2006-12-31 08:25:36 · 33 answers · asked by thesunshineking 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would confront them and then say see you later
2006-12-31 08:26:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would try and see what had caused it. Most of the time, 98% of the time, spouses cheat because they feel they are being unloved in their marriage. If that's the case, then look at it as an opportunity to improve the marriage and work out the difficulties. I have seen families where cheating spouses had been forgiven, and the marriages grew only stronger because of that. They sought on what might have caused the cheating, and once they detected the exact problems, they worked them out and became better and stronger as a family than they used to be. "Once a cheater, always a cheater" is the mentality of an immature.
2006-12-31 08:44:41 · answer #2 · answered by OC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think that HAPPY couples cheat on one another--there are going to be reasons that you have to find --the reasons for unhappy marriages are so numuriouse --lack of money, not enough alone time, letting yourself go, lack of comunication, on and on and on--so if something on those lines are a part of your marriage then its a possibility that someone is going to snap and go looking for greener pastures--NOT that it is right --it is so very wrong and cheaters are in my opinion very selfish--they hurt the spouce the kids (if there are any) the other person ( they think that they are intering a real relationship) and family and friends that have to contend with the whole ball of wax---So that brings me to what do you do?? You have two choice's --completely relinquish the relationship --wish your spouce well and move on---OR put your foot down and say NO WAY you are not going to do this to our marriage--you are my wife/husband and you will be that OR YOU will fiish this story first--you will not see someone else an continue living with me!!! If possible call the other person involved and tell them that is YOUR mate stop calling and recieving calls that they are aware of a marriageand they are not going to partcipate in this---and if they are any kind of respectable person to just go away--take the matters into your own hands--Then if you both decide to reconcile you have to find the problem that caused this behavior and FIX IT..
Personally speaking I had this happen to me and I fought for my marriage of 18 years and told the gal just what she was in the middle of and she backed off real quick--a good person--
2006-12-31 08:50:56 · answer #3 · answered by skizzle-d-wizzle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We can all give you some type of advice on what we would do if we were in your position-but that decision is up to you-if you caught him cheating on you that-s a no brainier-if he did it once he will do it again if you don't stop it now-confront him and watch out for the she and i have been friends for years story and there is nothing going on between us-you are just paranoid-those are just a few things he will use as a excuse-the rest is up to you
2006-12-31 09:05:29 · answer #4 · answered by brown sugar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is what I would do and in this order:
1. Say nothing until he leaves for work.
2. Cut out the crotch on every pair of pants he owns
3. Put all of his clothes in the bathtub with a gal. of bleach
4. Take every dime out of all of his bank accounts, piggy banks, dresser drawers, ect.
5. Mix black rit dye in a bucket and pour it randomly through the house.
6. Charge the new red alligator $15,500 Gucci boots I wanted to his credit card.
7. Get the matching purse.
8. Pack up everything I own.
9. Unplug the fridge.
10. Pour sugar in the gas tank of any remaining vehicle, motorcycle, lawn mower, moped....
11. Drive to his job and key "I have herpes" into the side of his car. On the hood too if there is time.
12. Call the police and blame him for all of the above and add that he slapped me around for dramatic effect.
13. Change my cell phone number.
2006-12-31 08:38:32 · answer #5 · answered by Chula 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If my spouse and I do not have kids, I would definitely pack up my stuff and leave, but if there are kids involve, it's a different story. Personally, if my spouse cheated only once, then I would forgive him for the kids. If my spouse has a cheating habit, then I would leave him eventhough we have kids!
2006-12-31 08:30:05 · answer #6 · answered by College GurL 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As painful as it is..call it quits!!! I caught my husband of 19 yrs cheating over the summer. I didn't think twice about kicking him out. It was very painful and I know now 6 months later...I am a much better person for it. If she/he truly loved you...they never would have strayed. Also..once a cheater..always a cheater. Good Luck!
2006-12-31 08:30:25 · answer #7 · answered by mysweetluvie 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
everyone can say flat out leave them and stuff like that, but really, if the person u love was cheating on u, it really hurts, and it would hurt worse to have to kick them to the curb, so depending on how YOU feel about it, u must make the decision as to what is a proper punishment for such an act. stay with her and never trust her again? possibly getting hurt again? or leaving her and have to search for a new love? its up to u, but i've seen ppl who were trully in love cheat. i would suggest marriage counceling, but what ever would work best for you. good luck and i'm sorry u have to go through such a hard time and make such a tough decision. best wishes.
2006-12-31 08:29:03 · answer #8 · answered by . 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first i would confront my spouse, if they were remorseful and open about it, and wanted to fix it, than u have something to work on. if on the other hand they denied it, blamed u for it, refused to repent, and weren't the least bit remorseful i would leave or make them leave. if i had children by them it would be hard, but i would still leave them if they weren't remorseful and didn't want to work on the marriage. if this had become a pattern of behavior with this person and i had already forgiven once than i could not forgive it.
2006-12-31 10:04:15 · answer #9 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It happened to me. I was stupid enough to try to work it out. Went to counseling and everything. In the end, he really only wanted the 2 women to fight over him. He was enjoying it. He wasn't really planning on working on anything. I gave up and let her have him. Now he's the one that is bitter and stuck with a horrible woman.
I should have realized the truth. If some one is going to lie to you, it means he or she doesn't respect you and will lie again. Get out while the getting is good. Don't put yourself through hell only to discover this later.
2006-12-31 08:32:42 · answer #10 · answered by kobietanieba 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WOW.. getting caught in the act..you cant lie your way out of that one.. i would never give the stisfaction of asking why??? the biggest slap in the face is to do nothing..deal with it with friends or family and i wouldnt even let them explain why who cares at that point..move on to someone else even if you really do care act like you dont
2006-12-31 08:34:32 · answer #11 · answered by marriedtoaworkaholic 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋