In october had disagreement with my partner, no sex, Did other thing to make things worst in last couple of days. Now we are to the point that we love each other but no in love with each other. Other problems are on both of our minds and that our problem in put aside. How long do I wait to see what happens ( if I push for answers I get the cold shoulder) or should I just pack a get a new start?
2006-12-31 07:06:28 · 6 answers · asked by tim k 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Had a sit down the other night, We let out a lot of thing that made the problem and that we are try to change the way we did things. We have been toghter for 10 years and married for 8 we both fought for alot and we hope not to lose what we have. There is no emotion between us at this time due to the other problems that we are dealing with. I feel that once the other problem get solved ( court for custody of 13 year old from 1st marriage) we can focus on us. I just don't want to hurt anymore :(
2006-12-31 07:22:10 · update #1
Sit down and talk with your partner. It's the only way you can make things work.
2006-12-31 07:10:04 · answer #1 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Tim, sounds like you're moving in the right direction. Most marital problems come from lack of communication. Remember, nobody is a mind reader. Neither of you can really know what the other is thinking without asking. So ask. And tell. If you are bothered, tell her why...and ask her to do the same. Also, remember, neither of you is out to hurt the other...each of you ALWAYS does the best he/she can under the circumstances (as the doer understands the circumstances to be at the time he/she acts/does).Every "problem" has a solution. The partners have to work to find it but if they want to maintain the relationship, they will find the solution. Keep talking and, if necessary, seek counseling.
2006-12-31 07:43:25 · answer #2 · answered by judgebill 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You do NOT wait it out. Obviously it's an item of concern that's upsetting your life. Either you both get together and both make compromise to resolve whatever the issue/s is/are......OR you both walk away peacefully. Life is much too short to waste it in confrontation, turmoil, and disruption of your daily lives.
2006-12-31 07:16:56 · answer #3 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try telling her that you need to decide what you're both going to do. If she doesn't respond like a mature adult, then let her know you're not going to keep on living like this. Then leave.
2006-12-31 07:14:22 · answer #4 · answered by mamabear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
since you are the one who sought for help here, may i suggest you go and tryto talkto your partner...swallow the pride if it means bringing back the spark in your relationship....i know for sure you miss that...before you pack and get a new start, ask yourself first "have i done every possible thing to win my love back?" if you said yes, then go...
2006-12-31 07:11:58 · answer #5 · answered by enigma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not communicating, you're not resolving your problems Personally I'd try marriage guidance who will help you either to resolve your problems, or to seperate amicably.
2006-12-31 07:09:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋