If SHE has very bad hygiene is it wrong for me to have divorced her? If she brushes her teeth approx 2 times per week. If she wears the same clothes over and over and over again and allow them to build up really bad body odor. If she sprays on perfume to mask her body odor. If she has bad habits when it comes to "that time of the month". If she buys new under garments only when the older ones are too too foul to salvage. If her feet smell like she just walked 100 miles across the coutry side wearing 3 pairs of sweat sox and a pair of combat boots. If you can smell her hair 30 seconds before she enters the room. If she wears my (mens) underwear when hers are all in the laundry. When she bathes with my sox and t shirts because she wont do laundry. If she haves a palet for onion and garlic but wont exercise oral hygiene. If she lives off carry out and order in. If i cant sleep in the same room due to the lingering musty body odor. oh and FYI to you man bashers...i asked for counseling
2006-12-31 08:39:22 · 26 answers · asked by jim l 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Personal hygene is very important it helps the attraction level. I would talk to her first and if things don't change i'd leave. Appearance is very important.
2006-12-31 08:44:02 · answer #1 · answered by smurf_punky 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
And this was something you couldn't detect before you got married? Do/Did you have sex problems? If this has happened just since you got married I would almost wager a guess that she is/was trying to keep you away from her sexually by being as obnoxious as possible. Think about it- if she couldn't bring herself to admit she has sexual issues, what other way could she keep you from wanting sex with her? Was it wrong to divorce over just this issue? Yes. But it sounds like you did ask for counselling... and I will assume it did not work since you say you divorced? Well, then you probably did all you could. When a person will not go to counselling, and you have communicated your concerns and nothing gets done, then you have done what you could and it's time to move on. It sounds like a horrible reason to get divorced but if she won't work on it, then there are even bigger reasons behind it...
2006-12-31 09:03:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My question is, how did you fall in love with this so called mess in the forst place anyway? Something is missing here? If she started this behavior after the marriage, than I would assume "something" really changed to get her to become this way. Someone doesn't just do these things over night just because. If you married her this way, and knew what you wer getting into, I'd say your not exactly following your vows you took. Have you had a talk with her? Maybe bought her a few nice gifts to replace the awful things she keeps wearing? Hop in the shower with her, and show her how to take a real shower, and make it fun? Who knows, you might have a beauty queen under all that!!
2006-12-31 09:07:41 · answer #3 · answered by sue d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a stupid reason to divorce someone. You could help her out by doing landry and telling her how much she stinks. Why would anyone wear clothes more then once without washing them? That makes no sense to me. The only reason I think one should divorce another is 1. cheating or 2. they aren't happy together. Any other reason is just wrong. I bet you haven't even told her that she stinks and she needs to clean up. It won't be fair of you to divorce her. Maybe she can't help this maybe it's a horrible diease or something. Everyone stinks once in awhile and it's normal especially if they are doing stuff that makes them stink or women go through that time of month and we can't help that. Tell her she needs a shower once a day. But yes it would be wrong to divorce because of this.
2006-12-31 08:46:08 · answer #4 · answered by Irish Girl 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-16 22:37:51 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First...do you still love her regardless???? If you do then sit down and talk to her. Tell her your concerns and ask her to see her regular doctor. Sounds like she may have a form of depression. Give her a time table to do something about it or you will leave. Sometimes it takes something drastic for someone to wake up and change. I am talking from personal experience here. Good Luck and hope it works out peacefully.
2006-12-31 08:44:02 · answer #6 · answered by mysweetluvie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly tell her all of this without raising your voice. Do it calmly. Let her know how you feel and ask her if your relationship is worth it to her to start taking care of herself. People often "let go" during relationships since they "snagged" the one they got and it's not easy for the other to get out. Tell her that you will help her work on this. Ask her why she doesn't take better care of herself. Is she depressed? More info would be helpful, but these are my two cents. Hope this helps.
2006-12-31 09:29:09 · answer #7 · answered by SillyKimmie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hope you are not making this all up. But hey, hope this helps. I think it is wrong to divorce period. If you knew she was like this before asking for marriage, why did you marry her? Was it love or the person she was? Hope you remember the marriage vows that you made to her, "For better or for worse". It sounds like you divorced her already. Yes, I think it was wrong, because you broke the marrage vow (contract) between you and her. You could have helped her by taking her to a specialist. She was your wife, and you are suppose to do WHATEVER you can to help your wife, period. If she can't keep clean, help her to help herself.
2006-12-31 08:51:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
How is your hygene? Opposites do attract! She obviously had some of these offensive qualities before you were married but your eyes were half closed. The rule is before you get married keep your eyes wide open. After you are married keep them half closed. Sorry you made a mistake, now clean her up!!
2006-12-31 09:09:35 · answer #9 · answered by sweetpea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you not know about her hygiene before you got married? And can you help her out by doing the laundry?
2006-12-31 09:04:41 · answer #10 · answered by cliffhanger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she is depressed, many people who are depressed stop taking care of themselves. If she has refused to get help then I think the only thing you can do to salvage your sanity would be to get out now!
2006-12-31 08:52:03 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋