together somewhere in hollywood, or close to my moms house in CA.
We've been together for 2 years, and when we move in, its going to be 3 years and 7 months. We both very much love each other and have. We've come trough obstacles that tested our relationship, and we always found the way back to each other. I have no desire to leave him, and I know I'm spending the rest of my life with him.
But I just want some advice. Is it a good idea? He has 30,000 saved up, he says thats enough for us to rent an apartment, and settle us in till he can get and job, and I can too.
What do you guys think?
We've thought it over and over and over.
2006-12-31 07:19:08 · 7 answers · asked by Peni 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Yes, he's close to popping the question, and ima be out of high school when this is happening, and Ima be going to beauty school.
2006-12-31 07:29:11 · update #1
I think that it is a good idea. I know from experience (I was kicked out my house at age 17 and forced to live with my boyfriend). It was very hard at first. We fought alot since we were both young and he wanted to hang out with his friends but felt bad leaving me behind since they did not like me. We got through our problems and we are now married. When we moved in together, we were going out for a little over a year. It is now over three years. I think that you guys should give it a try. People have to know if they can live together before they get married. I defintely know that the amount you two have saved up is enough. What I would do if I was you is to both find jobs first in California. I would research the areas that you want to live in more and then set up job interviews. Once you both have jobs, then I would find a house. Renting an apartment is sort of a waste of money. And small houses, townhouses, or condos require a down payment of about what he has saved up. Good luck with the both of you.
2006-12-31 07:26:26 · answer #1 · answered by pumpkinpie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I disagree with the whole 'live together before marriage' thing. You've been "test driving" for 2 years. That should be long enough to know whether it's "built to last" or not.
Hey! I have an idea... how about using a tidbit of that $30,000 for a small wedding?
Get jobs first, then get married.
2006-12-31 15:36:52 · answer #2 · answered by tobiemonterrey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get the jobs lined up first. Then move in together. It's better to have the money as a fall back option if the jobs don't work out. But getting an apartment together then looking for jobs is in my opinion as step in the wrong direction. Who knows how long it will take you two to get jobs that pay well enought to support you both. There will be financial hardship in both your lives if you don't have good jobs. It's good to see people who actully talk with each other in a good relationship. Good luck.
2006-12-31 15:25:34 · answer #3 · answered by Im_tired 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't want to start eating at the $30, 000 saved. Find a job first then make the move. That way both will be contributing. One question, is he close to popping the question? That will help you decide also.
2006-12-31 15:26:08 · answer #4 · answered by narcisscus24 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well from what I have learned in life is, live toghether first before marriage... lol there is nothing wrong with living with someone first to get a feel for how things will be.
2006-12-31 15:25:50 · answer #5 · answered by D and R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO Job...run like the wind!
30 K won;t last but a few days
2006-12-31 15:26:30 · answer #6 · answered by mslorikoch 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well do u want to marry?if so it's just another way for him to delay it or put it off but if ur not planing on getting married any time soon then it's fine
2006-12-31 15:30:21 · answer #7 · answered by Zack M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋