How come some ex-spouses remain in communication with one another following divorce and others do not?

Answer 1

It really depends on the circumstances of the split. If it is an amicable split where both think it is for the best, then they can remain civil, even friends. What causes people to be incapable of dealing with the ex is all about emotions. When emotions run high, when someone is hurt, it is hard to deal with the other person. If there is no real emotion or hurt on either side, it is much easier to be on good terms.

Answer 2

Not every divorce is bitter and nasty. Some people who divorce don’t actually hate each other, they just realize that the marriage was a mistake or isn’t working for whatever reason. And, of course, if they have kids, they have to remain in contact and hopefully they’re mature enough to be civil to each other.

Other divorces are bitter and nasty, and in that situation, and if there are no kids, the couple doesn’t (and shouldn’t) remain in contact.

Answer 3

If they have kids then they need to communicate as parents. If there are no kids then they can each go their separate ways.
I kicked my ex husband to the curb when I found out he was cheating and never looked back. So it depends on the circumstances of the split. if there was cheating,lying issues then why would you want to speak with the person again. If it was a mutual amicable decision.. they were "too you" or something like that..then a friendship can be sustained SOMETIMES.

Answer 4

A lot of times it will depend on the reason the marriage ended. If it was an ugly breakup then a lot of times people won't stay in touch unless they have to (due to children, for example).

Other people simply find they are not a good romantic match, but harbor no ill will toward each other and can and do remain good friends.

Answer 5

Some are adults and can part on civil terms and be friends. Some retain their anger indefinitely and are not grown up enough to let it go and move on with their life. It all depends on their self esteem and how mature they are. If people had good communication when they were married and parted on friendly terms in good agreement, they will most likely continue to be friends. If, however, the divorce was not handled well and was emotional, odds are they will not be friends.

Answer 6

Sometimes it depends upon rather there are children involved or not. Also, some people get along well enough to communicate with each other and be friends but just can't live together in a responsible relationship.

Answer 7

they are probably the ones that needed you more as a friend then a spouse or they really don't want to lose you fully so they stay in communication with you . which i think is cool because unless they beat you physically or mentally they really can't be to bad to keep around as a friend heck you did marry them. so i believe they love having you around.

Answer 8

Having kids will connect you to that ex for most of your life. Also, sometimes connections to friends and in-laws happen that continue after a divorce.

Answer 9

if the marriage ended amicably and there are children involved, people often times stay in touch, if the marriage ended and betrayal and heartache was involved, they would be the last person one would ever want to ever see again. usually due to the hurt that hasn't been resolved.

Answer 10

you probably did no longer something incorrect. i might have completed the very comparable subject and that i think of you dealt with it large. Like a woman might do! no longer some psycho ignorant little woman like the only babbling interior the back floor. merely bear in mind, he has to stay with that little woman. It became probable effective to speak to you (a woman) for a transformation. i think of you dealt with it large.