OKay.. My best friend has ...B.O! (body odor) and she is so fun to hang with and all that stuff best buddies do! But, her B.O is pretty strong, how do I tell her...or should I?? Please help me!!
2006-12-31 07:08:38 · 23 answers · asked by temari 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
This isn't as hard as you may think it is. I assume you two are around the age range of 12-16? This is perfectly normal! With changing going on you are going to face hygiene problems, aka..deodorant!
Here's what you can do. You can try talking to her, sit her down and say "I have something to tell you but I don't want to hurt your feelings I am only trying to help!" and you can explain to her the issue. Dont say "you smell really bad" but you can say that maybe it's time to wear it. Also you can get her some body spray with a bow?
Maybe you can try mentioning this to her mom and her mom can give her a talk about being older and hygiene.
Which ever you decided, your her friend and your there to help her with things she doesn't know. Your job is to protect her so you dont witness people hurting her feelings. And jus say that. "I dont want people to hurt your feelings so please dont hate me for telling you but you really need to know".
2006-12-31 07:14:41 · answer #1 · answered by * Kittles * 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YES, you should. If this is your BEST friend, you guys should have the kind of relationship were you can talk about things like that. Since you are best friends , I would assume that she would be willing and open and accepting of what you have to say. Things like this can be a very tough subject to broach with someone but you have to do it gently whatever you do!
Try broaching it when you two are alone in a private setting and just start out: " (friends name) I have something I wanna talk with you about. This is a very hard thing for me to bring up and talk about but you are my best friend , I love you and I want the best for you. I dont want people talking behind your back or saying mean things about you so , I your BEST FRIEND am bringing this to you . Sometime when we are around each other there is a very strong unpleasant odor......"
and take it from there.
** what the people above are failing to realize is this:
1. if it is THAT strong an odor and depending on what TYPE of smell, it may not be that she is NOT using deodorant or bathing (could be glandular)
2. throwing a bunch of perfume and scents on top of it will make it even worse. NOTHING worse than funk and perfume!!!
2006-12-31 15:15:16 · answer #2 · answered by Emotional F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. Ok. That is a hard one. You probably should tell her lightly because bad BO could be a sign of an underlying medical problem. Say something to the effect of you are my best friend and I love you, but I don't want you to take this the wrong way and then tell her without offending her. Sometimes they will take it the wrong way, but it has to be done, because it can affect her socially and if she chooses to get a job later on. Offer your support and love every step of the way. Good luck.
2006-12-31 15:13:47 · answer #3 · answered by c.grinnell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It must be difficult to hear you have B.O. Perhaps you could try buying her a body wash/deodourant set and initiating a conversation about the importance of personal hygiene.
2006-12-31 15:11:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people with BO are not aware they have it. The good news is, unless it's halitosis, she can rid herself of the BO. You should find a way to tell her. Wouldn't you want her to tell you if you had BO? A gift of assorted soaps might backfire as a slap when crafty spoken words will be more affective. I would suggest you tell her alone when she is about to leave to go home. If you tell her while she is visiting and still would stay a while longer she would be self conscience about it the whole time. Remember this proverb "A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in pictures of silver." Meaning, your kind words used in a way to help her would be the gold apples. That you said them in a way as to not offend her would be your picture of silver.
Tell her. She will be glad you did.
2006-12-31 15:18:28 · answer #5 · answered by Average Joe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take her to Bath and Body Works on a shopping trip and pick some stuff out with her. If you have a strong, honest relationship with her, I would just tell her in a nice matter.
2006-12-31 15:11:26 · answer #6 · answered by Angela F 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not directly say anyting to her, but maybe fix her a bath basket or even invite her to go to a day spa and hang out, give her a nice perfume she would enjoy. Be kinda sweet about the whole thing maybe she doesn't know she has a b o problem.
2006-12-31 15:11:29 · answer #7 · answered by blueigurl34 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is your best friend for a really long time believe me it will be difficult. Some might disagree with me but I think you shouldn't tell her directly. Just let her kind of notice but not in a rude and ignorant way. Its very tough especially is its your best friend. But somehow you have to let her in on it if she doesnt already realize it!
2006-12-31 15:12:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you tell her, that's what friends are for. You don't want someone else to tell her in a nasty way, do you ??
You are going to tell her in a very gentle manner.W hen the time seems right, tell her just like you would want someone to approach and tell you. OK. You are going to do just fine.
~~~Have a Sweet Smelling New Year & Be Happy~~~
2006-12-31 15:21:12 · answer #9 · answered by Jill ❤'s U.S.A 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u should let her know that her body odor is strong, sometimes they dont know , just let her know u have something to tell her and u dont want her to be offended by it ,dont blurt it out,she will feel bad and make sure u guys are alone she will get mad u telling her this in front of someone,good luck
2006-12-31 16:02:09 · answer #10 · answered by leecy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋