My ex husband wants to give up rights to our daughter because he hates paying child support. He has another child with a woman he had a one night stand with and doesn't complain about child support for that child. Am I wrong for letting him cut him self out of my daughters life, because I feel it'll be better for her in the long run? She doesn't really know her father and my new husband has been raising her since she was 2 years old and she's 5 now
2006-12-31 08:20:32 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
A side note My current husband loves my daughter and calls her is daughter, treats her like she's his.
2006-12-31 08:33:34 · update #1
if you don't need the child support (which i would think he would have to pay anyway) let the creep go. He's obviously not "been there" for your daughter anyway. guys like him should learn to keep their d*cks in their pants. It seems like you have a good guy now who will help you raise your daughter and do you really want him coming around when she gets older anyway? what happens when he gets her for the weekend and leaves her with whoever while he's out knocking up some other woman? let him go!!!
2006-12-31 08:35:48 · answer #1 · answered by angel1 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I was 7 yrs old my mom met a man and married him. She had been divorced from my father 5 years. The man she married had no kids of his own and wanted to adopt me. My father didn't hesitate giving me up. I really didn't even know what he looked like because I hadn't seen him since I was 3. So he adopted me and raised me as if I were his own blood. I have always called him Dad because in reality he really is my Dad.
So in my opinion get the bastard out of your child's life and let your new husband be your daughter's father. It will be better for her in the long run.
2006-12-31 08:39:11 · answer #2 · answered by Maggie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you have a good father figure in your childs life now and she knows him as her daddy. Cut the dead beat loose. I can't believe a father could give up his child, just like that.( It will haunt him for the rest of his days) His new wife or who ever she is better watch out, this man has no heart or consence Let him relinquish all his rights to his daughter. Your husband now should legally adopt her. When she is old enough you will have to explain a few things, but I believe it will all work out.
2006-12-31 08:48:05 · answer #3 · answered by sweetpea 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that if he doesn't want her and wants to give up rights, you should do that. She needs to have a father, a father that loves her even if it isn't her real dad. You should be honest with her about it, and hopefully your new husband is willing to fill that need. My brother was in the same situation with his wife, she had a daughter that the father hated paying child support and wanted to give up his rights as a father....which he did. My brother went and adopted her.....we all cried when she said to him, "Can I call you Dad now?" I hope everything works out because your daughter "deserves" a "real" daddy, related or not.
2006-12-31 08:28:42 · answer #4 · answered by Go Away 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If the jerk doesn't want to be in your child's life don't force the issue. Don't close the door either because if things change in the future and he wants a relationship with her you don't want to be seen as standing in the way of that. You can't make him be emotionally responsible for the child he created but by all means hold him financially responsible.
I would also check into whether terminating his rights alleviates his financial responsibility. If his is still responsible financially let the jerk do whatever he wants.
Good luck to you and your family
2006-12-31 08:34:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think its wrong at all if its something you both agree is best and she deserves a father that actually wants to call her his and wants to be there for her always, wants to love her and take care of her. She deserves the best and obviously he isnt best for her because he doesnt even want to claim her, that hurts any child once they realize whats going on, its emotionally damaging to not be wanted by your parent. You're doing the right then by cutting him out of her life, itll be best for her and you in the long run. Plus once he gives up rights to her ur current husband can adopt her and she'll be rightfully his. Good luck!
2006-12-31 08:27:13 · answer #6 · answered by JMan 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Can you just give up your rights and then not pay child support? That is scary!! I would fight if you can...you never know what the future holds and money here and there can still make your daughters life better...put it away for her college!!
2006-12-31 08:26:24 · answer #7 · answered by luv2bme 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should have a talk with him, and see why he doesn't want your daughter in his life. If things are not going well, don't give him the satisfaction, make him pay support. Plus, if he wants to give up his rights, then let him take you to court
2006-12-31 08:25:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was your daughter...years ago. My "dad" (aka legally step dad) has raised me since i was little. My real dad...i barely know..I'm lucky if I hear from him in a years time. I regret...ever...him being in my life. He gave us up (my brother and I) for his job at sea..he was given the chance and he choose his work. He makes no effort to know us or to keep in contact...he is jus a burden on my life. I feel uncomfortable around him..and my "so called" grandparents. I feel like i have to pretend being nice to them and when he says he loves me i have a hard time saying "i love u too"...i just nodd or say "i know". Does he really? No...how can he? He doesn't know me?
I'm 21 now..my brother just graduated from HS...and we received a letter in the mail stating he doesn want to help support us now (right with college...wonderful)...
To this day..i still wish my dad..who raised me..could have adopted me. I hate carrying this biological name.
Based on experience...i think she is better off having one father to love and dealing with. If he doesnt want to take the effort...it is better for her to not to have to deal with the pain and confusion. but...lot of ppl want/need the money. I dunno..which is more important to you?
2006-12-31 08:33:52 · answer #9 · answered by * Kittles * 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey make your exhusband pay im sorry but that is his responsibility,dont let the loser out of it that easy . any one who can give up right to their child deserves to keep paying. im telling you dont let him off like that . Hes an *** and make him pay put the money into an account and give it to your daughter when she turns 21 as long as she gos to college that is. so im saying dont short change your daughter so he can get a free ride ....... MAKE HIM PAY
2006-12-31 08:27:19 · answer #10 · answered by tom d 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋