If you still love her then you are not ready to move into a new relationship right now. Take some time to yourself, do the things you enjoy doing and give yourself healing time.
When the time is right you will meet someone but just take your time with it.
You say you want her back, but do you really? Would the problem that caused the seperation still be there? Maybe she is just not the one.
2006-12-31 17:12:55 · answer #3 · answered by just_trump_my_ace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless she feels the same about you, to hold on to her mentally, is a big mistake. You should mentally let her go, and move on to someone different, new and better. But for most relationships,
1 month to 1 year is too soon, for marriage. You say who she's cheating on you with, is a rebound? Maybe she is, too.
Remember, "Every fool knows you can't touch the stars, but it doesn't stop a wise man from trying."
2006-12-31 16:57:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll probably get flamed for giving this advice but I didn't fully heal from my divorce until I started dating again.
Make yourself do it - you'll soon realize that there's really a lot of women out there who'll be better for you. Look forward, not back.
2006-12-31 16:55:39 · answer #5 · answered by derek985 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on
find a circle of influence to keep a positve outlook
if she wants a divorse and shes seeing someone else, those are your tailtale signs to your next move
remember emotions are they enemy
2006-12-31 17:06:36 · answer #6 · answered by Aaron J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not even legally divorced yet, why the hurry?
2006-12-31 17:06:47 · answer #7 · answered by Raven 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go find someone...forget about her...she will probably break your heart again.
2006-12-31 16:48:35 · answer #8 · answered by Monte T 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋