I have been sick for more than a week. My friends have been more concerned over me going out with them and partying over my well-being. They do not call to ask how I am doing or if I need anything. They just text to find out if I am going to the bar or the NYE party..... I have dropped so much without question to be there for them.....I understand different people have different expectations. However, I have been cooped up for 3 days straight (not contagious) don't you think it would be nice to have them just stop by and hang out for a while? Asking too much??
2006-12-31 08:00:56 · 5 answers · asked by Brownie 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
you're not asking too much. it's terrible when you think no one cares - especially, when you have for them. i'd start questioning how true of friends they are. but, most people are selfish and wrapped up into themselves - and that's probably what's happening right now - it's the holidays - it's party time -- and their minds are in that direction never feeling or realizing what you are going through. they don't mean to be that way, but it's an "an all about ME world" - so, don't take it too personally but i'd really look at them to see if they really are a friend to ME. hope you feel better and Happy New Year.
2006-12-31 08:26:43 · answer #1 · answered by try 2 help 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These sound like acquaintances and not friends. YOU sound like the real friend. And no.. I don't think you're asking too much.
When you're all better, you can seek for more meaningful friendships, but remember to call these peeps when their noses start running, just to be kind.
BTW.. I'll be right over with some chicken soup and prepare to lose the next 3 games of Go Fish!
2006-12-31 08:21:04 · answer #2 · answered by tobiemonterrey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like the crowd you hang out with is filled with people who just aren't a good match for you, although to be fair, it is the holidays and people have an awful lot going on. Have you texted or called your friends and invited them over? Maybe they think you just want to crash by yourself, maybe they don't know you want some company? The next time one of them contacts you, suggest they rent a movie and come hang out with you for a few hours and then see what happens.
2006-12-31 08:44:50 · answer #3 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do your friends know your not contagious? Are any of them coming over to count down the new year with you at your house? Make sure they know you accept company tonight, let them know you'll be up and watching or going to bed early. Get better and work on finding friends who truly care about you. Good Luck =)
2006-12-31 09:26:22 · answer #4 · answered by DB 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU ARE NOT ASKING TOO MUCH!!! you're true friends would be concerned for your health and maybe even offer to help you...they should not be asking you if you are going to a party! they already know that you are sick and not feeling well! to be honest with you, i think they are very selfish...i mean, your expectations are at normal level...everybody feels the same way....so yeah, i know what you're talkin' about....and if i was your friend i would have asked if you were ok...seriously, i'm sorry you were sick...and for your friends, i think they're just selfish and stubborn...
2006-12-31 08:15:11 · answer #5 · answered by 1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋