Master and i are engaged (google M/s and D/s if you don't understand the Master/slave and Dominant/submissive relationships), and He wants to wait until after his deployment next summer. He is in the Army, and is going to be deployed to Iraq for a little over a year. But i would really like to get married before His deployment. i know His decision is all that matters in the end, but what does everyone think? Are there any good reasons for/against marriage before/after His deployment? i'm just looking for other people's opinions.
2006-12-31 08:31:19 · 21 answers · asked by Jewel 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
devonbluemall-He does own me...
2006-12-31 08:37:10 · update #1
Oh, and He works in intelligence, and will probably be stationed at a less dangerous place because of this (they haven't told Him yet), so while i am still very worried, i'm not as worried as i would be if He were still infantry (Thank goodness He got out of -that-).
2006-12-31 08:40:21 · update #2
You have already made a decision yourself on this one, by becoming submissive/slave to your Master/Dominant one. Whatever you think will have to be second to what he wants, for the rest of your life. Since you obviously enjoy this role, enough to call him Master, you have now a wonderful opportunity to give in to him, over and over and over again.
As to marriage before deployment, again, this is just one issue that is facing you. There will be many more, and he has the final say. No use in wasting your energy. Good luck, and my prayers are with him for safety and a quick return.
2006-12-31 08:37:11 · answer #1 · answered by dutchlady 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
People wait a lot longer now before getting married... I like the idea of saving yourself until after marriage, but it just doesn't seem realistic. I've been with my partner five years and we're engaged now, but I couldn't wait for six years before I sleep with someone! Sex isn't something dirty or sinful, it's how you show your love to someone, and I think for a relationship to last and for a couple to really feel close you need sex. I wouldn't be with my partner still if we didn't do it once in a while!
2016-03-29 02:16:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like he would want to have a wife to write home to. From a benefit standpoint, I would think being his wife would save a lot of money on health insurance and the like. Also, wouldn't he get a subsidy for having to be away from his spouse? I think I heard something about that before. I used to be in the National Guard, and was never deployed, so I'm not 100% positive.
2006-12-31 08:36:48 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh, I understand it, and it's still ****** up.
Roleplaying in the bedroom is one thing, refusing to take responsibility for your own life and permanently degrading yourself to the role of a pet is another.
Did daddy not love you enough, or what?
A guy who A) kills people for a living, B) is about to leave for some length of time between 12 months and forever, and C) prefers a slave to a partner...
does not sound like the best possible choice of husband to me.
BTW, there's no way he's going to be back in a year. Bush in his infinite wisdom is determined to stay the course and then some, by sending in more troops and escalating the war next year. Because there are no more troops to send and a draft would lead to open civil war *here*, he will be accomplishing that by keeping the ones that are already there long after their tour of duty was supposed to end.
2006-12-31 08:55:19 · answer #4 · answered by randomstupidhandle 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I believe you should wait until he is deployed to get married. As your master, he has ordained himself to perform the service via videoconference from the battlefield. Do NOT attempt to contradict him in any way. He will probably decide not to marry you until he has made sure you are the best slave available, and the selection process could take years. Why would you want to cheapen true love by rushing it?
2006-12-31 08:37:06 · answer #5 · answered by rrbowker2002 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you already answered your own question, you said you know that his decision is all that matters in the end, so it looks like you'll be waiting until after his deployment next summer, unless you get out of this relationship as soon as possible and find a guy who wants you for you and actually places value on your opinions....
2006-12-31 08:40:41 · answer #6 · answered by MidnightSkies 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
well first im sorry but theres something wrong with you for considering him your master some women wonder why guys think they can order them around and why they think what they say goes well its because of people like you hes not your master and thats not a very healthy relationship
now for your question i think either way is good the fact that he might not come back is one reason to get married before hand and for wating well at least you wont be home alone and wating who knows whats going to happen in between while hes away
i hope you can find a good guy that isnt like the one you have
im dont trying to hurt anyones feelings but thats just the way things roll
2006-12-31 08:36:05 · answer #7 · answered by advise_gal 4 · 1⤊ 3⤋
I would just get married at the courthouse for now, and then when he comes back do the whole big marriage ceremony, i had a friend who did that before he deployed.
2006-12-31 08:34:19 · answer #8 · answered by Fatmatt 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would think he would want to marry you before he was deployed for a year to make certain he doesn't lose you.
2006-12-31 08:33:13 · answer #9 · answered by Raven 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Grow up and get your own opinion, before you think about to get married !
2006-12-31 10:41:00 · answer #10 · answered by willow, the yodakitty from hell 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋