how can i love and accept myself more and be more confident?

Question

i am not strong to protect myself from someone anoy me.i can not say her or him that her or his behavour bother me so much.i just bequiet.maybe you think it is not about loviny yourself but i know if i allow someone bother me it shows that i do not love myself and respect myself.and i always think the good things shuld not come to me because i think i am not good enough.and i can not change somthing that i do not want to be in my life.such az be lazy and eat too much.

Answer 1

Start by avoiding negative people, negative places, and negative things. Surround yourself with positive people and things and you will begin to feel more positive about yourself, and thus more confident. Draw on your strengths so you have something to be complimented on and try to overcome your weaknesses but don't beat yourself up for making mistakes.

You should look into where you think this behavior comes from and try to work on it. If you have such a low opinion of yourself because, say for example, from childhood your parents were harsh and critical and still are, you need to put up some boundaries and quit taking that crap. If your parents were fine but you find yourself attracted to people who abuse you, then work on that.

What is the worse thing that will happen if you tell someone "your behavior is annoying me"? Are you afraid they will hit you, scream at you, reject your friendship? Then they aren't worth spending time with in the first place.