Well, I dont think much of myself, but deep down I guess I know Im a good person, heck people tell me so all the time. Im trying real hard to change my life, new clothes, makeup, work, gym, everything.
But, some of these girls I see with a lot of confidence come off as conceited or bi*chy.
How, do I gain self esteem without coming off as that?
2006-12-31 08:01:42 · 5 answers · asked by confusedbrowngirl 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
i think a great way to build self-esteem/self-worth is to set a goal for yourself and accomplish it...self-esteem is not built or based on 'other' people nor their opinion of you, thus the word SELF.
staying true to yourself is the foundation, don't change something to fit in, try things & discover what YOU like, and go with it.
it is painful & difficult to judge your 'insides' against another's 'outsides'...these conceited &/or bi*chy girls you mentioned, you don't know what is going on with them on the inside...
as far as "coming off conceited", it is none of your business what others think of you, the only thing that matters is what you think of yourself...most people are intimidated by others that are successful and accomplish what they set out to do...
when a person speaks of their successes or accomplishments it isn't necessarily being conceited
be inspired by others to try new things rather than judge them for doing well and telling you about it...
2006-12-31 08:31:48 · answer #1 · answered by kimmie5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very difficult. Only a few women are both beautiful and nice people.
It's that fine line between confidence and arrogance. Probably the key is THINK - THEN ACT.
Of course, at all times, be true to yourself. what people - real people - are interested in at the end of the day is not the hair or make up, but the person underneath,
2006-12-31 08:05:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Self esteem can be gained quite easily if you hang out with the right people. Who are they? People who like to be around you. People who you can get along with well. You don't have to be popular. You don't have to put down others to build up your own self esteem. Don't strive to be the most popular person or one of them. Just always be kind to others and respect them. Hopefully they will respect you back. If not then just don't hang around them anymore or talk them into changing although that isn't likely to work. With confidence, hang out with people you have confidence around, don't try to build confidence around people you don't have it with because that is a risk. You have the chance of gaining big or falling bad. Hope I have helped. Good luck.
2006-12-31 08:06:59 · answer #3 · answered by Dido 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know you so it is hard to give to real personal advice. But some general things you can do is one that you mention of being healthier by working out. clothes that fit well is a plus. you also mention that you are a good person never change that just improve it. try to do things that you would not ordinarily do ( as long as it is positive.) praise is good but don't look for it. find your strengths. and never loose the true you.
please update us with your progress
continue to be BEAUTIFUL
2006-12-31 08:15:43 · answer #4 · answered by Vivimos en los Ultimos Dias 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Patience
Perserverance
Honesty (with yourself)
2006-12-31 08:05:21 · answer #5 · answered by chunks of flesh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋